Boarding schools for troubled teens

17 years ago

We are looking for a boarding school in the Iowa area. Our 14 year old son has failed 8th grade twice. Hes proven to be very intelligent but defies anyone who tries to guide him.

Its not easy researching boarding schools but Iv yet to hear a horror story. Most school web sites look good. And claim great success rates. We are looking at Midwest Academy http://www.familyfirstaid.org/midwest.html but the tuition is around $45000 a year. Twice as much as college tuition and about as much as I make in one year.

Can anyone direct me to a forum or agency who reviews, rates or has true unbiased testimonials about boarding schools?

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giantscale13
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17 years ago
Just a update.

After some research I found this site. http://www.wwaspsinfo.net/index.html
These are the horror stories of the schools I was recommended and actually considered. It shows the Law suit against Robert Lichfield who nets over 90 million a year owning and operating these schools.

This is scary stuff..
plumbly22
17 years ago
It's certainly NOT near Iowa... but the Hyde School in Maine is suppose to be wonderful... this from a psychologist friend who has taken their courses for parents and read their book on how they work... don't have a clue to cost, but maybe getting the book would be a beneficial starting point for help for you at home???The Biggest Job We'll Ever Have: The Hyde School Program for Character-Based Education and Parenting ... you can get it used off amazon for under $10 I believe....
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I have friends who were sent to boarding schools for alcohol and failing reasons. So far they have improved and have actually made honor roll. There they have learnt so far to be responsilbe as they are given chores every week.
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agel2
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Hi

This will help, It's a teen boarding school for boy and girls. I search it and this will provide you some useful information about programs of boarding schools for trouble teens.
ithinkimsexy
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If you want your teen to be a strong and self sufficient individual, the military boarding school is the answer to your problems. They are great for teens who do not have any major behavioral issues, but just require more structure in their lives. See the link for online resource for anything you need to know about military boarding schools.

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