DH is on my bad list today.......

14 years ago

Yesterday I was not feeling well. Just a cold, but feeling run down. I spent my entire day going through all the kids dressers and closets and organizing it all and getting rid of the items that they no longer wear or do not fit. It is just easier for me to do it then to have them do it because I would have to assist them and it would take longer. Anyways I did that all day and then rushed to the grocery store and got dinner stuff and then picked 2 of the kids up from school. Then had to run back to two schools when the other 2 kids got out of afterschool activities. DH came home and sat down to watch tv. Meanwhile I was helping 3 kids with homework. He saw that I was exhausted so he did make dinner for me.

Then SD had to go to an activity that is 20 min from our house and only lasts 1 hour. He told me he would bring her so I could work on undecorating the real Christmas tree so we could get it out for the garbage pick-up today.

Well after dinner he sat on the couch and fell asleep!! I tried to wake him up when SD had to go and he was out of it and making no sense. So I drove her and sat there for an hour. Then I came home and got all the kids ready for bed, cleaned the kitchen, and undecorated the tree. I brought all garbage outside and all 4 cans to the curb. I began bringing the tree outside myself and when the stand tipped and got water all over our hardwood floors I let out a loud yelp. He all of a sudden jumped up and asked why I was so angry! I for a brief second thought about throwing the tree at him!

Anyways he got up and helped me get the tree apart from the stand and he took it to the curb. I came in and swept and mopped the floors. Then I went to bed and he stayed up watching television because of course he was wide awake from his nap. I asked him to get up with me today because he is off work and we could spend the morning together while the kids are in school. He agreed and I asked him to set his alarm. He is a bear to wake up and I refuse to attempt it because he is crabby when he gets up.

Well I got the kids up, made lunches, and drove them to school. Got home and guess who is still sleeping!!

I know I only work part-time right now. Though I am going to school full-time. But is it too much to expect a little help! Ugghhh!!!

Now I feel better for venting!!

Comments (8)

sweeby
14 years ago
I can see why you'd be annoyed!

Have you ever taken a nap at dinner time and let him handle all of those 'minor details'?
Sounds like it might be a really good idea...
justmetoo
14 years ago
Gee, I'd hate to hear what all you actually tackle on days you feel real well. :-0

I'll fess up and admit that I can be a bit of a stinker when my DH thinks he gets to check out of 'daddy duty'. Sure my DH works all day outside and pretty hard and has a 70 mile around trip commute and I'm sure some days he's very tired, but I figure he can go to bed early AFTER stuff is done and daddy duty is finished.

I've been known to knock the pots and pans out of the cupboard rather loudly, toss silverware from one side of sink to the other a bit louder than called for. Have ran sweeper a few inches from sleeping hubby in chair. I'm bad, but always 'ever so sorry I disturbed you honey, I just accidently drop this or that, did I wake you?'.

The message sinks in pretty quick and it's not long before he's back up on his feet and seeing if there is anything he can help out with. Not saying you should try my method, just sharing what works for me and I don't do it often, just when I really need a helping hand and can't do or be two things at once.
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lovehadley
14 years ago
UGH. Men can be so thoughtless sometimes!

I think they get so used (spoiled!) to us taking care of everything, all the little details, etc. that they start to expect it and take it for granted.

I think I would just "check out" at dinner-time tonight. Just tell him that you're feeling really run-down from your cold and you're going to crawl into bed and sleep----leave him to handle all the kids, dinner, homework, bedtime, etc.
ulrike1
14 years ago
Oh dear, sounds like you guys have a very busy schedule! Hope you are feeling better.

Reading your post, this was the line that struck me: "I tried to wake him up when SD had to go and he was out of it and making no sense." It seems like that was the moment things went down the tubes.

Does this happen often? Does he have a neurological disorder? (Just kidding, but really, if he often goes to sleep and you can't wake him and must fulfill his obligations because of the problem, that's something to discuss.)
sylviatexas1
14 years ago
"I tried to wake him up when SD had to go and he was out of it and making no sense."

but when you yelped at the spilled water, he jumped up.

faker.

Tell him you're disappointed in him & disillusioned as to his character, ashamed of his behavior, etc, & that it won't work ever again in his lifetime.

& then take a nap.
finedreams
14 years ago
take a break tonight, tell him you are sick, some men think that if a woman is home during the day she does nothing.
mom_of_4
14 years ago
Some men definately have that illusion that since we arent at physically at a paying job we arent working as hard as they are or something.

I felt the exact same way the other day when DH came home gripping and complaining about being tired and when I mentioned I was exhausted myself he brushed it off with a yeah but you didnt have to go to work today. I mean never mind the fact that the house that was destroyed courtesy of the holidays was magically cleaned, the christmas decor was taken down and put away, our bedroom that was just dieing for a clean out was finished and oh I was homeschooling the oldest and am currently going to school full time myself and dinner was on the stove ready to go when he came home. Must have been my fairy god mother and the talking mice that took care of it all.
jess3
14 years ago
Sounds like you deserve some me time and a nap.

We had my Sk's all last week. I am not used to having 3 kids for a whole week so it took some getting used to. I feel like all I did was clean ,cook ,laundy constantly and go to work. Meanwhile DH watched hunting shows, read, played games had a great time with his kids and I am glad for that but I was left to do all the work.I have a ton of respect for all mothers. Me not having kids of my own had no idea how much work is involed with having kids full time. We normally just have them EOW so thats pretty easy.

He would tell me that all I had to do was make him a list and he would do it. Men are not like us they cant just see that something needs done without being told. Now that I think about it thats how the kids are also. lol

DH is on my bad list today.......

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