This bed is between my house and a 7ft. block wall so winds won't get to it. I put it in the ground in the middle of Feb. We can't get bare roots here til after Xmas so I think I'm fine. I guess I was worried that the other bare roots were up and running (the others did have a few new leaves when I bought it and this one didn't)and this one has done nothing. Maybe I'll back off the water for a day since I've watered it daily and do the mulch around it and the paper bag thing. Hadn't heard of that, Thanks. How long do you do the paper bag thing? Only at night or 24 hrs a day?

Apparently, my navigation took me the shortest route and obviously didn't know someone put a chain across the road. I did a google map and looked at it from a satellite and saw an alternate road in. I got better directions from that and instead of the short route (37 miles), I had to go 58 miles but I found it. Unfortunately, nobody was home so i go back in the morning.

thank you ladies. the best medicine in cases like this is to keep myself busy, which I am doing. I just wish he had enough strength to let me go without calling me and crying. It is not a picnic for him either but it makes it unbearable for me. I spent a day at my parents and we recalled that we had two distant relatives who started wiht just minor drinking but ended up laying on the street in their own piss and consantly picked up by police and then dying of a heart attack in young age. Recalling that is enough for me to stay strong. I will not spend my life with anyone who is addicted to anything no matter how much i love them. thanks again, you have been very supportive.

sorry, I thought i had posted it, but forgot and just wanted to give the update at the tail end. sorry for wasting the space.... rgds, Less_Lisamarie