I know why she is sleeping!! She is worn out from tagging along with me at the Affair of the Heart show in Tulsa this week-end! She made me shop till I dropped! And she bought stuff so big that one guy had to carry it out for us, that crazy woman!! I know I didn't need all of those birdhouses, but when I turned around, there was this nice lady behind the counter handing me the receipt to sign!!! That OW had used my Credit card!! And to top it all off, she made me get lost in Tulsa before the show looking for the right address to pick up an old sink that I found on CL. And I have a GPS!!!! Go figure!! My best friends mom was ROTFL saying, only one I know that could still get lost with a GPS has to be a Blondie!! But I know the truth, the OW was bumping my arm making me take the wrong road!!! So, let the old hag sleep, maybe shes had enough of Okie-homa!!!(will post pics of birdhouses later if she hasn't hid my camera, too!!) blessings-sherri

I took a second look at the photo and I can see now that the planter boxes don't cover the entire yard. There appears to be grass between the boxes and the street, and mulch around the boxes. If they zoomed out and got a picture of the entire yard instead of just the boxes, it might not appear so much like a landscape nursery. I still don't think it's pretty, but if the boxes aren't as large as they appear in the picture and are only a fraction of the front yard instead of all of it, it's probably not as bad as the photo makes it look. Like I said, too much is unknown and the media is playing up the sensational angle. Yes, I think people should have the right to grow things on their own land, but I also think people should respect their neighbors' rights as well. The article quotes two neighbors, one for and one against. And that's probably the same reaction they would get if they planted all grass, or all flowers. Can't please everyone. Bottom line for me is what it would do to property values and there is no indication of that in the article.

Very Pretty Stardom :) I love the texture Sue :)

What you listed are just that...excuses. It seems like this has gone on for most of your marriage. When did kids come into the picture? Early and before marriage or just after? How many kids and what ages? How has intimacy been from the very very beginning? Was it ever there? I am a woman of low sex drive, I made those kinds of excuses a lot for a very long time in my marriage. In a few months we will be married 25 years and I still have very low sex drive compared to him. We have always had two very different views on sex, I could leave it easily, he could not. He thought marriage was having sex all day, every day and I didn't think that. I also had a lot of internal anger issues and depression. I agree with talking straight up about it, but your approach can't be to allow her to give excuse after excuse. Look at yourself first. Are you a good lover? Does she feel satisfied and pleasured? Do you connect with each other or are you just two people "doing it"? Do you ask her to do positions and places that she is uncomfortable with? Is she in pain, any kind of pain during? How does she feel about herself? If you compliment her and she blows you off, her side of it could be..."He's just saying that to get me in bed..." where if a stranger says it...it's because the stranger MEANS it. It is a warped way of looking at it, but it is also something that a depressed person/self hater thinks inside their head. Does she have a past history of sexual issues or abuse? Does she have "self" issues with her weight or looks....even if they are only perceived issues and not truth to you as you see her. If its a constant...I'm tired, so you help her with work so she isn't overwhelmed, you cook, you clean, you step it up with the kids etc etc. At the end of that, it's still another excuse...there is SOMETHING else going on that she isn't saying, and you aren't picking up on. And then she says it's because you put on weight? That's the kicker. If she can't point out your lack of housekeeping or fathering, then its picking on your physical appearance. Yes, darlin...it's something inside her and she needs to be upfront about it.