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How do you handle 'self inviting people'?
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Posted by calpat (My Page) on Wed, Feb 25, 04 at 13:00
| Whenever I have to hit the road for research/articles, I have people who insist that they go along with me. Even after I explain that this is not a vacation trip but a "working" trip,they can get downright nasty, even after I try, tactfully, to explain that I just don't have the time,finances or energy to take them along. Researching needs time, thought, pros/cons of subject. It can be time consuming. I get paid for accuracy in my reports. On many excursions I have needed to spend a night in motels, hostels that are less than 4 Star. I have also been invited to taste foods that are less than gourmet. I also encounter cultural differences that call for observation, not criticism. I hate having to get nasty myself, but some of these people simply won't take explanations or even a definite "no" for answer. I love my job & have built a good reputation for honesty on my expense accounts & accuracy of my reports. Perhaps just keeping my enthusiasm to myself would be better. Any other ideas! |
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RE: How do you handle 'self inviting people'?
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| Hi calpat, When was the last time that the self-inviter took a friend along for a week? ten days? to his/her place of work? A friend that did nothing to help get the job done at that workplace, that is. Can the person see that aspect of the situation? Good wishes for developing even further your impressive powers of negative persuasion, joyful guy/Ed |
RE: How do you handle 'self inviting people'?
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| Yikes, who are these people? And how dare they get nasty when you don't want to take them along on a business trip? And you don't have the finances--are they expecting you to pay??? Sheesh! My recommendation would just be firm: This is a business trip and I'm not taking anyone else along. If they get nasty, the riposte about how often they take someone to work is good. Also, you might ask why they think you owe it to them to pay to take them on your business trip. Finally, if they aren't family or longtime friends, I'd stop talking to them. |
RE: How do you handle 'self inviting people'?
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| Hi again calpat, How about fixing a van up like a motor home and say that they can come along and be your housekeeper? Paying half of the out-of-pocket expenses - plus some for depreciation on the van? And the daily schedule is totally under your control. Just thought I'd ask. ole joyful |
RE: How do you handle 'self inviting people'?
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| I value my trips alone and I would not take anyone, especially if they are that forward after you have explained the situation. Being alone restores me so I can go home and face the problems most people have in their lives. I was faced with a similar situation when our granchildren were babies. Their mothers didn't want to leave them with strangers and I was the only one not working. I got a job and I wouldn't do that again. I would just tell them I do not want to baby sit. I took the coward's way out! :o( |
RE: How do you handle 'self inviting people'?
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You might tell them, the insurance does not cover anyone traveling with you. I too need my space at times.
Just tell these people NO, that you do not travel well with others and if they do not respect your life, they are not really your friend. |
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