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Am I alone in feeling this?

caitb
13 years ago

I am a divorced mother of two girls, I get child support for them. I am dating a man who is divorced and also has two children. He and I are serious about each other and talking about marriage. I have decided and talked to him about it that once he marries me I will no longer get child support from my ex. I just can't reason it out in my head. When my ex and I were married we had no additional income, it was just us. I think it's unfair to be able to be a three income household. If my ex gets remarried and has more children (which if it is what he wants I hope he gets) I couldn't feel good about him basically supporting two families. I know they are his kids and I will never deny him them, they will still see him, talk to him, nothing will change. I was a stay at home mom and if him paying me caused his new wife the ability to stay home it just seems selfish. I think if I'm marrying someone then he knows I have kids and that we're a package deal. Am I alone in this?

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