I used a website to analyze your log file. You can go their and paste your log if you wish. http://hijackthis.de/index.php ------------------------------------------------- C:\WINDOWS\9129837.exe Extremely nasty Nasty (2.27 / 5.00) ------------------------------------------------------------ O4 - HKCU\..\Run: [ttool] C:\WINDOWS\9129837.exe Nasty Must be fixed! Malware ----------------------------------------------------------- O20 - Winlogon Notify: crypt - C:\WINDOWS\SYSTEM32\crypts.dll Nasty ------------------------------------------------------------

This is a virus....a trojan horse....I can't remember the exact one but I just got through fighting it on two different laptops and finally just reloaded both of them. EXACT same symptoms. You can try bringing up Task Manager with Ctrl+Alt+Del and then....file...New Task (run) and then "msconfig" and try to turn everything off under the "Start-up" tab and then restart....(if you find something under Start-Up that has no name, i.e. blank, that's the virus) it helped for a bit and let me get the virus definitions up to date, but then the virus kept replicating itself and it started doing the same thing all over again. I downloaded the fix from Symantec and even ran that 3 times until it said the virus was completely gone....it lied...it came right back EXACTLY the same way it was before...;-( Reload! lol Good Luck...and you have my empathy. Thanks, Connie aka MsLadyByte

Thanks everyone for your insight and input. Your comments fit right in with what friends tell me but I kind of wanted to get an unbiased opinion from people who don't know me. I have to agree that the whole thing is creepy and fishy. I cannot imagine not seeing or contacting my children for such a long time in the first place, but of course he says that is all my fault. I can't imagine not wanting to spend every second with them if I hadn't seen them in such a long time. He is such a creep. I have heard over and over again that I had no right to "take his children" away from him and that because of ME he has no relationship with them. Ummm...not buying that one buddy. When I was growing up I had one Grandma in the UK, one across the country and both of them managed to create and maintain a relationship with me back in the days when there was no email, no free/cheap long distance, and certainly little face-to-face contact. I seldom saw them but when I did we were comfortable with each other because we had a long-standing relationship. Why were my Grandmothers able to do that and my ex is not able to do so with his own children?? Because it was a priority to my Grandmas to nurture a bond and it obviously isn't a priority for him. He takes the easy way out by blaming it on someone else. Unfortunately what this entire situation has taught me is that the legal system is really, really messed up. Even though he has abused and stalked me, I CANNOT keep him away from his children because he has never "harmed" his children. I was warned of that in court by the judge who oversaw our case...my God, how could his behavior have NOT harmed our children? So the option of not allowing unsupervised visits is really not an option. As many of you already know, the court will not back me up until AFTER something happens. That really sucks. Anyway, I've decided that I will email him and tell him that his plans are not acceptable. I will drop the boys off and pick them up...haven't decided if it will be at the hotel or at the police station. I'm going to stop by the station this week and find out what the police would be willing to do...actually I had already planned on explaining the situation to them in advance of his arrival but I need to check if I can do the drop off/pick up there. My boyfriend has already insisted that he be with me no matter where the exchange occurs, even if it is the police station.

Hi openskies, It seems that understanding the function of her demand to be involved is an important part of knowing what to do in response. A few people have mentioned insecurity on the part of your spouse and control issues were raised as well. These sound like reasonable and common explanations for someone demanding more involvement, but I'd encourage you to find out more from your spouse and be prepared to put a few educated guesses on the table when you talk to her too because, on one hand, she may not want to reveal her "real" reasons; on the other hand, she may not even understand them well herself. Sometimes people get upset and reactive without fully understanding why, right? Does she feel frustrated and left out of too many decisions, for instance? dogdogcrazy suggested at least giving it a try and then returning to the current arrangements if it doesn't pan out, which is an idea that I like, but I'd still recommend finding out what the function of her demand is first and deciding together if involving her in contact between you and your ex is likely to actually resolve things. I also agree with the several suggestions you were given for you and your spouse to see a therapist who has experience with blended families. That is good advice. You asked if communication between the spouse and ex regarding the children is normal and if it could be productive. Unfortunately, I've rarely known it to be. Most people I know who are in these roles leave the primary communication and decision-making up to the biological parents even when they are cordial or even friendly with each other. I do know one family in which the husband and ex-husband developed a good friendship and are very cooperative with each other. It works for them, but they never had any animosity between them. Good luck!