Ack, lost another post somehow... hmm... Anyway, what I wrote was that I use a chopstick (as in Chinese food) and stick it into the soil at an angle so the point is directly beneath the seedling to transplant. I then move it up and down a few times to loosen up the soil. Then, I gently pull on the seedling to transplant. If it resists enough that I think roots are going to break, I work the chopstick a little more, repeating until it comes loose freely. I then immediately put it in a hole in its new pot, fill in the hole, gently tamp down the soil on the old pot, and water well the new pot. Once all seedlings are out of the old pot, I water it lightly. Only rarely do seedlings die in this manner, in my experience. In the past week, I transplanted about a dozen basils and a ronde de nice squash in this manner, and every one of them survived. A couple weeks ago I transplanted about two dozen tiny english daisies, and they did quite well too.

Milk prices are down for dairy farmers by 30%. They are working for 1970 wages and paying 2002 prices. Someone in the household needs to make money and cover health insurance. Farmers sell wholesale, but have to buy retail. The dairy industry is in sad shape! We import milk from New Zealand and other countrys. Cows are a worthless commodity right now. They are not worth the feed you have to feed them! I am not a dairy farmer, my wife works for a cow breed assosiation. In New Hampshire you can sell raw milk from the farm, I think in Vermont too. You can go to a dairy and buy fresh todays milk and maybe a dozen eggs here. Just like the old days, The cream floats to the top, you shake or stir then serve. More people should buy direct. When my children were small they loved going down to the farm to buy milk! You would have to bring your own container and if you went at mlking time you got warm milk. If you wanted to try milking they taught you. If you went when no one was around you helped your self. The milk would all be dated. The old milk would be fed to the pigs. A good cow makes alot of milk and when she freshens you get another animal! If you have a pasture, live on a homestead, like animals and have children a couple of cows and a flock of chickens go along way. Throw in a dozen pigs and a large garden you will not starve! You feed the pigs, grain, milk, hay and garden vegies. They love greens of any kind. You keep what you need and then post to your milk customers live ready to butcher pigs in the fall. They pay for the butcher and pick the pork up from the butcher. This is true country living that we need to get back too.

This guy is a jerk. You cannot force him to be a good parent. The fact that he spent very little time in the hospital and then left you 1 week after your son arrived home is proof enough. FD she cannot go for CS. He has no job therefore no cash. And it will be a pain over the years to watch and see if he does every get a job. My thoughts is he is not going to so he wont pay. The real question is do you really want a person such as this to be exposed to your son and for your son to learn and look up to such a loser? I personally would not want to be around a human like this regardless if he is the biological father. His standards do not look that high and smoking around his child when he knows that he has breathing difficulty and has no interesting in improving your child health to me is a very big issues. He may have visitation eow weekend and wednesday but the smoking has to stop or visitation should cease until the gets it through his skull that for health reasons he should not smoke around his child. Personally, i would not want anything to do with him and i wouldnt' want my child to be influenced and i would pack up go and leave. Sorry that's how i feel with a man such as you have described. No you wont get Cs or any support from him but hey, at least your kid will be in a better caring environment and that is waht counts. As for the future on what to say to your son, well, that's delicate. Cs, you cannot force anyone to work if they do not want to. you can apply and the courts can calculate allllll they want. But if daddy dear sponges off girlfriends for the rest of his life you will not see a penny. And you will waste alot of time, effort and cash on your part the money you will not see. My friend chased hers for 17 years and not a dime...he owed thousands. but because her ex was living with a very rich girlfriend and he didnt' work...therefore no cash towards ex wife...he also didn't see his kids and was a jerk as well. Its your call. Do what is best for your son , his health is important. If dad cannot follow the health instructions for your son, like the drip and etc. appointemnts, then he doesn't get him. Will you forgive yourself if one day, in his care, your son has a wheezing attack and passes? What will you do? i'm serious. I'm not here to scare you but you are his mother. If his dad is irresponsible do NOT send him there. I know you need a break...but ask for time with friends and family not from a jerk who obviously is not taking care of his son properly.

I know many parents who have co-signed mortgages for their adult children, for a variety of reasons. Their name also is on the deed. It really depends on the assets of the parents and the reliability of the adult children. In all but one case, the house was eventually re-financed and only the adult child was on the mortgage or the deed as by now, they fully qualified. In the one case, it's due to both the husband and wife being self-employees in fields that are economy-dependent. They have never missed a mortgage payment but their source of income is still considered too risky for lenders. Interestingly, many years ago a woman I knew said they had to borrow out of their TIAA retirement funds in order to buy a house. Her husband was a high school math teacher and basketball coach and local lenders felt the basketball coach part meant his job was very high risk. And in the end it was - one losing season and his teaching contract was not renewed.