Choosing Cats over Friends
Karen10125
9 years ago
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Comments (33)I had to avoid this thread for a while... they make me so sad. I'm so sorry for your loss. When I lost my little dog, the vet sent a card. I couldn't open it for weeks. I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it. And when I did open it, I had such mixed feelings. It was a picture (sketch) of a beach with some scattered toys, and pawprints and I don't remember the exact words but something to the effect of they've gone on ahead to meet you later. And I'm starting to get misty just thinking about it. Cherish the memories. I know I do. And though that little fart went, geez, probably 15 years ago now, he still has such a soft spot. I definitely know how hard it is to lose a loved one. My best to you and yours....See MoreHow the heck do you choose a cat?
Comments (16)When I first saw this title, my first thought was that you don't choose the cat. The cat chooses you. For the most part, that's how it's been with me. The universe simply hands me cats, sometimes as strays or surplus kittens.... If I go out to choose a cat, often it's because I have a vacancy and a lonely cat at home. I'll go to the shelter and look around at all the cats and kittens, talk to them, see who I'm interested in, and who's interested in me. When I adopted Cocoa, I spotted this gorgeous cat in a cage and talked to him. He got up, meowed, came to the front of the cage, meowed, and patted my fingers with his paw. There was this instant rapport. He was an adult, btw, 2 years old. A lot of the cats I've adopted have been adults. The one time I let my head overrule my heart and didn't wait for this sense of rapport, it was a mixed success. I saw a photo of a beautiful Ragdoll on a shelter's website. I went down to look at him, and spoke to a counselor that I already knew from somewhere else. This beautiful pedigreed cat was an owner-relinquish. He was scrawny and underweight. His fur was dirty, matted, and oily. He didn't bond with me or even interact a lot, but I put that down to his being undernourished and probably badly treated, as well as the stress of being in the shelter. I took him home. He's now a good weight. His fur looks healthy and shiny. He's contented, and he gets along and plays with the other cats. But he never really bonded with me. When I pick up the other cats, nine times out of ten they'll snuggle in and purr. But this guy will either not do anything at all, just accept my attentions until I'm done and he can get away, or he'll actively struggle to get away from me. So I think that sense of rapport is one of the strongest indications of which cat or cats should go home with you....See MoreWould you choose a house with wood in kitchen over tile?
Comments (34)Mary, ladybug, kelly, dockside, quirkyquercus, cmarlin, and pattycakes - sorry to be so long in responding. When in a hurry, which I have been, I tend to just jump onto kitchens - will try to check back more often here. Your varied input is comforting, because it shows that it is not the end of the world that I decided in a given direction, which was tile. It was a last minute panic decision, as a friend with a great sense of style who consulted with a ton of decorators for her remodel exclaimed often that a "yellow floor" (referring to my consideration of maple or birch or white oak to sort of match the site finished)would be a disaster with the mandarin cherry and blue pearl, and to keep the color scheme all together. Between seeing posts about the continuity of the wood (especially as we have the rest of that level as well as the upstairs in the site finished, my GC recently told me it was a stained red oak, but it looks like white oak), and talking with a shop owner KD who also was a tile fanatic, I caved. Don't know why, because terrik's looks great. And - it cost 3-4 more days of labor for the extra joist sistering and floor prep to go with the tile. That alone should have made me stay my ground! I try to appreciate the gains from it - and it will look great if and when I add some white cabinetry for an island and perimeters (I chose American Olean Highland Ridge mountain), but I should have trusted that the look I was going for - downplaying the bluepearl into a more casual, country look with a birch floor, would have been just great - not for everyone, but maybe for those who would like my woods abutting the large backyard. It is hard to know when to give yourself over to others advice or to keep your stand, but hopefully I can get better at discerning this, as I have erred in both directions. Anyway - thanks for letting me vent! Someday I will find my digital camera and learn how to post pix!!! Honest! (Probably long after project is tucked away :-( ) Ciao!...See MoreMy builder is throwing away a $350k deal over $150 worth of Cat6 cable
Comments (26)Having come from and married into a familiy in the construction business, I do agree that some customers are annoying. However, if they have a specific request and will do what they can on their part to facilitate the request (pay extra, provide materials etc) that does not make them a picky, PIA. Even some of the highly skilled professionals are not always ethical and do not always have the customers best interest at heart. This is especially true in a big city where they can just go on to the next unassuming homeowner. Trust me, i've seen it over and over again. If the homeowner is willing to pay the price and what they are requesting can be done, what's wrong with accommodating that? The best companies do quality work AND work just as hard on customer satisfaction....See Moreemma
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