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RECIPE: looking for: date dinner - make him love me!

amrirose
16 years ago

OK People - I'm cooking to impress and need your most succulent of menu suggestions. He's a keeper, and I'm completely smitten. I need your help.

My paramor and I will be flying up the Central coast of CA on Saturday for a lovely brunch and tour of Hearst Castle. We'll be back by 4PM or so - having cocktails at a birthday party, and coming back for a home cooked meal about 7:30PM. I plan to prep food on Friday for ease.

What should I make??

I'm considering Engagement Chicken (lots of lemon), a spinach salad with red onion and feta, and spagehtti squash tossed with butter, parmesan, s/p.

Or???

Help me out here - Love is on the line!!

Comments (27)

  • ctack2
    16 years ago

    If this is a 'romantic' dinner, and it sounds like it might be, I'd say trash the onion salad idea!
    To keep your chicken from drying out when you reheat it, don't cook it all the way and make sure it's covered very tightly.
    Otherwise, sounds good.
    If it was ME, which it's not, I'd find a good crockpot recipe that can cook while you're gone. The aroma will hit you in the face when you come in the door - what man doesn't like the smell of a home cooked dinner when he walks in!
    Good luck this weekend!
    Carol B

  • lindac
    16 years ago

    Never met a man for whom the shortest way to his...er..."heart" was not a beautifully grilled piece of beef, simply baked or roasted potatoes a green salad with a sweetish dressingl, veggie of choice....the simpler the better....hot home made bread and apple pie.
    This is a simple "throw together" meal....what could be simpler than a grilled steak, baked potato ( with sour cream) salad, good bread and pie.
    Save the chiffonade and the duxelles and the au vin for when you have more time. The way to impress him is with a wonderful "man style" meal with no apparant effort on your part.
    Linda C

  • prairiemoon2 z6b MA
    16 years ago

    Is there any way of finding out what his 'Favorite' Meal is? That would impress me..[g]. If not this time, then the next time. If doing that is not an option, I would go along with Linda on the 'beef' idea. I have been married for many years and after all this time of cooking steak is still right at the top of my DH's favorite list. Potatoes and asparagus would be his favorite [but not mine], and anything with chocolate for dessert would be the most romantic. To be eating late after cocktails, I would keep the meal smaller and eliminate the salad and bread or have a salad and no veggie. I would also keep the potato small.

    If you feel like this meal is more simple than you were thinking and not impressive enough, then go for a big finish with the dessert. Prepare a truffle. I have never seen anyone who is not impressed with one. It is pretty simple too if you don't make your own cake. All you have to do is cook a package of pudding and whip cream. Then you layer chocolate cake, the pudding, the whip cream with crushed up heath bar. It is a pretty intense dessert so you might want to keep the serving sizes on the beef and potato small and a small serving of truffle goes a long way.

    Have a great time!
    :-)
    pm2

  • eileenlaunonen
    16 years ago

    I agree.......... Id do a nice Rib Eye on the grill Barefoot Contessas Creamed spinache (prep day before cook while having a pre dinner drink) baked potato with sour cream and chives (this can be baked ahead and just warmed) and for salad id do the Iceberg Lettuce wedge with homemade chunky blue cheese dressing (againg prep before put on plate a cover with Saran Wrap) and for dessert Apple pie with a good vanilla ice cream (Prep the pie before and put into the oven when you sit to eat the aroma will surely permiate the house)........99.9% of men love steak and this is the ultimate MAN MEAL!!!!!

  • wizardnm
    16 years ago

    Do you know his favorites? Think about what he orders when you dine out. I'd stay away from any flavors you aren't positive he likes. I'm not a feta fan so that would turn me off right there.

  • amrirose
    Original Author
    16 years ago

    Thanks all -
    I have no idea what his favorites are at this point (but I aim to find out!)
    Steak, love it. Unfortch, my backyard is being rehauled right now, and I have no access to my grill. Is meat really ever as good seared on the stove top? Anyone have a sure-fire way to cook it stove or oven? Fillet mignon? Maybe with a spaghetti squash? Recipe anyone? Or with saute mushrooms, and a green veggie....
    I like the idea of keeping it small, unheavy, and satisfying.
    I'll steer clear of the onions in a salad, Carol!
    Apple pie! Or apple crisp.....hmmm

    BTW - this guy knows his food. He's a fireman and their main cook at the station. Oh the pressure!
    Thanks again everyone!

  • lindac
    16 years ago

    Here's a pan seared steak....and very good and very impressive....

    2, 3, 4 or whatever 6 to 8 ounce beef filets mignon, at room temperature
    (let sit out for at least 30 minutes before beginning prep work)
    kosher salt
    black pepper
    clarified butter
    cognac or brandy
    Maytag blue cheese crumbled (about 1/2T per serving)
    coarsely chopped walnuts (about 1T per serving)

    pre-heat a cast-iron skillet that's large enough to
    hold all the steaks at once (or two smaller) over the burner set on High-High-High for at least 15 minutes, You MUST use cast iron for this - anything less will
    burn or warp. Do not use stainless or aluminum, and only use porcelinized
    cast iron (like Le Crueset) if you don't mind permanent black stains.

    While that is preheating, season the filets with a pinch of kosher or sea salt and
    a generous dose of freshly ground pepper - all pressed into the meat, both
    sides.

    Next, toast the chopped walnuts in a dry sauté pan over medium heat for 3-5
    minutes - until they begin to brown.

    When the pan on the grill is BLAZING hot (showing a little gray ash) , dip the filets in
    the butter on both sides (pour a puddle onto a plate - this is why they
    must be room temp. If colder, the butter will congeal and stick to the
    plate you set them back on and stay there, and the steaks will stick and
    burn to the pan) and CAREFULLY drop into the hot pan. They will smoke like
    a three-alarm fire as they cook. be sure your vent fan is on.

    Let them cook on the first side about 2 minutes, then turn over and cut the
    heat to Medium (a 1"
    thick filet will take about 4-5 minutes on the second side) Then dump about 2 T of brandy or cognac per serving into the pan and
    ignite with a long match or lighter - wait for the flame to subside and
    then remove the steaks to a warmed plate tented with foil to keep the
    steaks warm.

    Then, add enough brandy to the pan to be sure you have enough to "sauce"
    each steak, flame again if needed to burn off the alcohol, and cook until
    it just begins to thicken and get syrupy - scrape the pan with a wooden
    spoon or spatula as you do. Then, add in the blue cheese and walnuts and
    stir until the cheese is melted. Remove the pan from the heat, plate up each steak and pour a little sauce over each and add a
    portion of the nuts. Serve and enjoy.

  • woodie
    16 years ago

    If this doesn't do it, nothing will! This is a yummy recipe - good luck - and please let us know about the romance! (BTW the notes on the bottom are not mine, they are the chef's)

    MQ's Steak Diane for Two
    Mark Bittman, New York Times
    2 6-ounce beef fillets, cut from the tenderloin (filet mignon), preferably not too lean
    Salt and pepper
    1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil
    2 tablespoons butter
    1 tablespoon minced shallot or onion
    1 teaspoon Dijon mustard
    1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce, or to taste (I added 1/2 t. extra because dh likes it)
    ½ cup heavy cream or half-and-half
    Lemon juice to taste, optional
    Chopped fresh chives or parsley leaves for garnish.
    1. Flatten fillets a bit with the palm of your hand, the back of a skillet or a small mallet; they should be about 1 inch thick. Sprinkle with salt and a lot of pepper. In small skillet, preferably one just large enough to hold fillets, combine oil and tablespoon of butter over medium-high heat. When butter foam melts, sear steaks on both sides, just until browned, no more than 2 minutes a side. Remove to platter.
    2. Wipe pan clean with towel; add remaining butter over medium heat, with shallot or onion. Cook, stirring occasionally, until tender, about 2 minutes. Stir in mustard, Worcestershire and cream. Add some salt and a fair amount of pepper. Stir once or twice, then taste and adjust seasoning.
    3. Keeping mixture at a steady simmer, return meat and accumulated juices to pan. Cook, turning two or three times, until meat is done to your liking, just 1 or 2 minutes a side for medium-rare. Remove to a plate, and add lemon juice, if using, salt and pepper to the sauce as needed. Spoon sauce over meat, garnish with chives or parsley, and serve.


    Closely related to steak au poivre, and best made with truffles (isn't everything?), it is about as straightforward, simple and impressive a high-class dish as you can make. If you and your date are meat eaters, you cannot go wrong with this.
    The process is easy, nearly foolproof, and gives you a few options. Though you can follow this procedure with almost any tender cut of beef (and with chicken breasts, if that direction appeals to you), it's a perfect treatment for tenderloin medallions (filet mignon) for two reasons. Tenderloin doesn't have much flavor of its own, so there's nothing to overwhelm with this rich, flavorful sauce. And it is supertender, which makes it a nice cut for a juicy, saucy dish in which you're going to use a knife.
    A couple of options: You can cook some mushrooms  preferably wild, but shiitakes will do nicely  along with the shallots, and add a touch of garlic as well, if you like. And you can add a tablespoon or two of Cognac to the cream sauce and ignite it for a bit of a show. But I doubt you'll taste much difference or note a change of behavior; for that, you're better off drinking it.

  • amrirose
    Original Author
    16 years ago

    You all are the best! Thank you for your suggestions and recipes - I'm off to the shops, and back for housecleaning and food prep.
    I'll report back on the menu and romance....
    Will let you know the wedding date - you're all invited!! :)

  • eileenlaunonen
    16 years ago

    If hes a fireman (I no many a NYC fireman) not only can they cook they can eat Good Luck and enjoy yourself

  • loralee_2007
    16 years ago

    For my own 2 cents, unless you "know" what he likes and dislikes already, stay away from what picky people would consider yucky - and by that I mean spagetti squash. I like it, but I know my DH would HATE it!

    My husband's friends always told him if HE didn't marry me - THEY would. LOL

    But to attract DH, I stuck with a strict meat/potatoes/vegetable menu, then added to it as I got to know him...and somehow his bachelor friends also ended up at our place for suppers lol.

    If this is a first meal, I say slow cooker roast, potatoes & fresh baby carrots (keep a stand by of canned peaches & cream corn just in case), then all you have to do is make gravy with the juices and VOILA! Top off with a nice white wine and a peanut free dessert that you can make ahead (unless you know he doesn't have peanut allergies).

    Good luck!

  • Bumblebeez SC Zone 7
    16 years ago

    Unless you know what they like, it's all guessing. My dh loves vegetables and dislikes red meat. The stereotypical meat and potatoes is just that, a generalization about men that does not apply to all by any means. Dh orders vegetable plates all the time and would like spaghetti squash. But I understand the generalization too....

  • BeverlyAL
    16 years ago

    I would go with the Steak Diane and some potatoes. A nice salad with onions would be great if you both have the onions. Most of the men I've known prefer a creamy dressing rather than an oil and vinegar or balsamic type. And I've never met one who didn't like a homey banana pudding. You can get fancy later on.

  • pat_t
    16 years ago

    I believe it was Julia Child who said "Never try out a new recipe on company". My sage advice would be to make the meal that you prepare the best for him. Keep it simple and easy.

  • jimtex
    16 years ago

    OK we need an update here. How did it go? I made my wife some kind of pineapple chicken or something a long time ago while we were dating. It was never repeated but it worked because we liked each other.
    James

  • roselin32
    16 years ago

    Pat, I never read Julia Child and I always try new recipes when we have company. Used to drive my husband and son crazy but I don't recall ever having a disaster.

  • route1
    16 years ago

    If you really want to impress him, serve a small prime rib roast. It will cook quickly (about 1 hour). Serve this with small red potatoes coated with olive oil and rosemary and asparagus. Make a little jus with the pan drippings. Not only will the meal be delicious, it is simple to make even for the first time.

  • victoria321
    16 years ago

    the first thing I fed my husband to be was a tuna sandwhich with alfalfa sprouts. He never let on that he didn't like it a bit. So don't worry.

  • kathleen_li
    16 years ago

    So what happened????

  • amrirose
    Original Author
    16 years ago

    Oh! All good, Kathleen! The filet mignon seared on the cast iron and oven roasted with an herb butter was to die for, roasted asparagus (s/p), and small red potatoes with rosemary - I made mini apple pie for dessert.
    It was magical! We've been on several dates since, and love is in the air!!

    I'm hosting a holiday party for 30 on the 8th and now needing suggestions for heavy appetizers. We're officially "BF/GF" and now need to impress guests with food - the BF is a done deal!
    Thanks again All!!

  • prairiemoon2 z6b MA
    16 years ago

    Wow! That certainly was fast! lol You must have really made an impression with your cooking skills. [g] I have a feeling it might have been a little bit more than that though. :-) So has he cooked for you yet?

    Heavy appetizers...hmmm..we are not really much for appetizers here, so I think my suggestions will be pretty run of the mill. Just what we like to eat when someone else is doing the party...shrimp cocktail, scallops wrapped in bacon. Mini chicken quesedillas w toppings to dip in. Marinated chicken on sticks, celery with cream cheese. Veggies dipped in ranch dressing.

    Hope that gets the ball rolling for you and Congratulations!!

    pm2

  • eileenlaunonen
    16 years ago

    Although this appetizer if far from elegant I make them all the time for gatherings (as I will for Dec 8 cocktail party if I didnt my friends would literally KILL me!!!) Hearty white bread (like pepperidge farms) crust removed smear with room temperature Philly cream cheese cut bread in half to get 2 triangles fold each triangle in half so cheese is inside wrap a piece of bacon (i get 3 wrap pieces from 1 slice of bacon) wrap bacon around triangle and secure with a toothpick bake in a 350 until bacon is cooked and bread is turning golden....Trust me I can never make enough of these..Weird to me...but highly requested

  • chase_gw
    16 years ago

    This thread has lots of great ideas and links to other threads with tons of appetizer ideas and recipes

    My favourite choices are

    Stacked pizza (great dish crappy name basically layers of phyllo with Parmesan between and then lightly topped with sliced tomatoes cheese and herbs)

    Spanikopita

    Antipasti platter (roasted peppers, salamis, cheeses, olives, hot pickled peppers etc.)

    Meatballs in mini buns (one meatball to a bun)

    smoked salmon, cream cheese onions and capers of rye rounds

    Stuffed Mushrooms

    Salt baked mini potatoes stuffed with goat cheese

    Palmiers with Honey Mustard and prosciutto

    Mini Crab Cakes with a remoulade

    Selection of good (make that great !) cheeses and olives served with rustic breads.

    I have recipes for all if anything crabs you.

  • fearlessem
    16 years ago

    My all time favorite appetizer is so ridiculously easy it is embarassing... Take mushrooms, remove stems, fill with room temp Boursin / Alouette herbed cheese, place on a tray covered in foil that has been sprayed with cooking oil... Spray mushrooms lightly with oil, and bake at 375 for about 20-25 minutes until soft and cheese is brown on top... They are divine!!

    Emily

  • greatscents
    16 years ago

    I know you've already had your special date, but wanted to share this recipe for Bolognese Sauce, published in O Magazine, February 2007 -

    "Learn to make this sauce, and find a man worth cooking it for, in that order.

    Make a meal that will leave him hungry, not for sex, but for you!

    This sauce will smell better than anything youÂve ever smelled before. Make it only once a year, and keep him hungry! Great for special occasions and wonderful in the fall when itÂs cool.

    This sauce takes a lot of time  it should simmer for four to five hours  but it does not require much skill or effort. Once the vegetables are chopped, all thatÂs left to do is add ingredients and stir. This gives you plenty of time to shower, tidy up your home, and do whatever else you need to do to prepare for your dinner guest.

    Ingredients:

    1 medium onion
    1 large or 2 small carrots
    2 Â 3 stalks celery
    1 ounce pancetta, very finely chopped
    1 lb ground beef (not lean)
    1 tsp salt
    ¼ tsp freshly ground pepper
    Pinch allspice
    1 cup whole milk
    1 cup dry white wine
    1 (15 oz) can diced tomatoes w/ juice
    1 lb pasta, such as rigatoni
    Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese, for grating

    Finely chop onion, carrot, and celery. In a heavy-bottomed saucepan or Dutch oven over low heat, cook pancetta until all fat is rendered and pancetta is just beginning to brown. Add chopped vegetables; raise heat to medium, and cook, stirring frequently, until onion is translucent and soft.

    Add ground beef, breaking it up with a spoon, ¼ tsp (to start) salt, plus pepper and allspice. Cook until meat is brown.

    Add milk. When it begins to simmer, reduce heat to low and cook at a gentle simmer, stirring occasionally until milk has mostly boiled away, about 30 minutes. Add white wine and cook as with milk, until it has mostly boiled away. Add tomatoes and juice; bring to a simmer. Cover pot, reduce heat to low, and allow sauce to cook very gently at barest simmer, 2.5 to 3 hours. Season to taste with remaining salt.

    Just before sauce is done, bring a pot of water to boil, salt it generously and boil pasta according to package directions. Drain, mix with a third of sauce, the serve with remaining sauce on top with lots of grated Parmigiano cheese. Makes 4 cups sauce."

  • ole_dawg
    16 years ago

    First, I am a guy! My favorite pickie food is whole pitted dates wrapped in GOOD bacon and secured with a toothpick and baked. God are they good.

  • kathleen_li
    16 years ago

    I forgot to come back and look!
    Glad everything went well!!!

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