stepdaughter is ruining my life!
wittsend01
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Comments (3)you may want to research corm gluten preemergent, or coffee grounds as well. I have read several posts on grass weed control using theese products. I don't grow grass, so I can't really help you with specifics. do a search here for grass and mustard, you may find some help. John...See Moremy stepdaughter is ruining the relationship between me and her fa
Comments (7)>>i feel like i`m to blame for his kids turning out the way they have, i feel like i have taken their father away from them as he keeps telling me constantly ...THEY ARE MY KIDS! His youngest was 19 years old when you met him. How are you to blame for the way his kids have turned out? They were already grown when you met them. He wants YOU to adopt his grandson? Um, why doesn't HE adopt his grandson? >>he shouts at me and makes me feel like i`m to blame, if i don't say anything he thinks i don't careAny relationship will take effort, but for the most part it should be a source of comfort and happiness for both parties. If a relationship causes more stress than happiness, then that relationship shouldn't exist....See MoreAdult stepdaughter pushing my kids away
Comments (3)CM, You and your husband need family Counselling in a big way. You and your husband have not set any boundaries with SD, and she is taking advantage of that. As a result, your family is in Codependent Chaos. I wouldn't want to live there either. A counsellor can help you know why you and your husband do not Believe you are worthy of respect and why you are willing to be doormats For a disrespectful SD and why you are willing to become more and more estranged from your kids. Why are you rewarding bad behavior? Why can't you set boundaries? Why are you willing to be treated with disrespect ? Would you allow SD to be disrespectful to a teacher or minister? Why do you put up with it for yourselves ? Are you afraid to let go of her? This will take some hard work. Good luck....See MoreStepdaughter ruining our marriage
Comments (4)Sounds like your stepdaughter is NOT the problem and she is NOT ruining your relationship. Sounds like your husband is 100% the problem and your resentment is pointed directly at the wrong person. How are things when your stepdaughter isn't around? Does your husband still sleep all day when she isn't there? What is his work schedule? What time is he going to bed at night? My daughter is 10 and unless she is staying up all night, she does not sleep past 9 (at the latest on a weekend). And she is a sleeper. She has a very dark and cool bedroom and she sleeps very deeply. But she gets up before 9. So how much sleep is your sd getting at night? Is she staying up late? I think the way you dealt with the breakfast was fine. This is what I would have done too. Why didn't your sd stay home with her dad instead of having to get up and go with you? Could she stay with dad? Would it be easier on you? I can understand how Dh favoring her drives you insane... But as you said in your post, she didn't ask to be catered to or favored. He is doing a great deservice to her. He is teaching her how to grow up and be a big brat that feels entitled to be catered to by everyone in her life. You should suggest to your husband to read 'Love and Logic' I believe it is actually called 'Parenting with Love and Logic'. If he refuses, then you'll have to decide what you want to do with your future but if he can read this book. He will realize what he is doing to her and what he is also doing to his other children by treating them different. Good luck!...See Moreimamommy
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