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Kind sad ..Happy Valentine's day!

18 years ago

Hi, I'm kind feeling sad today. I think it's because of Valentins day ......

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lpinkmountain
18 years ago
A work colleague saw me in the hall today and said, "Happy Valentine's Day!" I didn't even realize the holiday. I said, "It's kind of a non holiday for me, like being Jewish at Christmas." She said, "It's kind of a non holiday for this married person too." It was just invented by greeting card, chocolate and teddy bear merchants!

OK, I'm trying to cheer you up but maybe it isn't working. I'm sorry you feel sad, I understand how it goes.
jeaninwa
18 years ago
I went in to work this morning, and there was a big beautiful bouquet of flowers. I said "Wow! Someone got some pretty flowers, and I bet it wasn't me!" Well, of course it wasn't......it was from a co workers husband. For crying out loud, even when I was happily married, I never got stuff like that.

One valentines day, he said.."oh, your gift is on the seat of the truck." Well, he'd been with his brother who NO WAY could come home with out a valentine gift for HIS wife if he wanted to see the next day, so mine got me a card and a freakin' 79 cent plant. The card was still in the paper bag, not signed or even in the envelope. Now THAT'S romance!

In his defense, years later, he picked wildflowers on a hiking trip, and carried them down the mountain, and brought them to me. They were so pretty. I loved them more because he'd stopped and picked them himself, thinking how much I would like them. Now THAT'S romance!

OK, one romantic gesture in 25 years........what more could a woman ask for?

LoL

Jean
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My husband doesn't buy me gifts or flowers. He knows that I don't care about things like that. If I want something, I buy it myself. I am not saying he isn't thoughtful.....and the things he does for me, mean a lot to me. Like many years ago, he was working down the coast and got a ride home with some of the other guys working down there. (He is a comm. fisherman, so he went by boat and hitched a ride home for a day or so.) They passed a ditch full of water that had what he thought was an unusual plant, so he got them to stop, go back, and he got one for me. (I raised aquatic plants....so that is the kind of thing that I liked). Another time he was working in Louisiana, and coming home, stopped at a service station that was near a cemetery. A beautiful old rose was blooming on the fence. He brought me a cutting. I rooted it and still have it....many years later. He got an insurance settlement and gave most of it to me to get dental implants...because I wanted them. I wanted to buy a horse in a kill pen in Louisiana....we went to Louisiana and got a horse. Anything I want, if he has the money....I can have. If he brought me a card for an anniversary or even a Christmas present, I would think he had lost his mind. I have two things that really do represent the trouble he will go to to give me things I want. Our first place we bought after getting married, was an old dairy farm. It had a large concrete water trough, and that is what got me interested in goldfish, then fancy goldfish, then waterlilies, then koi. When we sold that place, he moved it here for me. It wasn't an impossible job but it took some doing to move a concrete trough that big. And since then, since I loved that one so much, he found 3 more and moved them here for me too. The other thing he did for me, was have me buy a window that I really loved that is in the bathroom here. It's a long story, and this is too long already, but it is one of my favorite things....it is old and frosted and has a design on it and Reading Room.
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LOL, 2many, I think Sriracha tastes like vinegar and hot peppers, but can't taste any other flavors. I'm a wimp, I like just a little heat but I don't want the enamel on my teeth to bubble. I think if it's so hot I can't enjoy the flavors of the food, it's kind of pointless, but Elery loves heat, the hotter the better. That is one mean looking panty liner, BTW. (grin) Sleevendog, I found a similar potato in my storage: I left it propped up on the counter for Elery to find and he didn't even notice it, LOL. So much for that Valentine's Day thought! Thanks for the sriracha tip on hummus, Elery would love that. I suppose I could just mix it in at the end, so the entire batch isn't "contaminated"? (snicker) AnnT, the steak looks delicious, as always, and although I don't care for very many hot chilies I love peppercorns. It's a different kind of heat. Annie
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Librarian-gardner - what is that plant? Not familiar with it... I went to Trader Joe's a couple -3? weeks ago and right at the front door they had these gorgeous Hellebores in pots! 10 bucks! 6" pots, 12" high plants - phenomenal! I got 3 - all different - I have a couple of kinds in the ground, but i might keep these in pots to put by my front door in prime real estate when they bloom next winter. They are very moody looking... I don't have any roses blooming at the moment - pruning them all now - but the pictures you folks are showing are gorgeous! Happy Valentine's Day!
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asolo
18 years ago
Note for portion of male population which hopes to have continued presence of women in their lives....

Birthday, Christmas, Valentine's day, anniversary (whatever kind)...if you can't keep track and DO something for your honey on these days (NOT just before or just after...THE DAY!!!) go back in your cave and live alone. These are called dues. Not facts. Not rationale. Not sensible or practical. Just DUES. Get with it or forget it and get out. Forgetfulness is a mortal, unrecoverable sin in these four instances.

It doesn't matter if you don't understand or don't agree or resent it. Shut up about it, suck it up, and do it. You'll never understand. Don't try. Just do the deed. It allows life to continue with much less aggravation.
haliwa01
18 years ago
Amen Asolo. You said a mouthful there. Being a man and when I am in a relationship I always remember the holidays and special events. But I am a romantic at heart and when I am in a relationship I like to leave little notes for my partner saying hi and letting them know that I was thinking about them. What has happened to romance and chilvary in this world? Yesterday at work for Valentine's day I bought all the women who work with me in a candy and put it on their desk for a Valentine's present. It wasn't much but its the thought that counts. One of them had just broken up with her financee last month and she thought she would not get anything for Valentine's day. She really enjoyed it and said that I made her day. Hearing her say that blessed my day and made my day a whole lot brighter. I was glad I was able to do that.
mimi_boo
18 years ago
Very well spoken from some men on this board. Thank you!

I was very surprised to receive a Valentine's card from my SO on Monday. Considering he is out of the country for several weeks, this meant he had to think ahead... and that means more to me than anything.

Barbara
centralcacyclist
18 years ago
I was chatting with a friend who suggested that Valentine's Day be renamed "Singles Awareness Day."
timelessrogue
18 years ago
Say, I gotta disagree with some of that! It's not dues! Not at all. It's courtesy, respect, honor, love ...

To call it dues is none of those ... dues are what you pay when you join a book club or the gym or pay for an overdue library book or some other such ... but certainly not what you pay to someone you care about ...
jeaninwa
18 years ago
I wouldn't care WHAT day it was on. A loving gesture is welcome anytime. A gesture just because a guy thought it was DUES would be just that. Empty, a "had to or else" kind of thing. Not very romantic in my book. Like the card in the bag. It didn't mean anything to him. Why would I demand something that had no meaning? I would rather have nothing.

Romance is not a holiday.

Jean
gurley157fs
18 years ago
Hi guys, I'm peeking in again because the other forum is dead.
I think haliwa has it right. Me and my SO decided to skip Valentines day - only because he is so romantic every day that V-day seemed redundant.

My ex didn't have a clue, on V-day or any other day UNLESS he wanted to 'get some'. When that is the only time that a man can come up with any sort of affection it becomes meaningless.

Hats off to you haliwa!

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