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Timing of reception after the destination wedding...

Posted by jadiesmom (My Page) on
Fri, Sep 14, 07 at 11:15 most of you know we are doing a local reception after the destination wedding. I know that "SOME" of you don't even like the idea of destination weddings anyway, but the ball is rolling and we are moving ahead. We are having a local reception here after the wedding. I want to get the reception done as soon as we get back just to get the wedding stuff done and over with.

My fiance wants to wait until summer. I think waiting till summer will only drag it out and will seem like we are fishing for a gift or something after the fact.

His arguement is based on the date. We are getting married November 8th and I want the reception to be the Saturday after we get back. He thinks it is too close to the holidays and is too much to do at once. What do you guys think?

I KNOW - people are busy with holiday stuff, but it is right before the season gets underway, so to me, the sooner the better. I want to do it while everyone is still in "wedding mode" and not put it off. I just think it would be tacky to wait so long after the fact to have a reception.

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RE: Timing of reception after the destination wedding...

the rest of us only care so much about your wedding.

I mean, we're happy for you and all, but your wedding isn't THAT big a deal to us. We can't stay excited about it for months and months. We aren't going to worship at the altar of someone else's wedding.

We can stay excited for a few weeks, while your marriage is still pretty new. But if we've seen very much of you in the meantime, why are we suddenly celebrating w/ a party now?

I think you are right about people being in "wedding mode." Having a party in the summer to celebrate your wedding SIX MONTHS AGO OR MORE! would be total anticlimax.

I'd be thinking, "Enough already!"

I say, the reception should be within a month or the wedding itself. Maybe 6 weeks, at the MOST. If you're going to put it off for much longer, then just don't bother.

In fact, I think it's important to have the reception BEFORE people have sent you Christmas cards as a married couple, and before you've sent them out in your new married status.

Stick to your guns.

RE: Timing of reception after the destination wedding...

I also vote for having the reception soon after the wedding. If you have it the weekend after the wedding, that would be the 16-17-18th, which would be before Thanksgiving and the start of any holiday plans for most people.

Another option, which is popular in my area, would be to have it the Saturday after Thanksgiving. That way, if you have out of town relatives or friends who might be visiting in your community for Thanksgiving, they get to attend your reception as well. I agree that waiting for 6 or more months is too long into the future for a wedding reception.

RE: Timing of reception after the destination wedding...

Add me to the list of sooner rather then later. I would think the summer season would be even more busy then before the holidays get started. During the summer people go on vacation, go to summer weddings, etc. Less people would be available to attend your party because of prior commitments. You are correct to want the reception in November. NancyLouise

RE: Timing of reception after the destination wedding...

Thanks Ladies...I am just about loaded up with reception ammo for the reception debate with him.

My sister teases me because I make plans to make plans! Thanks for hanging in with me! (You too Tally Sue) :)

RE: Timing of reception after the destination wedding...

Another vote for soon. I think even 6 weeks is pushing it. If he wants to wait several months, then wait a year and have a first anniversary party instead.

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