Florence, I'm really sorry this isn't resolved yet and continues to bring her pain. I'm sure that watching it is very hard on you, you probably feel so helpless. Divorce sucks and the fact that it was him that wanted it and is now turning the kids against her is a huge slap in the face, I have some choice names for him, but surely can't put them here. Is she in PA? If she was in NJ, I have an awesome attorney. My guy would probably have him in contempt of something by now. You ask, if it's legal for him to do this. Probably. I don't know the specifics but sounds like she is getting an apartment & he is keeping the house, and when she called the truck to come, he probably figured she was almost done. I actually would do the same thing, especially if I was moving back in, which it sounds like he is doing. The thing is, he could have said that he needed her out by such & such and after that she'd need to make arrangements to get in due to the locks, but who knows, maybe he's afraid she would lock him out? IMO, Robyn is probably better off to just get her stuff and go. The sooner she does that, the sooner what ever kids will stay with him can get settled and if I'm right, they will see all too soon exactly who they should have lived with (not him.) Kids are strange. As you know I'm divorced twice; there's been times my son stood up for his dead beat instead of me, or my girl did so. Now that it's been years, the truth has come out and they know who was lying and who wasn't. It's funny how my girl is now remembering everything. Robyn has to learn to forgive the kids for what is going on now, as much as it hurts. Even though it sounds like they are older, they're still feeling this and probably don't know what to believe. Everything will work out in the end, it's just going to take time to get there. Rick will get his eventually. Karma is like that.

I've had the same problem this year with my basement. For weeks all I could think of was "A River Runs Through It" or "Waterworld". :-) Tomatoes hate being waterlogged. Moreso than most plants. You could always stick your finger (or a stick) in the ground it see if it's soggy down around the roots. Or, if you pull up one of the plants, check to see that the ground is not waterlogged around the roots. If it is, that is likely the problem. I doubt anything leached from the roof into the water and killed the plants. We are down to some of the most likely suspects: 1. Water - way too much or way too little. 2. Herbicides -- either sprayed nearby and drifted unto the plants, or in the manure (or soil, if brought in). However, I would expect to see deformed and stunted foliage prior to death. Looking at the dead leaves, it's hard to detect any distortion in the foliage. The wilting leaves don't look distorted. 3. Disease. There are several diseases that can cause wilting, but disease is not obvious from the photo. Afterthought: Since your sedum looks unhealthy also, did you use cow manure on that too? Many farms use pasture pesticides that pass right through grazers' digestive systems and into the manure unchanged. Then we take the manure, dress our gardens, and it causes our plants to die or at least struggle. When getting manure or soil or compost, it would probably be a good idea to ask which pesticides they are using in their pasture. Then use accordingly. Link to an article below - just in case it applies to your situation (which is hard to discern). Here is a link that might be useful: Herbicide Carryover

Regarding moving the cats, i too have been involved in trap and release for 10 years. I have a great group of friends and we all do it. I've probably trapped and spayed/neutered over 100 cats on my own and then add in what my friends did and that's several hundred cats we've had fixed. The two particular cats in my card were fixed 2 1/2 years ago and I love them very much. They love and trust my husband and me as well, but just don't want to be touched. Sometimes i think it's best when outdoor cats don't let you touch them because there are mean people out there who want to cause them harm. A single man purchased our house and my best friend actually knows him. While he's a nice guy, my friend says he's not an animal person. One of our neighbors recently moved so the house is empty and the other closest go out of town all the time so leaving them behind wasn't an option. Also, I love these cats and would worry they wouldn't be cared for like I would care for them. I literally shovel them out in winter and don't think many others would. The thought of trapping and bringing these two cats with me was tearing me apart because inknownthey love their yard etc but I had to bring them. I had a custom shed made that is half fenced in and half enclosed. I trapped one yesterday and one today. There are no words how hard it was. My heart was breaking as the one just cried and cried. They are both as secure as I can make them, have warm beds and food but I know they are stressed and unhappy. The shed was quite costly and was the best i could think of. I did not want to stress my indoor cats out as they hate and will not accept the one outdoor cat. I have been praying hard that they adjust soon and forgive me and learn to trust me again. I will wait awhile before I let them out to roam free as I don't want them to run away. That will take awhile so they realize this is where they get fed. Any other suggestions on how to make them happy are welcome. I am actually feeling a little better as far as the home sickness. I think the anticipation of trapping those two kitties was getting the better of my nerves.

I love questions that I can provide a quick answer to!! Our paint color is Benjamin Moore - Pottery Barn, Coastal Sand. The cabinets are from Conestoga - Chesapeake and Sage (both with a coffee glaze) My hardware is all picked-up right out of the bins at Lowes I just did some quick measurements - the seating area behind the peninsula is 29" (probably a little less than it should be, but it's worked out fine.) Usually my 2 kids are there (both skinny 20-somethings, but I've had fuller-figure pals in those seats and they've been quite comfortable.) From the corner of the peninsula to kitchen wall is 42" - plenty of room. For people who have trudged through ALL of my posts over the months, I'm sure they must realize how wonderful it feels to hear all of these nice things, especially about my layout!! I definitely struggled with that. I was so concerned that I wasn't going to be able get the 2 rooms to have that combined feel. I kept telling myself that I'd do the best I could, and that however it ended up was better than the way it was - just one small opening between working kitchen and breakfast room. Conversation between the two rooms was pretty much impossible. It was suggested that putting the peninsula (or an island which I also toyed with) would look "odd" or forced. Like I wanted a peninsula and just stuck it in even though it didn't fit. I really was truly conflicted. In the end, I decided to go with my gut, trust my own feelings, and I have to say I couldn't be happier. (Of course it helped alot that my contractor and my cabinet guy both thought the layout was fine.) pricklypearcactus - if you have some drawings/layouts, I'd definitely suggest posting them here. People will definitely have great ideas. There were plenty of kind souls who gave me great suggestions and ideas for my layout. Having the peninsula come off of the wall was directly from someone here (and I apologize that I don't remember from whom!) I hope someone can make good use of my information... SQ