SD got a MySpace page when she turned 14. She never told DH, even when BM (supposedly) told her to tell him. I'm not sure how DH found out, but on the trip for the wedding, SD's boyfriend (at the time), whom had never met me or DH, asked to be my friend on MySpace. I RARELY get on there so I was shocked when I got the e-mail notification. How would he have known me (we weren't married so I had my previous name still) unless SD told him who I was? I wasn't friends with her on MySpace and neither was DH. I asked DH what to do and he said to ignore it and don't worry about it. Strange, huh?

A year or so ago DH became friends with his son and DIL on Facebook. It's been really great for him to keep up with his grandkids.

After we got back from son's wedding, DH suggested I ask them to be friends. I told him no. That I was not going to befriend either of his kids on any social networking site unless they asked first. I want them to decide on what they want their relationship with me to be, and I don't want to force myself on them.

SD got a Facebook page about a month ago, and last week asked me to be her friend. I accepted, of course, but was totally encouraged that SHE chose to include me.

So, anyway, thank God for small steps!

And SD was sad about her grandpa dying, but she wasn't upset, which is understandable the way BM has alienated her from DH and his family. If she would've gone to her brother's wedding, she would've gotten to see her GP before he died. THAT should be on BM for not pressing SD to go. So now SD didn't go to either her brother's wedding or GP's funeral. When will be the next time she will see her GM? When SHE dies?

I know that YSD22 is a party girl and posts about it on FB. I remember once she told dad stories how she studied the whole night and now is tired and needs to sleep (3 hours during the day). Both I and SO were clueless.

OSD29 was visiting from out of town and was clearly unhappy with YSD and i commented that poor YSD is just tired from studying. OSD rolled her eyes, and told me that she is lucky dad does nto have FB account because YSD posts regurarly what she does.

She was at a drinking party all night with some guy and was hangover next day, no, she did not study at all. And it was a day before MCAT and she did not do too well.

I never told SO. If i woudl be friends with SDs on FB, I would know what they do and would have to withhold it from SO and it would drive me crazy. I honestly do not want to know what they are up to unelss they directly tell me via personal contact.