Monetary wedding gift
TerriJM
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Comments (19)Personally I like giving a gift that I know they'd like - if they registered then I search the registry for a gift that's a "one of" - like a Waterford pitcher or an appliance. My favorite is giving a KitchenAid mixer because I know how much I love mine. The only time I buy place settings of china is when it's someone I barely know and I'm not personally invested in whether they remember what I gave. As for cash - this is always a tough answer because the 'usual' amount varies so much depending on region and economic abilities of the giver. After several years of no weddings we recently had several and I am so thankful to my girlfriends who answered this same question honestly. They also said $100 a person. I think we're in the same area - southeast PA and for a family member or close friend's child we usually give $200 even if we don't attend. One of my kids had a formal wedding last fall in Kennett Square and the most of the cash gifts they received were in the $150 to $200 range. I hope this helps. Good luck....See MoreWedding - do we give a gift?
Comments (38)My own parents hosted my "big white wedding", and gave DH & I a check to purchase bedroom furniture of our choice. MIL & FIL gave us a honeymoon for a wedding gift. This was 35 yrs ago, perhaps things are now done differently? Despite that your DH is paying for his DD's wedding (assuming that it was his offer/agreement), I think that something thoughtful i.e., nice gift from you both is appropriate. The gift need not be over the top, just a nice family piece of silver or crystal, or alternatively, visit an antique shop and find something unique if you wish to give a small token-type gift. Thinking that a meaningful gift will not only acknowledge the marriage (big deal to the couple), but will go a long way toward keeping a good relationship with your SD. If you don't, I think the bride & groom's feelings may be hurt, as a lack of any gift other than hosting the wedding seems a little cold... IIWM, I would find something meaningful to give, even if you have to give some sentimental family piece. It's the symbolism, not the amount of $ spent that matters most. Be a good stepmother and take it upon yourself to suggest and then choose something that both you and your DH feel reflect your feelings toward your DH's daughter and her marriage. If money is tight with paying for the wedding reception, it isn't very difficult to find something that the bride will keep for years with a remembrance of your graciousness in acknowledging this milestone in her life. Please take the ex-wife out of the equation, since I am getting the feeling that the gift idea by your SD's DM, may have caused your initial reaction of not giving a gift other than the actual wedding. Congratulations on the marraige of your SD, but do remember that this is your DH's daughter, and your actions at this time will definitely speak volumes....See MoreFavorite wedding gift? Worst wedding gift?
Comments (66)We got two gifts in total. A vacuum cleaner and a pressure cooker. Both most welcome and the pc is still in use. No ’shower’ and only 8 wedding guests. Just parents, siblings and their spouses. DD got married during covid with the permitted 6 guests but a year later we had a party with 100 guests. They requested no gifts, just donations to two charities. The Italian side of the family found this diffcult to grasp and gave a lot of knickknacks they neither want nor need....See MoreHow much for wedding gift?
Comments (30)debi's post reminded me of something I forgot to put in my earlier post: It seems like a lot of couples today are under the impression that getting married entitles them to use everybody they've ever met to grab all the loot they can. If you're invited to a shower, you should be invited to the wedding, & if you haven't been invited to the wedding & to the reception, you aren't expected to provide a gift. If you're invited to the wedding but not the reception (ie, they don't have to feed you), my free advice is to send them a card & stay home. Some couples have found a new way to separate the A List & the B List: they have 2 receptions, 1 with champagne & a sit-down dinner & 1 with punch & cookies. Unfortunately, the B List guests don't find out about it until the actual event... People who put no reasonably or modestly priced items on their registries are putting their guests in an uncomfortable bind, & I always think it isn't accidental; they're using people & they know what they're doing.. This also applies to people who have many different registries & those who register for, say, 4 vacuum cleaners & 3 different food processors & a $300 toaster-people who do this are going to return most or all of their gifts for cash. Nobody has to buy their gift off a registry, or even any gift at all; do what your heart & your budget tell you....See Moresplinter
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