My brother-in-law (dh's oldest brother) has been dating this chic for a few years now. At first everyone got along great with her. I was so happy for him because his ex-wife is bipolar and treated him awful. She just up and left him with the kid and hardly ever sees their daughter. Anyway, so I was ecstatic for him.

A couple years ago at Christmas she made rude comments about my nephew. She went to every other family member with these comments except nephews parents. That brother-in-law and sister-in-law blew up about it. Brother-in-law (dh's brother) basically told her if she was on fire he wouldn't piss on her. (This was his 5 year old child) I knew they hated her but I continued to befriend her. Then a year or so later she got into it huge with my sister-in-law (dh's sister). My sister-in-law is well spoken and will hold her own ground. I still befriended this woman. I wanted to pass my own judgement and she hadn't done anything to me. Everyone told me to be very careful and not to trust her. Well, I didn't listen.

Last October brother-in-law and gf came to our home. I worked all day and had to work the next at 6am. They wanted to go out to bars. I agreed to be DD as long as we could get home somewhat early. They could still hang out at home and I'd go to bed. They agreed. Well, at the bar I decided at 12:30 I was ready to go. They then decided they wanted to continue on to a new bar and told me to go home and they'd catch a cab. I was livid. I didn't say a word, I dropped them off and they didn't say two words to me getting out. I went home, went to bed, got up, went to work. Didn't say anything to anyone. A few days later this gf texts me. She asked if I was mad. I was trying to avoid them so I could get over it on my own. She pretty much demanded a response so I told her I was disappointed in everyone. NOT MAD AT HER, just disappointed in everyone. You know.... like your parents told you when you were kids..... Anyway, I also said I didn't want to fight and didn't want drama so I was trying to stay quiet and let it pass. She blew up! She twisted every word I said into making me a horrible awful person. I tried defending myself but everything I said made it worse. I stopped responding on Oct 13.

She has continued to bash me on facebook to this day. She has also continued to text me repeatedly... my phone beeps for hours a day. She has called and left crappy voice mails. She put a comment on a very public facebook that slandered my full name. I have every text and screenshots of things she's said. (People have sent me things via text when they see it because I have her blocked, and her kids cause she gets on through them) She threatens me all day everyday.

So now it's my brother-in-law, sister's-in-law, me and at least one neice that she's doing it to. Also, I have a friend on facebook that is married to her ex-stepbrother. She confirmed she did the exact same thing to her, when she blocked her on fb, gf started messaging her best friend. Someone she didn't even know. She says mean hurtful hateful things to people. Over and over and over. After she put that horrible thing on the public status a couple people I didn't know kinda defended me. She then sent them fb messages that were hateful and mean... calling them white trash and biotchs, etc. They then had to block her as well. She has my dh's stepsister believing her. I don't know her well but I have always gotten along with her. I sent her a long email tonight.... a very nice one trying to explain myself and everything.

I'm hurt that someone would take her word that I'm this horrible person. Especially when NO ONE else wants anything to do with her. Of course my brother-in-law is also refusing to speak to any of us and won't even look at the evidence.

This gf has told me and my sister-in-law that she can't stand my neice and she thinks my neice is evil. Brother-in-law doesn't care. I'm honestly concerned for my neices safety. This gf is honest to goodness insane. Also, her brother is a registered sex offender and she has him to their home. I just don't know what to do. Not so much about my neice.... I really want to do something abut that but more so for my sanity.

I simply can't get her to leave me alone. I've tried responding... back in October and now I've tried not responding. She's not just clinically insane.... She's the devil walking this earth. I've never met someone so hateful.

Any advice? And thanks if you read all this.

I know it's not the same but when I was first dating DH, BM was nice to my face & talked crap behind my back. I tried to be nice to her because I THOUGHT she was a nice person. When we moved in together, she began talking crap to DH about me & my kids. She was not nice to my face but somewhat cordial. I was cordial with her & tried to be nice. After we got married, fangs came out & she was nasty directly to me. I had never done anything to her, never said anything about her, except to tell DH that he did not have to worry about her keeping SD from him if he didn't do whatever she said. I told DH he had rights that she couldn't take away without a court order. (Every so often if DH didn't want to go along with her plans, she would threaten to take SD away from him so he would do what she wanted.) So, eventually I decided no contact is best. She wrote stuff about me on facebook, using my name. I reported it & it was deleted. I also sued her & was given a conditional judgment (only because the Judge did not want to get in the middle of a "family law" case & thought it should have been resolved with an order in the family court because SD was invovled.)

Unfortunately, SD is much like her mom and very loyal to her mom. Thinking back to when I met her, she did not like me. I chalked a lot of it up to "she's a kid" or "she needs more attention from daddy" so I back off & give them space. I've done things for her, been there for her, defended her, taken care of her, held her hand when her mom refused to come to her foot surgery & she was scared.... I feel like I've done everything I possibly can to show her I care for her & she can trust me/count on me, but during it all, she would still go to her counselor, teachers, her mom, both grandma's and now DH & complain about me... make up lies in some circumstances or exxagerage the truth or tell only the part of the story that makes me look bad.... all to get sympathy & attention. I have started to believe there are some people out there that cannot help it. They need the attention they get or they get something out of it by doing what they do.

In your situation, I think she gets a sick pleasure from the drama she creates. It gives her a high of excitement and when you respond, she enjoys that. It keeps it going. If everyone ignores her & blocks her, it will take the fun out of it for her. If you have to see her, do your best to remain calm, non responsive and cordial. If you can muster "friendly", do it. By that, I don't mean be friends with her & share secrets or girl talk, but smile & be cheery... more than cordial. Most people can see it for what it is and even if they are fooled at first, if they are around her long enough, they will catch on... just as you did. She isn't going to change until she WANTS to change and she may even need professional help to get there.

Ima, I haven't responded to her since October 13. She still continues on this path. I no longer know how to get her to quit other than taking it to the police. I will not have to see her. My other in-laws will not let her in their home. I simply won't go to that brother-in-law's home if my dh chooses to. I don't think he'll just go on his own. They live too far away. (I'm not keeping him though, I'm not a monster control freak)

My sister-in-law did call her brother though and told him until he gets rid of her she is done with him. I guess sister-in-law then got texts from this psycho telling her that calling him didn't make him mad at her, like she's a middle school student. BTW.... she's like 40! As far as professional help..... I think the only thing that'll work is a priest and an exorcism.

I know with my cell phone company you can block your phone from getting texts from certain phone numbers.

Also, you may want to consider just deleting your facebook account and creating a new one. Or just stay off it all together. I have a facebook account but I don't use it that much. I've almost gotten into arguments with certain friends when I would post my political opinion about things, so I don't even bother with it anymore. I'm actually considering just deleting it all together. The people I care about I'd rather interact with in person.