Adult SKs - How long do we have to store their stuff? WWYD
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How do you store stuffed toys long term?
Comments (19)I'll be selling any leftover stuffed toys at an upcoming tag sale late September/early October (minus the Steiff frog from the '50's, which really takes up no space whatsoever -- 15 years or so ago it was worth at least $100 on eBay). Anything else I'm still fond of (the leopard is the only one that comes to mind) I'll photograph first. Anything that remains after that will be donated. I am finally really purging! (I hope!) - no, I don't have that many stuffed animals left -- the leopard, the frog, a lion, two bunnies and two cats. Oh, and a tiny musical elephant. Of course it is different if you are dealing with a toddler's toys. Save a couple aside that she (or he) really likes and seems to talk to, even if she's doing it much less frequently now. My brother was attached to a stuffed bull well into 8th grade. Someone suggested vacuum sealing the stuffed animals -- if the plush is in good condition, I think this would flatten down and ruin the plush, if saving the stuffed critters is of interest to you. (Then,, of course, they might be easier to get rid of further down the road, if they are perma-smashed!!)...See Morehow long do we have to take the high road?
Comments (12)In her twisted mind there is nothing wrong with having them eat before they get to her house... And I don't have a problem packing them food to bring ... guess my point is she doesn't even appreciate it .. she demands/expects it. Its not the kids fault I have never blamed them it just sucks that we have to answer the questions. The money isn't that big of a deal its more a point because that is all she cares about is money if she had to pay $25.00 a week it would get under her skin. Our response to most of the questions is ... She's at work ask her when you see her. And when the kids ask about money we say do you have everything you "need" answer __ but I "want" when you have a job you can get what you want until then you get what you "need" but I "want" then "earn it". The bus stop is 3 houses away ... I check the mail at the same time the bus is coming so not to look like i am checking to see if she is there, but I am there if she isn't She doesn't sse anything wrong in what she does. I send notes back and forth with the kids and a calendar so she can write down the days and times she will pick them up. Its our communication journal. She called at 930 last night to talk to the kids (bedtime is 830) and to ask if she can change days and have it done by court order so she can be released from work ... if its a court order they can't schedule me on those days .. we were in court 2 weeks ago!! why didn't you ask then so now she got her reduction in child support on the grounds she would take the children more... now she wants to change visitation so she sees them less... I have told hubby i feel like a daycare worker ... I have the kids from 8 am to 5pm until a parent comes home or picks them up and they get dropped back off at 8 am. can it be put in court orders who ever has them at 9 12 and 6 must feed them breakfast lunch or dinner??...See MoreStep Parents - what rights do we really have???? LONG
Comments (9)There are those who would say that step-parents DON'T have any rights when it comes to the stepkids....not even a right to an OPINION about what should happen with them. They feel that EVERYTHING that concerns the stepkids should be handled by the bio-parents. Another forum I used to belong to was much this way...so I left! But really, there is a pretty big contingent of folks out there who would agree that steps have ZERO rights when it comes to their stepkids. They call step-parents "legal strangers" or something like that...which really never made any sense to me. However, my opinion is that you DO have some rights. You have the right to be respected, for your home/belongings to be treated appropriately, for cooperation (or at least attempted understanding) from your spouse. Now, you have the CHOICE to enforce these things with an iron fist, or you can try to get SS to come to these realizations on his own, or with your help a little more gently. That can make all the difference. Get him excited about a hike. Get some maps, plan the trail. Get a book that shows the local wildlife you might see. Let him pick out the ingredients for some homemade granola, and let him help you make it. Get him a cheap compass for the trip (cheap at Eddie Bauer!). It'll start to become his idea. That's the trick. Not only for stepkids, but for all kids. I find myself trying to come up with creative ways to get things that I want done ALL the time, with both bio and stepkids. Also, help him get excited about the baby. My stepkids were a little "removed" from the pregnancy, also because of the long distance. But when they were here, they went to ultrasounds with us, and helped pick out stuff for the room. They poured over baby name books with me. They were 10 and 13 at the time. They now both have VERY close relationships with their baby sister (who is now 5). None of our kids (his, mine & ours) call each-other "1/2" or "step"...they are just brothers & sisters. So it is do-able, but it takes some work. If you handle this sticky situation the right way, you will be the "cool bonus Mom", instead of the "evil step monster". I have a fantastic relationship with my stepkids. We've had a few little bumps in the road, but nothing we couldn't work through....See MoreMaking do, wwyd? (long,sorry)
Comments (20)We have had the same problems in our 1908 house as far as the dishwasher goes. We cannot fit one in because our counters are not tall enough, which is common in old houses, especially when there are multiple layers of flooring. So for the last 6 years, we have not had a dishwasher and I don't really miss it. We are currently planning out our new kitchen. I am keeping all of the original flat-panel, inset cabinets - the uppers are 50" tall- I love them. We probably will put in a dishwasher because my husband wants one. After a year of planning the new kitchen, I finally have a plan that meets all of my needs and most of my desires, without removing any of the original features of the house. I am so glad that I went through the process of living in the house and using the kitchen as is. Now I really know what needs to be done, and how to manage it. Your plan sounds like a good one. It will give you time to live in the house and come up with a long term solution to the kitchen issues. Diane...See Morecatlettuce
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