Do you schedule your day (when you don't have to)?

18 years ago

Hi everyone,

When you don't HAVE to set the alarm clock, do you get up early anyway? Do you go through your morning routine (getting dressed, taking pills, doing daily chores) in a short period of time, or do you tend to stretch it out over the course of the day? Do you stay up too late in the evenings because you don't need to get up early for work the next morning?

When I first retired, I slept late and didn't get dressed till afternoon. I was intentionally TRYING to relax and take things easy, as I'd just left a very stressful job. However, I found that I was forgetting to take my meds, not putting out the trash early enough for pickup, and messing up my afternoons by having so much morning stuff left to do. I had a hard time waking up on the days when I had early doctor appointments or plans with friends. Also, I was "out of sync" with DH's morning routine (there's a subtle mental effect, as he now the only "breadwinner," so I don't want to slow him down as he gets ready for work; MY shower can wait).

I've been gradually getting into a better routine (not the same as when I was working, but nevertheless a more orderly pattern). But I'm still working on this. Any tips?

Sue

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ghardenb1

18 years ago

I once heard George Burns say, when asked the key to longevity, "You gotta get outta bed.". I often think of it as I step out of bed in the morning. There are few if any days when I'm not up by 8:00 a.m., and I follow pretty much the same routine every day: clean up last night's dishes, make coffee, feed the dog, shower and dress, have breakfast.

For fear of being in a rut, I'll sometimes shake things up and go straight from bed into the shower. Yes, I'm a rebel.

One thing I have perfected to the level of an art form since retiring is PROCRASTINATION! I seldom accomplish any "necessary" task today that can wait. On the other hand, I'm right on top of the "optional" tasks (spelled "things I like to do").

I've even rescheduled an occasional doctor or dentist appointment because it just didn't suit my mood and wasn't an emergency. Is this bad? I don't know and frankly don't care. I spent decades dancing to clocks and calendars and it's just time to blow out the tubes.

I really like retirement.

Gary

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jannie
18 years ago
My husnand retired in Sept 2002, I retired this past July. I am 52,he's 59, so I guess we're living the American dream. The downside is we are now "living on a fixed income" . He has a state govt pension plus Social Security Disability,and I have a small pension. He stays up late watching TV,while I fall asleep about nine and wake at six. From 6am to about ten am is "my time". I have breakfast, go out, shop,garden, visit the animal shelter, go to the mall,sit on the computer, whatever I like. DH rises between ten and eleven am. He has many health problems and has lots of doctor appointments , so he always schedule them for the afternoon. Neither of us is handy with tools and repairs, so if anything breaks we have the repairmen in after twelve. Our two kids are still in high school, so making dinner for the family gives us some structure.
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maifleur01
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Stop the cocktails or at least reduce amount. Not against having a drink but I have seen too many retirees lives revolve around drinking. Easy thing to fall into.
waterbug_guy
8 years ago
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I kind of retired about 15 years ago. I looked at it as working for myself rather than for others. I still write software but now I create what ever app I want. Sometimes I design and install ponds and landscaping. Sometimes I flip homes. When one becomes a chore I switch to another.

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I know about the long commute...not having that is life changing by itself.

Ditto on the drinking. But also be careful about sitting on the couch watching TV. Exercise is good. I like to walk a few hours a day because I like to look at people's yards and houses.

Do you schedule your day (when you don't have to)?

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