Hello everyone! Hopefully you all had great holidays/new year...it is always a happy time, but along with these holidays also comes DRAMA! I have been trying to figure this out for a few days and my husband is kind of confused too so I really need some advice.
I had coordinated visitation times with BM (who is noncustodial) and she agreed to take them Christmas Eve and new year's eve overnight and drop them off the next evening. So Christmas came and went (of course not without the usual drama) and the night before new year's eve she called to talk to the kids. I answered and asked her what time she'd be picking up the kids the next day. She claimed she had no idea what I was talking about and said she told my husband she had to work both jobs and she was sorry he doesn't communicate with me about their conversations. That is a total lie because my husband has her number blocked. She said she would call around to try to get someone to take her shifts then she says, "Oh and by the way, for future reference, I will not talk to you about mine and Scott's children because you just really aren't in this and it is none of your business. So don't bother trying to talk to me again, I will only talk to Scott. K thanks!" I laughed and told her to let us know what she decides about the next day. She didn't call back so by the next day lunch time I decided to call her. I left a message saying please let us know what you found out, the kids wanted to know if they are staying with you tonight. She calls back and leaves a message on our home machine and says, "This message is for Scott only...it's about the plans and all that stuff, you know what I'm talking about. So ummm....yeah! You know how to get ahold of me. Buh-bye now." So I called her back and I left a message that we weren't playing her games, my husband did not have the day off so if she wanted to take the kids please let me know or if she refuses to talk to me she can leave a simple message on our machine so we know what is going on. I told her my husband did not want to deal with her anymore and to please grow up. She calls back, I answered...she asks for my husband! I told her he was not there, she says well tell him to call me back, he knows how to get ahold of me... I said look, you don't get it, he is not here and will not want to talk to you when he gets here, so just a simple yes or no about tonight will do. She cuts me off and says, "Ok you're stupid buh bye!" My husband gets home and the phone rings not even 5 minutes later...he said to give him the phone because he was tired of hearing about it. So she talks to him like everything is just great (she got what she wanted!) and simply tells him she can't take the kids that night or even the next day because she had "stuff to get done." She couldn't leave that in a message?!!? And she also says that if I keep trying to coordinate things with her about HER kids, she will take me to court because my name isn't in the court order. Well of course it's not because I wasn't in the picture!! It does NOT state in there that she can only talk to my husband about visitation. It just states the times and says to coordinate it whichever way works so that we can keep out of the court system if possible. Now my husband is all worried that if I answer the phone or talk about visitation that she will record me and use it against him. Believe me....she has enough against her that they would just laugh at her if she ever tried to fight for custody. I am not worried because she is just trying anything she can to gain control...but I also don't want to have more problems.
So my question is....just because my name isn't in the court order, does that mean I have to keep my mouth shut and can't even ask what time she will pick up the kids? It was quick and painless in my eyes...but apparently she can't go a day without hearing my husband's voice so now it's back to square 1.
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