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Idyll Book Club-The Invisible Garden
Comments (86)Greetings All! Im so glad you all enjoyed reading this book together, a reading group of just regular non-gardening people may have not been able to identify so well with Dorothys triumphs and failures in the garden. Weve all been there one way or another. Martie, you bring up an interesting point on the money issue. I know many gardeners here who have seemingly no budgetary constraints, and can basically do whatever they wish, whenever they wish..since my garden is small I have the ability to budget for it , but only so far. I often dream up very grandiose plans I would execute if I had the funds. Instead I modify these plans to fit in with my budget. I was always a little envious of friends I knew as a child who had "playhouses". My vision of the perfect Little House now involves a porch-like Dorothys, windows, and a small greenhouse attached. My initial reaction to the Fred chapter was a bit different from some of you---I found Norah to be a wholly unsympathetic character- self-absorbed and unfriendly. I would never let one of my children talk me into planting something in the wrong location , and in any case I think they would defer to my experience and not insist on a bad plant decision. I guess Dorothy did not want to rock the boat. Having said that, Dorothy wrote the Fred chapter and must know how unflattering it was to Norah. Is this why you found it manipulative Woody ? One thing that I often lost sight of while reading is the fact that this garden was for the most part, a vacation home . This was not their primary residence , and this really makes Dorothy something of a part-time gardener. Could you ever envision yourself as apart-time gardener? Not me. If I had two houses, Id have two gardens. Maryglad you posted ! And you story of your Grandfather was wonderful, thanks for sharing it with us. As we continue to discuss this book I am pondering what we might like to read next. I have a couple of ideas, but am wondering if any of you would like to put forth a suggestion ? I am still favoring the idea of not starting our new book till after Christmas-I will have company and Im sure many of you will too-it gets pretty hectic and want this to be a leisurely read, not a stressful one . Be back tomorrow ! Kathy in Napa...See More''invisible'' chores
Comments (35)I need to learn to delegate. The kids are big enough to do more than I ask of them now. And DH needs to do more on week nights, cleaning up after dinner, etc. The kitchen really is invisible to him. Dirty dishes could be stacked to the ceiling with not a clean glass in the cabinet, and it would not occur to him to do a thing about it. Even if he can see that I'm busy with laundry, helping kids with homework, and cleaning a bathroom all at the same time. Drives me nuts. I do ask him to clean up the dishes, put away leftovers... he acts like he doesn't know how. "I don't know where you want the leftovers." Well, where would you look if you were hungry and looking for leftovers to eat? In a bowl in the frig! Doesn't matter how many times I ask, or how many conversations we have about how it makes me feel that I handled other tasks and kid issues to get them all to bed while he watched TV... and point out that he can see the TV from the kitchen sink... or that I'd have energy for (ahem) other things if I didn't have to do the dishes... Nothing changes. It's more exhausting to bring it up again than to just clean it up myself. We used to go round and round about putting laundry away. He must have thought fairies were going to come put folded clothes in his drawer and move hanging clothes from the laundry room to his closet. He'd get annoyed that he had to go to the laundry room to get his clothes b/c they weren't put away. I would point out to him that when he went to the laundry for *a* shirt, he should maybe bring them *all* so he doesn't have to do it again tomorrow!!! Hello!!! If it really mattered to you, you'd put them away. Sometimes I think what really matters to him is that I take care of him. I have four kids, not five. I put a stack of his clothes on his side of the bathroom counter, so he had to move them to shave, thinking he'd get the point. He MOVED them to my side. I put them back. That went on for several days until he just wore the clothes from that stack. Now I just don't care what the problem is. I've made my point enough times that while he doesn't do it himself, he doesn't expect me to do it for him. He just gets over the fact that it's not done. He is not stupid, really is quite smart about his job and technology and all things wired. I see him handle complicated issues for work and sort out disgruntled customer issues with supreme tact and competency. So I don't understand the lack of common sense when it comes to dishes and clothes. And he has no idea what time the kids need to be at school or what they eat for lunch or when a project is due. Whew. I needed to get that out. ;o) In the end, it does take both of us to get the jobs done. I do not mow, never in 16 years. I do only a small part of the bills/banking. We have to divide kid activities b/c we often have to have different kids in different places at the same time. He completely keeps track of #1 and #2's sport schedule, I keep track of #3 and #4, and we synchronize. Especially with the older ones, whose homework is harder, we divide that; he's the math go-to-person and I'm the reading/language/writing go-to. He keeps our computers running and updated and fixes anything I need. I even got him to take the volunteer job of webmaster for the PTA. (They have no idea the negotiating that took.) With me starting to work more, things are shifting. We're just have growing pains to get there. Now that I got that venting out, it's really not so bad. Some days he works harder, some days I work harder, but a household of growing kids is not a one person job, it would not get done if we weren't both doing a lot of invisible jobs....See MoreCan you suggest a low voc/odor caulk for around hvac vents?
Comments (3)Yeah, I'm not sure why it's listed as low voc. Maybe VOCs are different than cancer, birth defect, and dizziness causing fumes. I'm sure some of these warnings concern eating the stuff, but there are some very clear inhalation warnings on the tube that I have not seen on all latex caulks. Maybe it is low VOC after it dries? Anyway, the reason I want to do this is that the gap between the drywall and vent box leads directly to the very cold, dusty attic. When air rushes out of the vent it creates somewhat of a Bernoulli or Venturi effect and causes a suction of air from the gap. I'd like to seal all gaps leading to the attic. I might even install air-tight recessed light cans, but the caulking is the first easy step....See MoreHelp! stepsparent of adult child
Comments (65)Yeah, I guess I was doing the respecting for my husband, but partially because I m a mom too, and they are kids, with not the best of judgement for their ages, altho 5 years have passed and they should be wising up by now....I actually have not spoken to them since the wedding fiasco, where the 24 yr old wanted dad to pay half costs, he wont call anymore because we didnt pay...Thr 17 year old hasnt been here either since April, but he has a weekend job, and they live about an hour away, but dad calls him weekly and wants to set up a visit...But, he is hinting around for dad to buy him a car.The kid earns money and has a ton of money in the bank(dad does his taxes, so thats a fact)But kids mother told him he has NO money in the bank, and she controls it...So another case of dad the bad guy, wont pay for my brothers wedding, wont buy me a car..Dad works hard, I work, ex has never had a job in her life.Cries, cries cries, to the kids, get money off them..I wonder what will happen when the 17 yr old is emancipated and no money will be coming in to her, she is 54 years old....We cant be responsible for supporting her forever..Sigh..Seems so far away to be rid of her ...Sorry so long of a whine......Advice to keep sanity????...See Moreiloveexercise
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