Dear Dave,

Thank your for sharing your tragic story. I heard of it over on the Kitchen Table Forum.

Our first grandchild was stillborn this week, and our family is emotionally crushed. As bad as it has been for us, I cannot even imagine the terrible loss you have exprerienced, having known the joy of your healthy baby for 9 weeks already. You've lost your dear daughter, but one thing you will never lose is your love for her. That will go on forever.

Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

Susan

I am so very sorry for your loss
I pray that God will comfort you and wife and family

Susan, my heartfelt condolences to you and your family also

Dave, I'm usually over at the Kitchen Table but wanted you to know that you and your extended family are in my parayers. I'm so very, very, sorry for your loss.

Ron

Although there is no way for you and your wife to find comfort from the nightmare of this horrible reality right now, I hope that knowing how many people here truly care can give you a measure of strength to help you both get through the coming days, weeks and months.

My heart goes out to you and I'm asking God to hold you close.

Suzi

Oh Dave, I'm so very sorry. She was a beautiful baby born to a beautiful family. Please know we all care and are saddened by this.

Acey

Oh, I just can't imagine what you are going through.

My thoughts are with you all.

Those we love
Don't go away
They walk beside us every day
Unseen, Unheard but always near
author unknown

Dave, I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your wife and Dagny will be in our thoughts and prayers.

This so very, very sad. I wish you and your family peace.

no words can express enough my heartfelt sorrow for your family's loss.

So sorry for your loss of a most beautiful baby girl. She was blessed to have her loving parents for such a short time and know she was loved. We just do not know why these things have to happen.

I haven't had to suffer such a tragic loss, but working as a Public Health Nurse have had to make follow up visits to parents that have had a SIDS death and it was the hardest part of my job.

Keeping you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers at this sorrowful time. Bless both of you.

Dave, my heart goes out to you and your dear wife in the loss of your lovely Dagny.

Surely the loss of a child is one of life's greatest tragedies, overshadowing, at least for a time, the joy and blessing of their presence. Those of us who have never known this directly can never know how it feels to you. But please know that the thoughts and prayers of many are with you.

Dave, I'm so sorry! Just unbelievable, so hard to even fathom a tragedy like this. My heart goes out to you and your family!

Dave, I'm so sorry about your daughter. SIDS is so sad and just not fair. My thoughts are with you.

Carole

I am so sad and sorry to hear about your daughter, Dagny. Her picture is beautiful. My thoughts are with you

Jeanne

My most sincere sympathies to you and your family

I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what you are going through but am wishing you and your family strength, love, and comfort during this time.

Oh Dave, I am so, so sorry. So sorry. As much as you have been here for all of us, now we are here for you. Please convey our sorrow, prayers and love to your wife and your family. I can't fathom it. I lost my dad a week before you lost your daughter, and as horrible as that was for me, I just canNOT imagine what you must be going through.

Much, much love & prayers,

Angie

Dave ~ My heartfelt condolences to you and your wife. I am so sorry.

Nora

Dave and family,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss-your story made me cry and pray for you. Your daughter died ONLY knowing comfort, contentment, and LOVE, and I hope that this gives you some comfort.

I can not understand your loss as I have not experienced death of something so precious and dear as a child.

Again, thank you for sharing your grief with us, I will continue to pray for you...

Dave,

Thank you for sharing Dagny's story and photos. I am so sorry to hear about this tragic loss, and send my condolences to you and your family.

Dave and family, What a beautiful child!! You are all in my thoughts. You have my deepest sympathy.

How heartbreaking! She was beautiful, and will leave you with many bittersweet memories. Deepest sympathy to you and your DW.

Oh, Dave, this is so heartbreaking. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

My first child, David, was stillborn 24 years ago. That gives me only the smallest glimpse into the utter heartbreak you are feeling now. I believe the magnitude of your loss must be increased exponentially, having felt the joy of Dagny's impact on your life for the last 9 weeks in addition to the 9 months beforehand.

One poster put it so beautifully, that you will know joy again, but it will be a joy tempered by the knowledge of pain. It will be a joy that you will cherish on a deeper level.

My prayer is that you and your wife will find solace in each other, and also a prayer that you are people of faith who will find solace in the knowledge of an eternal reunion with your sweet angel Dagny. That was what allowed me to walk through the agony of David's loss.

Lifting you and your family up in prayer...

-Teresa

Dave,
I just posted a question for you in your other forum, but it is trivial by comparison. Disregard

I didn't know about your loss, and I'm very sorry.

Kelton

Dear Dave and your wife,

From another thread was referred here.

Like the rest I offer you prayers, hugs and love.

Thirty Three years ago I lost my son, Jason, to SIDS after 12 weeks of his life. I also was nursing, so could not attribute anything to foods.

I have two older daughters and one daughter born a year later.

I believe my two girls helped me through this time, as they were 4 yo and 6 yo and needed me. The daily pain, smells and memories never go away--and the What If's are always there. However, you will live through this as hard as it is and your little daughter will be loved forever in your heart.

I, too, felt blessed to have had him for only a little while
"t'was better to have for only a little while than never to have had at all".

Relish your memories---with much understanding, Jacquelyn

Dave,
You don't know me, because a I'm basically a lurker, but I have learned much from your posts. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your sweet baby. If I may be so presumptuous as to offer a word of advice, please try to find your way through your own pain to give comfort to your wife. She needs you now more than ever, and even though you are in your own hell, you have to find the strength to do this. I have seen too many couples who lose each other after a tragedy. As others have mentioned, counseling can be very helpful.
God bless you.

Dave,
I know of you from reading your posts so it's hard to imagine that I can feel such sorrow and compassion for you and your wife. I'm sure that the pain will stay with you for a very long time--forever perhaps, but pray that you will find the strength to move forward. Dagny will always be in your heart.

A cyber friend.

Dave,
I feel like if I lost my little girl I would fall into a vaccuum of darkness. I send my love to your family so that you can come out of the darkness. Know that your sweet little love is being well cared for by the same angels who take care of all perfect little beings. They are all happy, fat, and smiling perfect toothless smiles.

Dave,

I have not even visited GW in about a year, and decided to check out what was happening over here tonight. We just built a home, so spent most of my time on GW on building a home site.

I do remember your very informative and helpful posts to so many GW folks, and always thought your bubbling, happy attitude such a nice contribution to this place.

It is with great sadness that I read this post by you just now. I shed some tears for your precious baby girl, and I can not even imagine what you and your wife are going thru now. I am so very sorry for your loss.

You will be in my prayers, that the time you did get to spend with your sweet daughter will bring you a lifetime of smiles and sweet memories. That it will somehow give you a peace in the midst of this storm, as you journey your way thru life.

Hugs to you and your wife, from your friends at GW. We all love you!

Dave, I lurk and post occasionally on these forums. I was so saddened to read about your precious daughter and my heart goes out to you, your wife and family. Little can be said that will help, bust rest assured that there are many people out there thinking of you at this time.

Dave, I have read your posts here for a long time - and have been so impressed by your knowledge and willingness to share that with the faceless names on a message board.

We (said faceless names) are so priveleged that you have shared Dagny with us. Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss.

Dave, just want you to know you're still in my prayers & thoughts.

/tricia

Dave,

I'm late to find out a/b this but my god, what a tragedy. Know that you & your wife have my deepest sympathy & condolence.

Dave, I usually lurk much more than I post but have read several of your informative, helpful posts in the past.

There are just no words at a time like this. Losing a loved one is so very hard but losing a precious child is beyond imaginable to most of us. Hold dear to those wonderful, loving memories you both have of your beautiful daughter Dagny and find peace and strength in each other.

Barbara

I haven't been on in a while and only just saw this.

Dave I am so sorry for your loss.
I don't know what else to say. I wish your wife and you strength.

Dave, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful, precious Dagny. You and your wife have my deepest sympathies.

Dave, wanted to let you know I'm still thinking about you. I'm sure this is going to be a rough few weeks for you again.

(((HUG)))

Me too, Dave. I haven't been on GW for awhile and I came back to see how you're doing. We're all thinking about you and your wife and of course, Dagny.

Deepest heart felt wishes for you and wife to recover and stay mentally strong to each other after this tragedy.
As you are a strong person - please continue to be strong for your wife as she goes over this experience repeatedly in her head. And make sure you have a support shoulder to vent as you go over it in your head.

Thank you, everyone...

We were just driving ever-so-slowly along the ice encrusted Seattle roads this morning... gawking at the winterland white glory, and bawling our eyes out that Dagny isn't getting the chance to marvel at the beauty....

THEN we'd see a rugrat or two, bundled in untold layers, escorted by a grow-up, sliding & tumbling in the snow in the park... and we'd break into laughter... more tears... and more laughter...

We try not to freak people out too much...

Kids & dogs seem to have some 7th sense though... they just know... and instantly apply tender love...

Here's to warm & loving holidays to everyone here. Joanne & I appreciate you, so much!

Dave

Crying is part of the healing. Do it all you want.

Susan

Dave, I've been checking back too, to see how you are doing. You and your wife have been in my thoughts and prayers every day -- and will be throughout the holiday season. May your tears and smiles help you to find Light in the darkness, knowing that your friends at GW are holding you in our hearts. --MH

thanks for chiming in, Dave, all the best to you and your wife in these difficult times, it's so unfair.

Dave, sending you and Joanne some extra hugs in the last few days leading up to what would have been Dagny's first Christmas. My heart still breaks for you guys.

After my dad passed the only thing that really brought me comfort was the little neighbor girl, she was about 2 at the time. She just knew I needed her hugs, as soon as she came into my house. I never really gave it much thought until you wrote that, but yes, they do seem to know.

Wishing you as good as a Christmas as you can have.
I'm sure it's hard, 3 years after losing my dad, it's still hard for me; I can't imagine how hard it is for you.

Please let Joanne know you're both in my thoughts.

I haven't been on here in quite a while, and was thinking of you specifically (as I'm thinking about lending issues and next steps), so I logged on and saw this post.

I cried as I read, just bawled.

I am so saddened by your loss. My only hope is that in her short journey, she made such an amazing impact in the world. That world will never be the same. Look at you and your wife, you never knew love or emotion with the depth that your beautiful baby daughter brought you. She changed you forever, and I'm sure that is a wonderful thing. Those changes will live as long as you do.

I am so so sorry. As a mom, I can't imagine what you are going through.

Blessings

Dave:

I have not lurked or posted here for years. Something posessed me to check in and to post a question today. In the back of my mind I was thinking "I wonder if that wonderful guy "Dave D" is still active and helping others with his advice?" I am sobbing, after reading your post, Dear Dave and family. I thought that loosing my mother was the deepest pain that anyone can feel, but loosing one's child is so much worse. All the plans for the future. Gone. There is nothing as great as the gift of life.

Time will help soften the pain, but it won't ever leave you or your wife. In time, like many of us, you will create a special corner in your heart, reserved for your little girl. And you will visit that corner from time to time - remembering the good things - and, I hope, thinking about how lucky you were to have your 9 months of joy with Dagny. Those we love never really leave us. Their spirit lives on forever.

Bless you for sharing such painful and private moments with your GW friends. We will always be here for you.

All the best for a hopeful future for you and Joanne.

Lynne

( I was trying to click on Building A Home forum and got here instead?????? I never come to this forum.)

I am weeping for you & your dear wife. As another member of that very same club I know & share your pain.

This will be a long & difficult road. Cling to each other, cry, yell, gnash teeth, talk & maybe swear ... then one day you will have laughter, you will have a smile or two, you will have love, you will find hope.

I am profoundly sorry for you & your family.
Kimberly

I have not been to this forum for years... Dave, my heart goes to you and your wife... I'm so sorry I cannot describe it. Yet I believe in my heart happiness will find you and your wife in the future, so just hang on for now.

I just happened to come across this post after years of being a GW reader. I'd come to appreciate your knowledgeable posts Dave and was so surprised and saddened as I read this. What a beautiful girl gone too soon. Continued thoughts and prayers go out to your family. She was a lucky and blessed little girl to have a daddy like you during her brief time on earth.

My deep, deep sympathies. What a horror for any parent. I often think that the whole gestation/birth thing is a real miracle with so many things that could go wrong. You now have an angel who is looking over both of you.