--"does everyone else see the connection, court day was on Thursday right? Sm and dad probably unhappy with it, so she calls school on Friday, the very next day, to stir the pot and attempt to be important again even when judge said all decisions are mom's and all communications between parents. She didn't bother calling before. She didn't call on Friday out of concern for DD, she called with different agenda. Isn't it obvious? "-- (PO1) --"I'm sure it bites SM's buns that she has been removed on this recent agreement where communication has to be between Myfam and Dad. "--(me) Yep, I caught that which is partly why I think Myfam was not so off in putting SM on (at least temporarily). I actually think there will be a whole lot of things that SM is angry about and going to crank up the revenge on. She can't be too happy over anything DD and Myfam got in the agreement especially the legal fees and the phone rights. SM is tossing witch fest tirades at school which is really I suppose upsetting to Myfam that the crazed lady making a scene and causing the fuss is DD's SM. i think it was more about getting SM off the school's back then it was about 'making SM happy'. There is nothing to say Myfam can't go over to school first thing Monday and adjust that contact list. She could admend it to list herself, DD's SD, Bio Dad, followed by a good friend or two and stipulate by order which is to be called first. She could then list last SM or she could ...opps, forgot to add her back on. As long as SM thinks she is now on list no real reason to inform her she's been taken off. I understand why Myfam likely did it. Poor lady has been through the mill with stress and worry this week and to get to lunch and hear SM is harassing and demanding the office now. It was a snap decision. If SM is left, it's still as I stated above, meaningless...no control, no authority to confer and or make any decisions...just the lady last on the list who may be contacted LAST if child needs something while at school. Odds of SM ever actually getting called are very low. Even if SM is called to pick DD up because she got sick at school except actually picking her up and taking DD home there's nothing else she can do. Myfam has sole medical decisions, SM can't even drive DD over to a dr (and sounds like even Dad would have to confer with Myfam if he wants to have DD treated). If she goes in, I'd be sure to remind the school that if teacher calls DAD to talk about the unkept issue that teacher does not have permission to speak to SM about the issue. They can leave a message with SM to have Dad call so and so...end of story. SM is nobody, no rights at all ... currently all SM has been granted is last to be notified for unexpected events (sick and needs to be picked up or similar trivial incidents) As far as the move. 99 miles is doable, just not maybe overly convenient for ol' Dad. Dad knew exactly what was in agreement when he signed it. Prior to signing it was the time to agrue 99 miles with Thursday night visitation schedule. Just means Dad has to get around earlier. Schools are usually out around 3pm ish, eh, he'll be home by 5pm ish. Will also have to get up earlier on Monday mornings, no big deal. SM was also present upon Dad's agreement, if picking up child 99 miles away was going to be an issue she certainly has shown no pre-concern. Maybe SM can hire somebody or have a friend pick up her own daughter while she has to go 99 miles to pick up SD. Seriously, the time to squeal is not immediately after signing agreement. Dad/SM can either trouble themselves to come get DD at school or they can cancel visit that evening. No one is denying them their right to scheduled visitation. I think Myfam said they currently rent their home. If she's serious about moving she can always think about breaking her lease and renting a place that 99 miles away until she can find and close on a house. Since orginal CO was stay within 100 miles and this agreement was no new restrictions I don't see a leg to stand on for Dad to object.

Results: We did not get to have her with us Sunday overnight as part of our EOW. We did however get: The right to take her to the dr. or dentist The right to hard copies of the medical/dental/vision cards when BM take health insurance back in Feb (her open enrollment) BM covers ins. as well as 1st $250 in expenses. Everything else split 50/50. BM has to give 24 hours notice before taking her to any dr.'s and provide us with written results. They are now required to comminicate in writing. BM has to reimburse for past 4 months of medical expenses we paid out. We got extra time in the summer. We did not have to pay her legal fees. We still would have liked to only be responsible for dental/vision and not medical as he never agrees on the crazy tests she takes this child for without cause or symptoms. But I guess if we don't agree then we won't pay and she can take us to court and explain to the judge why she's taking a kid with NO symptoms to the allergist and subjecting her to tests and lying to the Dr. about the symptoms.

Ummm plllog, you are still wrong there. My cabinets are all custom (the legal definition is "built to individual specs"). There are pieces of solid wood cabinet face (which is what I think you are calling a filler) which were cut on site to exactly fit the space (because no kitchen is level. Plumb and square if it is in a house sitting on piling). Putting some cute gadget against the wall six feet up would have been stupid, but a half inch"filler" which is actually half inch on one end and 5/8 on the other allows the elaborate door style to open or clear trim. They are basically invisible, but still there and my kitchen and baths are definitely custom. As to the op....isn't your husband involved in this question? Cuz if you took this to court he'd look like an idiot. Contractor law does have definitions for these things and given the wording, your contractor actually did meet the specs provided. Custom dies not mean dove tails It could mean applied with silly putty if you don't specify and the more informed the protestor is supposed to npbe the less wiggle room you have to complain. You signed a contract with assumptions...you know the sarcastic definition of that word right? If you want dove tails you include them in your contract, just like special glides etc. That's custom...built to defined specs. You didn't define enough, you got someone elses idea of what the undefined areas are normally with your defined specs added. Such is life when y ou don't read or define a contract.

How tragic, Stacy. Will you be going to the court, too? I hope that Lee doesn't know where Stacy is. I do imagine that her parental rights will soon be terminated, as well, and I'm so, so sorry for you and the children. But - as you know, Kasey has chosen this lifestyle for herself. I'm not saying she's a bad person. She's made bad decisions and her children have suffered for it. I hope that they're doing as well as can be expected in foster care. I applaud you for your "tough love" when she didn't come home (to your home) the other night. You stood up against enabling her; good for you. Keep us posted; we're pulling for you. Suzieque