Trying to figure out how to be a good adult stepdaughter...
LindaLou22
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Trying to figure out how much and what to plant is killing me
Comments (9)I feel your pain, this is my first year market gardening as well. In the past, my garden was large enough for friends and family--this year it's an acre with other smaller plots spread around the farm. Boy, did I underestimate the amount of seed I needed. I know the people at the seed companies are laughing their heads off at my many extra orders. Stupid Me. I noticed you left out sweet corn. But maybe you're like me and decided that the risks (violent psycho deer and Jap. Beetle invasions, space hog, etc.) outweigh the rewards. In my lurkings at the farmers' markets around here last year, new and fingerling potatoes sold real well, but it's probably too late to get good choices now. Banana Peppers, hot and sweet were popular, as was the sweet pepper variety Carmen if you don't have an aversion to hybrids. Peas and spinach are also reputed to be money makers in spring. Those guys, along with a variety of lettuce and radishes and speciality green mixes are how I plan to start my season. But, yeah, being new to this is killing me too, but I love it. I love the fact that I have finally learned to drive a tractor, although I had plowed about a fourth of my field before my uncle (farmer for 80 years) comes rushing down and it becomes clear by the look on his face that there are some things you can't learn by reading about. But that was cool in itself, because now I know half the field is done right and I did it myself. Oh, I'm so proud. Now if the weather would just cooperate so Farmer Susan could plow the rest of her field I'd be in high cotton. Right now I don't like the fact that I just spent all day searching for a more energy efficent way to heat my makeshift shed/greenhouse only to discover at 12 o'clock tonight that if I hung plastic down from the loft, the inside temp raised 10 degrees right away. Note to self--keep little space heater--take back 200 dollar propane heater and never listen to that salesperson again. But tomorrow, I'll slap myself on the back for being a genius. Now if that irrigation system I pondered over for weeks on end arrives and works the way I plan...but there's fun in that too. I love this. Wish you much luck this season, and may we both be successful at juggling all these little balls in the air. Oh, shoot, sorry. Got off topic there and forgot--have you thought about investing in strawberries, blueberries or other small fruits? It may take a few years, but the end returns should be worth it. I'm starting out with strawberries and blueberries (hoping to add year by year) and plan to spend any extra time I have this season getting some land ready for bramble crops. And easy cut flowers, maybe?...See MoreSupport for Adult Stepdaughter
Comments (6)Didn't I say, "Non-stop"? My husband will be back home tonight, so I still do not know how the meeting went. However, here are new findings about SD's life style, just learnt this morning. The SD has obtained another credit card since her old debt was paid off by her ex a year ago, and made several payments on two cards this month, which sums up to $9,000. All the payments were solid figures like, "$2,000, $4,000", ball park. Now I don't know how much she owes. However, it is way over her monthly income. (Don't even ask me why I got this info. Long story.) In the mean time, she tans herself regularly and gets her French nails perfectly done. Oh, yes. I am venting now. During her college years, the SD spent out support money to get breast augmentation to look like Pamela A. (her idle) and hired a personal trainer to participate in a body building competition. No wonder she could not finish the schooling. Even though she came home with enormous breasts, my husband and her older brother (SS) were both in big time denial, saying, "She always had the figure." The SD comes home and stays with us w/baby on holidays or in summer. At first, my husband warned me not to give the SD hard time with rules and discipline, as she should relax and take good rest from her single-mom life. Then, she took off to downtown all day to party and hang around with friends, and came home like 4:00 a.m. She slept in until 2:00 p.m. only to get ready for another partying. Wife of my SS (visiting then) got very mad about SS and my husband's defensive attitude for SD, as we were taking care of SD's baby all the time. We confronted the boys and gradually made SD to stay w/her baby. SD totally believed that she was giving us an opportunity to have a quality time with her baby??? Whatever that is, I cannot have her back here to be a full time student. She will leave the baby to us (me) and either study, sleep, party, etc, like normal STUDENTS do. I am not sure about this "upgrading her education for her future career opportunity" idea. The lost income and cost of living for two years is very expensive. Landing on any better paycheck to pay off all the lost money and keep up with her life style will never happen. Anyhow, I am not looking forward to seeing my husband tonight, only to have another friction about the SD's plan... BIG SIGH....See MoreNeed some advice about unhappy adult step-daughter
Comments (3)Thank you for the food for thought - I guess I never really thought she was angry because she doesn't really sound angry when she's talking. And maybe that's what I find so bizarre: it's as if during the course of a normal conversation she starts in without any warning (and usually there's no relevance to whatever the topic is), and with no change of tone of voice and usually with a smile still on her face. You are absolutely correct when you say her life is of her own making, and to be honest, I'm not sure what her real beef is. She has a well paying job, a nice boyfriend, and a decent place to live. Her dad and I live about 1/2 hour away and see her a couple times a month. We moved here a couple of years ago, and she followed with the stated intention of attending a 4 year university which is about an hour away. She had been accepted for the fall semester this year, but then failed all her classes the semester before so was ultimately told she would have to reapply. Now she's got the opportunity to transfer in the Spring semester, but is saying she doesn't know if she wants to do that, she wants to live closer to campus, it's too far to commute, one reason after another why she can't do what she said she wanted to do. She consistently makes impulsive decisions that aren't well thought out, then doesn't seem to realize that she had the choice to make a different decision. When she's complaining, it's always somebody elses fault that she's unhappy or upset. Even when she failed her classes she blamed it on her bad roommates, but never did seem to get that she could have chosen different roommates, or at least checked out the ones she ended up with a little more thoroughly. I feel like we've been as supportive as anybody could reasonably expect: we've had her living with us off and on over the last 3 years, and we give her financial assistance as long as she's working towards her degree. DH and I are in agreement that she won't be living with us again - it's just too much drama in the house. Anyway, thanks for listening and responding - you really did give me a different perspective and I think I will try to suggest to her that she gets some counseling the next time she starts in when we're alone. And as far as Christmas goes, we're going to do something different this year: since it will just be the 4 of us, we're going for a bike ride on the beach, then out for Thai food. I told DH that we need to do something to try to deflect all that negativity, and hopefully this will be novel enough to do just that. Happy Holidays - Becky...See MoreTrying to figure out a good soil mix! HELP!
Comments (24)Noah You don't need to ask me for 'forgivness', rather you forgive me for sticking my nose in - I really don't want to preach but at the same time I know that you are very enthusiastic (THAT IS GOOD!!!) and you do rush to post. So I hope you take it as an advice. And I realize that you post from the phone - if you could re-read what you type, you'll find out that sometimes your sentences don't make sense because of lack of punctuation. (Spelling is another thing - but I know all about autoCorrect...) We all know you love your cacti and looks like you are growing them successfully. And it is great to have young ppl here too! I am sure that soil/potting mix dries up much faster for you than for me in 'cold' Canada. That's why there are recommendations for different ratios of materials in mixes. Rina...See Moresylviatexas1
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