anyone have two homes in retirement
zippity1
13 years ago
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dex215
13 years agomariend
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retired to most beautiful place on earth....want to go back home!
Comments (17)I think you're doing the right thing in moving home. The joy of being with your grandchildren while they grow up will compensate for "projects." And having lots of social/family contact is even good for your health. You can take "volunteer vacations" where you do good works while traveling - that should help him get some of his projects out of his system. Or what about a woodworking class? I'm not being facetious - my DH and I are building a house next door to my son and his family, and he wanted (and we got) a large lot so he could garden. I know he'll enjoy that as a project and it was a life dream, so I am happy to support him. However, it is the grand baby that is the real motivation, for both of us. Love and people are more important than almost anything else IMHO. FYI, I gave up the fast track on my career to move back home with my family years ago and have never regretted it. I look back now and wonder why I thought it was such a hard decision at the time... Good luck!...See MoreRetired to the south two years ago but
Comments (11)Which part of the South did you move to? I don't know if it makes a difference, but I've lived in many places around So Cal, and no one EVER greeted me. When we moved into this house in fall of 2003, I was SHOCKED that on Christmas Eve Morning the next door neighbors came ringing our doorbell (I was still asleep!), introduced themselves and had a home-made jar of cookie dough mix for us! They explained they wanted to wait to give us time to get settled before coming over. I have NEVER experienced this in the past. Sad but true, people are either "too busy" or tend to keep to themselves these days. It's not like it was in the 50's or 60's - when everyone knew everyone. OR, What if you make friends with your neighbors, and then decide you have "problems" with them...or, worse, THEY have problems with YOU! My hubby just RECENTLY met the neighbors across the street for the first time. They have lived there over a year now! My son's dog got out one day, and hubby had to go across to get him. THAT created his first short meeting. Then one night we heard a loud crash. The neighbor was trying to haul a pick-up truck up their steep driveway with a small car (wife driving & hubby in the truck), and the cable snapped. Hubby took his truck and helped haul the truck up. Now - when neighbor sees hubby outside, he hollers "hello!". We've lived here about 2-1/2 years now. I had every intention to go out and about and meet neighbors. I've been too embarassed, as we STILL are not settled in - boxes and "stuff" everywhere! Plus, may hair hasn't seen the inside of a beauty salon in like 7 years, and my glasses broke about 3 years ago - so they sit on one ear only (plus I can't see anyway). We've had numerous problems - hot water leak under foundation in kitchen area which cost a fortune not just in repairs, but in water and gas bills for four months, mice in kitchen that showed up when they started digging up the neighborhood to build new houses, bees that decided to make home in our wall...not to mention that both hubby and I messed up our backs while moving - hubby actually fractured something in there - so HE was down for several months, son decided he needed to move back home for awhile - so even MORE stuff! It just never ends. I am on disability, so I can't do much so fast these days... So, we meet new friends - then what? I can't even let them in house because it's still a disaster, PLUS, we dumped our sofa and loveseat when we moved - nowhere to sit! PERSONALLY, I've been in hiding! LOL! Everything is just too stressful right now. I WANT to be neighborly - it's just me and this mess holding me back. I HAVE gone out and introduced myself to neighbors in past. But seems everyone wants to distance themselves. I don't know what the deal is. I guess if I threw a bar-b-q every weekend with written/hand delivered invitations, and had a pool and lots of entertainment, they MIGHT show up and become friendly...haha......See MoreHas anyone gone back to work after retiring?
Comments (24)In June, it will be six years since I retired. My days are so busy that I often wish there were a few more hours in each day. I love that I have reached the stage in my life that I am finally in charge of me and no longer report to or answer to anyone else. Not having to live by the clock or calendar is something else I value highly. I do have my small (make that tiny) jewelry business which keeps my busy designing, creating and doing other things involved in running a small business. This yer i am going to spend more time on marketing. I have thought about volunteering, but currently don't have the time. That may come later. Some of my former co-workers (mostly teachers) have gone back to teaching part time and really enjoy it. Everyone is different and should do what works best for them. You have nothing to lose by giving it a try. If you don't like it, you can always go back to full time retirement. Good luck to you!!...See MoreIdeas - Designing retirement home - What would you include?
Comments (35)Agree on maintenance. As for the toilet thing - enough room around the toilet - but not TOO MUCH room so that you can install a grab bar if necessary. Toilets that are ADA height at GREAT. And I also prefer ones with smooth sides that are also called 'hidden trap' - they are all smooth and don't have exposed bolts / covers and don't collet dust / crud around the base. Also - way easier to sit down / get up. My new build has 2 bedrooms that connect to the master bath. That could be separate beds if a spouse was a loud sleeper - or also could be used by a caregiver. I am going to have hard surface flooring (mostly a dog decision) but the hardness can be mitigated by having some decent "indoor shoes" (that can also help with things being slippery, etc). I have no steps from garage to house, nor from house to outside. I have 36" wide doors everywhere. We recently installed the metal door frames and it's weird now that that feels SMALL! We will also have the ability to put grab rails anywhere by using 3/4" heavy duty, marine grade plywood behind all our showers. Sheet tiles / large format porcelain / sintered material, etc. and a zero threshold shower. Handheld sprays. A tub with a ledge so you can sit and swing your legs over - but the shower is the key - it will actually hold a bathing chair AND a caregiver. My inlaws had care 24/7 for a few years. They also had a 1620's historic home. While it was their dream ho me, it was sad to see how the usable portion continued to shrink as they could no longer handle the stairs. My parent, OTOH, have a single floor condo, with a garage and a stair lift that is now allowing my Dad to be super mobile while he waits on his knee replacement surgery. It was a Godsend after Mom's hip replacement. (It also works fairly well to send up the groceries...). While their straight stairs are a design no-no, it worked well for the stair lift. I hope the best set of decisions we've made center around very low maintenance materials - metal roofing, concrete exterior, windows that are large, but not super tall, a plinth around the house to facilitate cleaning / spiderweb removal, accessible systems for HVAC, water heating, home automation, etc. Home automation that will work more and more with Alexa, Google home, Siri, etc may come in handy, too. For the kitchen - induction, as well as ovens that the doors open TO THE SIDE with ballbearing slides for the racks to make removing items easier and safer....See Morejakkom
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