Hello! I'm curious, especially since I've never heard of these games. What do they involve? I guess the T-Shirt is hidden someplace, but what would the prize be? It sounds like these games would be fun for people who like to play charades, Scattergories, that type of thing. Happy gardening! Borealis

Hi dana gardener - I am wondering, what do you want to do? Do you really want to go or do you feel that it is an obligation? Even if it is an obligation it doesn't matter as long as you strongly desire to be there for someone you Love and want to support and share in the person's special day. This is what counts. However, if you cannot afford this trip with all the expenses involved, even if you want to be there, then I would express that in a note to the Bride with a gift that you can afford. No one should feel "forced" to attend when it will be so costly to do so. You may feel bad for not going if you truly desire to share in this Blessed event but you should also feel free and not guilty if you decide not to go because of the financial, emotional, etc. stress that it will cause you. No matter what decision you make it is your right to do so whether you go or not.

I use to but due to other obligations in the last few years I haven't been able to.My last projects were painting on gourd birdhouses.I really love doing those and plan to take some gourds back to NM to paint.I do landscapes,old barns,florals and butterflies in canvas in oils and also watercolors.I have also done all kinds of craft painting.I have loved to draw since I was a child and enjoy painting a lot.

If I'm understanding you correctly, it's not so much about the title as it is about the idea that there is one special person who is sort of responsible for all the things that an MOH would normally be responsible for, both at the wedding and in the days leading up to it. I think you have some options here. You can assign one of your other bridesmaids to step in and take those duties. You can split those duties among all your other bridesmaids. You can ask a family member who is close but not already in the wedding to take those duties. You can do any of the above without actually calling someone "maid of honor". If you're worried about having an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, I think that your friend would understand and not feel bad that you asked another person to stand up for you. These days, though, anything goes. I've seen weddings with lopsided attendants and it was just fine. Unless you're printing a program (I guess that's almost the norm these days?) no one will even know if you have a MOH or not, they'll just see the attendants standing up there. Even if you do have a program and just name your absent friend as MOH, again, no big deal. The thing is, there just aren't any "rules" about these things. If you want to have two or more or no MOHs, who's going to tell you not to? It's all about what makes you comfortable as long as those attendants are all on board.