I can't take anymore of this sh*t.
DD and I had a nice morning---went to breakfast, and went shopping for new dresses b/c my grandparents are having a formal anniversary party. Fun girls day.
Get home, and 10 mins later the doorbell rings. I actually thought it was SS, and DH home---we had a new doorbell installed that plays a song, and the kiddos love to ring it.
Nope, it's the police. BM has called them and made child abuse allegations against me.
I don't know what happened exactly yet.
DH is off on Thursdays but he usually works half the day. So I guess (hadn't talked to him all morning) he picked his son up around 1-2 pm. Sometimes he brings him back to work w/him for an hour or two, sometimes not.
Anyway, I guess BM called right after DH left w/SS and said that SS has a fingerprint bruise somewhere (I don't even know where?) from me. The cop is saying SS said I did it.
UGHHHHHH.
I am so angry. My DD started sobbing when the policeman was on the porch b/c initially he was pretty stern w/me. He said "I need you to step outside right away, ma'am." I was terrified---KNEW IMMEDIATELY it had something to do with BM, but didn't know what. DD thought I was getting arrested. :( AWFUL.
I talked w/the officer and explained that SS was w/us Tues. night for the circus, but that he hadn't been with us the previous 4 nights, and wasn't with us Wed night either.
I explained thaty I have never touched him, never hurt him, and will stand by that. I explained to him about the custody case, and showed him MY restraining order on BM, and then he became super duper nice. Brought DD outside and assured her I was not in any trouble, etc.
Then he and I had a long chat. I guess the report HE had gotten was that SS was WITH ME and I was abusing him TODAY. That was why he was so forceful earlier b/c he thought I had SS with me.
Anyway, I explained about the residential custody/change of school districts, and he agreed that BM is probably trying to throw a loop in everything, etc.
I have to call the attorney and see what to do. The officer said he was just going to file the report as having done a check on the home, I was there, was calm, etc. DD was there, happy and healthy. No SS in sight and no reason to believe anything other than what I said.
BUT I am sure---BM will go to CPS now.
DH is heading straight to the police dept. where BM made the claim to have them look SS over and document that he has NO BRUISING at all.
YUou know, what really gets me---I am a teacher. I have my teaching certificate and I can get it revoked w/child abuse allegations/investigations. If I do go back to teaching, it is NOT something I want to have to explain.
I am a GOOD MOTHER AND A GOOD STEPMOTHER. I might not love SS like my own child but I am good and fair to him. I have NEVER laid a hand on him or hurt him. I have spanked DD (1-2 swats) a few times in her 7 yrs, but NEVER SS. EVER. I buy him things, cook for him, treat him well, and this is what happens.
I am sick of SS's lies. Yes, yes, I get that his mom is an alcoholic, and all that---guess what, so is mine. I NEVER MADE FALASE ALLEGATIONS AS A CHILD. EVER.
This is the second time SS has done this and both times it has caused a sh*t storm to erupt for me, DH, DD, even my friends and family who have to hear about it.
I am soooo ANGRY w/BM for putting this in his head. DH told me that when he picked SS up, she said in front of SS, "____abuses him and I don't want him around her."
You can bet your bottom dollar I will not be around this kid alone ANYMORE, that's for darn sure. Who knows what he will say, what BM will tell him to say.
Ideas to help me calm down? I am so angry right now!
mariealways
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