"I am so frustrated....is there any way to fix this? Thanks"

Probably only by stripping and re-finishing the entire surface.

Even if you try and use the exact same materials for the repair, it is often very hard to get a perfect match.

The previous finish has penetrated into the wood at least some and altered how it will take stain and finish.

Thanks

I was thinking of dabbing on a bit of acrylic craft paint to try and disguise it a bit, would that be OK to do on top of fresh dried stain?

baileyandbella ... It will look like you tried to cover up a bad stain repair with paint.

Seriously, you will have to sand the whole top down past the damage caused by the degreaser, then re-stain and apply the finish. Or you have to sand off all the finish and stain the whole top and apply a couple of extra coats to the damaged area to make it the same color as the rest.

Oil-based materials are more durable than the waterbased ones, for kitchen use.

What chemicals are in the degreaser? You may have to "condition" the whole surface with the same or similar solvent. Neither stain nor finish will react with the wood if certain residues are on one part and not on the rest of the piece.
Richard