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Seller making this purchase a nightmare

Posted by jennyzone5 (My Page) on
Thu, Apr 17, 14 at 17:11

I'm buying my new house from an estate ran by the mother of the deceased. Her daughter passed from breast cancer in September. I actually went to school with the girl as did my realtor, and have tried to be as empathetic and understanding as possible but I am at my wit's end. This woman is making the purchase a nightmare and if not for the time and money I'd lose - I would walk away. Before I go on, know that the owner actually died in the house and the only way we were able to come to a deal to begin with was with both realtors being willing to lower their commission. I offered more than a fair price for the place.

She showed up at the inspection and passed my mother and sister who had come to see my new place in the driveway. I'm told she was rude to both of them. She walked in the door and just looked at me and the inspector without saying a word until I broke down and said something. She then went on to tell me what her daughter had done to prepare for the sale, knowing she was going to pass, and shared with me how things were decorated.

When the inspection report came back, I only asked for things that were safety issues. She was unwilling to fix anything. Her realtor knew she'd have to fix these things for ANY buyer and my realtor is a friend of mine and knew how badly I wanted this house, so again they stepped in and offered to pay for some of these items if I would conceed a few others. I did. At this point we are down to the bare minimums. Get the driveway/walkway/porch repaired (it's sunk by over 6"), have fill dirt placed to fix the major drainage issues that caused the driveway to sink, clean the chimney so I can have it properly inspected, and fix the leak on the furnace.

The realtors decided to have us in separate rooms for closing because they think this woman is "going to blow".

Yesterday I get a call asking if I'm willing to give a copy of the appraisal to the owner. She is apparently convinced it appraised for far more than the purchase price. I said I would give a copy at closing.

We are literally a month into things, closing in two weeks, and this morning the call comes that she thinks the driveway repairs, that the quote was 1300 for, should only be 300 at most and isn't doing it until after close because she doesn't think i'm going to close.

Now at this point I have over $3,000 invested in this house. My realtor and hers are putting money out on this deal as well, and she's refusing to have things fixed before closing?

I finally balked. I told my realtor I would sue the old biddy for breach of contract. Even if closing gets delayed by 1 day I'm out another $1800 that I paid for interest rate reduction lock.

I was SO excited about this house. It's in the neighborhood I wanted, has most of the finishes I wanted, and while it needs some work, I had/have every intention of staying in this house until the day I myself am at death's door. I'm now SO disgusted that I'm about ready to just lose my money and walk to avoid dealing with this unreasonable seller anymore.

Is my inexperience here making me overreact or is this woman truly going out of her way to make this purchase a nightmare for me?


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What was the accepted contract? After the inspection, what was the signed contract of agreed repairs. If it said that she'd repair the driveway, she has to repair it before closing. However, unless you specified and she agreed, to use a specific company to do the repair, she can use whatever company or means she wants to repair it. Whether is it a $1300 repair or a $300 repair, as long as it is done, it satisfies the contract.


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Oh she's not got a company saying they'd do it for less. I could care less what it cost as long as it's done.


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"I told my realtor I would sue the old biddy for breach of contract"

She is not an old biddy. She is a mother whose child has died. It may be she is not dealing well with the death of her child.

Have a heart to heart with her, and if things can't be worked out withdraw, she just might not be able to handle the sale right now.


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I would not bite off my nose to spite my face. If you love the house, location, etc, I would just deal until closing when the house then becomes yours. The terms of the contract have to be met. If I found what I hoped to be my forever home, I would be able to jump through a few extra hoops and put up with some unpleasantness to get what I had dreamed of, if it is truly just for a limited time.


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Her daughter's death has nothing to do with this. This is all about money. Don't budge and tell the realtors to get their jobs done.


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Jenny,
Lucille is right.
By law, in many states, unfortunately, the surviving parent is the Administrator of the estate, and shes stuck selling that house.
It's raw right now for her.
Don't take anything personally, I know what it's like to loose a family member and have to sell a property too.
It's sad.
How would you feel if the home was your mom's, or sisters?
She will sell the house, be patient and show up for settlement, don't worry.
Just call your realtor for a walk thorugh the day before, to make sure all the things have been corrected as per the contract.
Nothing matters in real estate unless it is in writing.
Good luck, and enjoy your new home.


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When I bought my house, part of the contract included the previous owners replacing the damaged roof before closing. They said they were getting it done but didn't follow through and--the day before closing--tried to get me to agree to allowing them to do an escrow account so that the roof could be replaced after closing. My agent told me to check with my lender to see if that would even be okay, and my lender said no: that they wouldn't allow my mortgage if the contract's conditions weren't met. We ended up having to delay closing by two weeks so that they could get the roof done.

It may not be up to you: if she doesn't make a repair that's part of the contract, your lender may say the same thing that mine did. I don't know enough to know if you can sue her for breach of contract or not, but I think you may need to be prepared to walk away if she continues to refuse to fulfill her obligations.

(I would also recommend against communicating with her directly, whether you go forward or not. Let your agents deal with each other and let her agent deal with her. Neither one of you is happy at this point, and it would probably be best if you maintained the buffer.)


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Yep, she is being a pain in the butt. It may have to do with her daughter's death or she may just be that way. Who knows. Hold her to what is in the contract. Pass that on to her realtor so she can tell the seller. No more concessions, reducing of what needs fixing, nothing. Do what is in the contract, period. You and the realtors have already made enough concessions. Get on with the business deal. If this is your forever home, fight for it or walk away and take your money with you. NancyLouise


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To those who are telling me to have a heart, I did. For a month I conceeded things, told her how sorry i was for her loss when she showed up during inspection and was rude to everyone, It's been 7 months, and the girl was ill for 13yrs. I don't think this is about grief.

She wants a copy of the appraisal, she's questioning the repair estimates yet was unwilling to get any of her own - Myself and the realtors were who got the quotes, multiple ones. This is all about money and her wanting more. She originally signed for the repairs, then came back and said only $1500 towards the repairs. If the repairs cost $1 that's fine with me, I just want the things fixed. I don't even know which would be the one that held up in court to be honest, but I would do any and everything in my power to get back every penny she's made me waste if she doesn't do as I've been told.


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" isn't doing it until after close because she doesn't think i'm going to close. "

Why would she think that? Sounds to me like she's interested in getting this deal done, too.

I personally would try to stay away from any direct meeting or communicating with her. Let the real estate agents handle it. That's their job.


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This is the problem with concessions. You give people a little bit of wiggle room, and they walk all over you.

Yes, its a tough time in her life, but she shouldn't have accepted the offer if she couldn't handle abiding by that contract.

Tell your agent to tell hers that if she doesn't hold to the terms of the contract, you're going to sue her for breach. It's the only way anything is going to get done.


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soccermom I think it's just an excuse for her to get out of doing it at all. After close it's legally my house and I'd be responsible for repairs. We even sent them a letter from the underwriter saying the loan was approved. Not a pre-approval letter, one of those was sent with the original offer, I'm talking the official underwriter approval notice that was sent to my loan officer. she has NO reason to think I won't close.

I have told my agent I'll sue her for breach if it comes to it but we haven't told her agent that as it seems like that would just make the hostility she has even worse.

The irony is that my buyer's agent sent an email last night saying what a breath of fresh air me and my agent have been and how easy to deal with we are! My current house doesn't close until July 1st and I've already made all but 1 of the repairs and sent copies of the invoices to them.


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If it comes down to it and the repairs aren't done, you could say you won't close unless she ponies up the $ for the repairs to put in escrow. Suggest an escrow amount high enough that she'd be motivated to get the repairs done under her own control rather than yours.


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We are literally a month into things, closing in two weeks, and this morning the call comes that she thinks the driveway repairs, that the quote was 1300 for, should only be 300 at most and isn't doing it until after close because she doesn't think i'm going to close.

Could this be because she truly doesn't have the free cash to make any of the repairs and wants to fund them from her proceeds after the sale? In which case you need to have a good chat with her agent about the possibilities.

We had dreadful sellers our last time around, with similar cashflow issues, and what we did was negotiate a reduction in the total selling price instead of doing escrow or forcing them to make the repairs, or anything else.

I'd say that's really your best option anyways: reduce the selling price by the estimated amount of agreed repairs. Would you really trust this woman to make the best decisions about these repairs, or would she not (more likely) just choose the very cheapest most incompetent contractors to do a poor job you'll have to repair in a year or two anyways?

When push comes to shove, you'll have to decide if you want the place enough to swallow your sense of fair play and just let her stiff you for these repairs. It's not an enormous amount of money -- not like an entire roof replacement, which was our issue -- and honestly one of the best ways to get to know a new house is to start having work done on it right away. :-)

She is definitely in breach of contract if she doesn't make the repairs she signed a contract to make.

Crossing fingers for you that her agent can make her see reason!


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Put 2,000.00 in escrow. That's what buyer and seller agreed to when there were some issues but we still wanted to go to closing.


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there might be several reasons why she is causing problems, but I truly believe one of them is she isn't ready (in her heart) to get rid of something that belonged to her daughter - no matter that the girl dealt with breast cancer for 13 years.

After all, you said you and your agent went to school with the daughter - you and the agent are alive - the daughter isn't - this may be one of the reasons she is having a hard time letting the property go.

in addition, 13 years of watching her daughter fight cancer really didn't prepare her for the daughter's death - my husband fought his cancer for 22 months - knowing how difficult it was to beat his particular cancer, I grieved for what I suspected would be his death the entire 22 months - take my word for it - five long years later I am still not over it - your seller has had only six months.


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Yeah what others have said - disengage, let your agent talk for you, get the price reduced to cover the repairs, and - yes, there's probably some element of grief and loss in her behavior. How much - who knows, but the whole process of disposing of family members' property, determining who gets what, etc. can be very painful indeed, even among families that get along reasonably well. You don't know what kind of anxiety and family turmoil may be going on for this woman.

It's just one of those times when you just need to stay focused and business-like in your dealings and don't let her trip your trigger.


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Thanks everyone. I'm 99% sure lowering the price to cover repairs isn't an option since she's asked for appraisal and telling her realtor she knows it's worth more but you bring up an interesting point, maybe she is too cash strapped until the house sells. If that was the case though I'd think she would have just told her realtor that was the issue so we could work something out?

If I could disengage and look at this solely from a business perspective - I would eat the $3,000 I have in the place so far and walk away. The aggrevation isn't worth it. I can't make myself do that.

I have been in this house 3x now and every time I got teary eyed. It's a nice house but it's not THAT nice. I don't know why I have such strong emotions towards it, but I do.

I'm putting myself in a financial bind for this deal. When we first went under contract my current house was still on the market and carrying both mortgages would have left me with about $300 spending money a month. VERY Unlike me to do something so risky. This is why I am second guessing myself and wonder if I'm overreacting, even though unless it falls through, my current house is sold.

While I am thankful for all the advice and comments, my original question still stands - am I overreacting to what's been happening? I feel I've lost my sense of objectivity in this deal.


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"I have been in this house 3x now and every time I got teary eyed. It's a nice house but it's not THAT nice. I don't know why I have such strong emotions towards it, but I do."

This is important-seems you also have an emotional component working on your perspective about this transaction. That's neither good nor bad, but it could explain why the seller's actions are causing you such (evidently) intense anger and frustration.

You mentioned you went to school with the deceased owner; perhaps that bond of someone your own age dying is triggering some deep seated emotional issues for you about security, safety, even the fragility of life. Couple that with purchasing her home, the one in which she actually died(!), a home that is so entwined with being safe and secure, not to mention one of life's largest financial transactions. Mix in that both you and the seller are grappling with these feelings, and*boom* recipe for a perfect storm.

Obviously people in an online forum can't know exactly what is happening, but surprisingly often I've found that analysis from dispassionate strangers can pinpoint facets that may not have ever occurred to the OP.

Good luck, I hope all works out well.


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I don't think you are overreacting. Her emotions are affecting your emotions. It is hard to take a wait-and-see attitude while the real estate agents work this out, but that's exactly what you need to do.


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No, you are not overreacting. She is being a PITA as I said before. She is trying to get out of doing what is in the contract. Hold her to it. You aren't asking for the world in a basket tied with a pretty bow. This is normal stuff you contracted for the purchase of the daughter's house. Her realtor should be stepping in and letting her know she is not right and can't legally do the things she is doing without repercussions. NancyLouise


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You actually pose an interesting questions, i.e. whether you're overreacting. I understand that it's incredibly frustrating when people are so antagonistic towards you. However, it must be extremely hard on her, not only that her daughter died but basically that you are taking over her house. And in a way, I would expect you to feel a bit weird, too, under the circumstances. Runninginplaces makes some very valid points.

Do you know why you feel so emotionally attached to this house?


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I'm curious about the appraisal. Did it come in close to the purchase price? If the house appraised for what you are paying why not just let her realtor see the appraisal?


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Threepinktrees -- My take: if the seller was acting like a normal, reasonable, considerate person, the OP probably wouldn't have an issue showing her the appraisal --probably AFTER closing -- although she, and she alone, paid for it.

But, if I were in the OP's position and if the appraisal was higher than the purchase price, there is no way I'd hand the seller the info because she'd figure out how to use it as a weapon against the buyer.


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The appraisal is 5k more than the purchase price but the comps were not good ones. This neighborhood doesn't have a lot of sales so the comps came from different neighborhoods, nicer neighborhoods, a mile to two miles away. And really, it shouldn't matter to her as long as it appraised high enough for me to get the loan. I said she can have a copy of the appraisal at closing. Jewel654 is dead on as to why I'm not letting her see it prior to then. Now if she'd asked for a full copy of the inspection report - that I'd happily give her. I'd like her to see just how many things I did NOT ask for her to have repaired.

As to why I feel so emotional towards the house I'm not sure. When I first saw it I had no idea someone died in the home, much less that it was someone I had gone to school with. It just spoke to me on some level I don't understand. I was embarrassed that I got teary eyed. I kept saying to my realtor "I have to have that house. We have to find a way for me to get that house". Over and over, thank goodness my realtor is my friend or she'd have thought I was a crazy person. (At that point I didn't think I'd qualify for a loan that large while still carrying my current mortgage. I had just gone looking to see what was out there in the price range I was looking at)

I thought about writing the woman a letter letting her know what good care I will take of the house, etc., but I really fear anything I do at this point might make things worse and cause her to back out. I actually told my realtor yesterday to NOT TELL ME anything else she says or does unless she has to. I am so stressed over this already that I'm breaking out in acne like a kid going through puberty!


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Here's my take... and tishtoshnm was hinting at this very same thing...
First, forget the advice about putting money in escrow for repairs after the closing... almost no lenders will agree to that now. I really doubt if she would agree to that anyhow.
You say that the repairs total up to about $1000 - $1300. You also say that if you delay closing to file a Liz Pendens in order to sue her, you will lose another $1800 for retaining the rate lock in addition to probably never getting the home. You also say you have close to $3000 tied up in the process up to this point. Why would you lose a dream house and another $4000 over $1300?
Do not get too tied up that you have a written contract saying that she will do the repairs... I am not saying that you shouldn't threaten her with legal action, and ride her butt all the way until the day of closing, but you should indeed close. It is the smart, long term decision for YOU. Don't lose dollars by tripping over pennies. DON'T lose your dream home over $1300, and then lose another $3000 by doing so. That decision should be off the table for you. It does not provide any solution to your desired outcomes.
Ride her butt all the way to closing, but you can not force her to honor the contract... unless you are willing to lose more than her. The worse outcome here for you by closing on time is that you don't get the repairs done, but you get the home of your dreams.
I do hope she comes around for you.


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You stated above ". Now if she'd asked for a full copy of the inspection report - that I'd happily give her. I'd like her to see just how many things I did NOT ask for her to have repaired."

The Seller has never received a copy of the Inspection Report ? In my area (and many others) a copy of the Inspection Report must be submitted when asking for repair/replacement of items. Even if it is not required in your area don't you think by submitting this report to the Seller it might add some "teeth" to your request for repairs?


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The seller received copies of the summary for each room/area, but not the full report. As I said, I don't care if she gets the full report. My realtor is who only sent her portions, that's apparently the norm here. My buyer did the same when she sent her request for repair, I didn't see the full inspection report.

The total for all the repairs is much higher than $1000-1300 but the seller is now saying she'll only pay for $1500 of it after originally signing for all. The $1300 estimate is only for the driveway lifting. There is also roof repair, grading issue that caused the driveway sinking, furnace leak, plumbing leak, missing dryer vent, some windows needing repair, a toilet issue, bathtub drainage issue, and chimney cleaning. That sounds like a lot, but trust me there were just as many things I didn't ask for.


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I would give the seller a copy of the inspection report. If your deal falls through she may be liable to disclose all of the issues on that report to the next buyer.

The emotional feelings you have for the house are complicated and I suspect your seller is dealing with her own set of emotional issues. She appears to be in the anger stage of grief and is exhibiting ineffective coping, which is clouding her judgement.

I hope your deal goes through and ncrealestateguy gives good advice. IMHO there is too much bad karma in making this woman live up to her agreements when she is not in a right state of mind even though from a business point you would be correct in doing so. It would be unfair for you to lose the money you put into the house, but do you really want to fight with a grieving mother? Wouldn't that change how you feel about the house?

I think the question that prevents any more emotional angst becomes will you accept the house in "as is" condition for the most part at the price you are buying it at. If the answer is yes then close the deal. If not then move on to another house.


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Go after the repairs every way you can up until the closing. Then, what Arcadia says:
"I think the question that prevents any more emotional angst becomes will you accept the house in "as is" condition for the most part at the price you are buying it at. If the answer is yes then close the deal. If not then move on to another house."


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Jennyzone5, I don't know what state this property is in, as each state will have somewhat different procedures regarding deeds of trust or mortgages. But my husband who is a BIC in 3 states has, when the seller does not have cash available, fronted the money for the seller. Before he does that he has the seller sign a deed of trust, records it at the courthouse and then pays what would be the seller's expense. At closing, he is paid his deed of trust, which comes out of the seller's proceeds. Now, the sellers that he has done this with have been very cooperative.

Perhaps one of the RE agents, could do this. Of course, there would have to be enough equity in the home for this to work and the agent would have to agree and have the funds to do so. But, if the seller is being difficult (for what ever reason) then she probably would not agree.


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Sometimes I think that being too sympathetic is counter-productive, too.

When someone who is grieving (or someone who is ill, or someone who has been injured, etc) acts like a jerk, & other people respond by 'making allowances', it rewards the person for acting like a jerk.

same thing as giving a puppy a treat (a reward) when he's chewing the rug:
you are *training* that puppy to chew the rug.

I hope everything works out for you.


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Sylvia, counter productive for who? I think the word that is missing here, is compassion. People who are grieving, or ill or injured, are not puppies you're training.

What about the Golden Rule? Do unto others what you would have them do to you. If you can put yourself in their position and walk a mile in their shoes, then you can often see what you would find an acceptable response to that person, in that situation.


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I understand what Syliva is saying. Sometimes, when offered too long or applied too heavily, compassion can very much have the same result as enabling. Enabling is the opposite of the Golden Rule because it allows the person to continue behaviors that are self destructive in one way or another and allow them to violate other's boundaries unchecked.

The OP has been as compassionate as she can through-out the contract, giving the seller a lot of leeway given the circumstances. It's not necessarily time for a total "gloves off", but it is well past time for the seller to understand there are firm and clear consequences for the continued rude and obstructionist behavior.


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We all know the seller's daughter died, we don't know if this is why she is being difficult. She may just be a difficult person.
Many of us have been in similar situations and were able to still function professionally.
This a business transaction, the seller has chosen to market the house, she is still bound by professional courtesy and ethics during her chosen transaction.
One can have care and compassion for another without losing sight of a business transaction. The buyer who is also a party to this transaction should act professionally and also receive professional courtesy.


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Very true, but comparing a grieving mother to a puppy chewing a rug is a bit, well, ...
Also, not to cast doubt on the OP's point of view, but we only have the description from her perspective.

Either way, I hope that everything will work itself out and she will move into her dream house. To reiterate, it's probably best to let the professionals handle this situation since there seem to be emotions involved on both sides.


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In no way did I intend or want for this to be a discussion on whether the seller should/should not have allowances made for her grief.

I can't find a way to delete the thread, so I ask that you no longer reply.


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But do circle back and let us know if the sale went through? Crossing my fingers that you get your dream house!


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Ditto circus peanut. Good luck with your offer, jennyzone5, and please let us know how the sales process works out for you. All the best.

This post was edited by hayden2 on Sun, Apr 27, 14 at 7:30


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We are supposed to close Thursday but it's also supposed to rain all week and the "big" repairs are outside, so I don't know what's going to happen. Feeling very discouraged.


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"We are supposed to close Thursday but it's also supposed to rain all week and the "big" repairs are outside, so I don't know what's going to happen. Feeling very discouraged."

Please don't be discouraged. I know how you feel. When we bought our house the real estate agent (+assistants) were more of a problem than the owner.

We hired a real estate attorney instead of an agent for our part of the deal. Too many problems in the past with deceitful agents, made us go for someone who could represent us in court if need be.

We would never have made it to the closing if our attorney hadn't been the one communicating with the sellers agent. I was fed up. Especially when the idiot owner of the agency wanted us to sign a dual disclosure even though we already had representation. He was hoping to screw our attorney out of his share!

Is it possible for you to NOT be present for the closing? We were able to do our closing separately. The seller and his agent met with the title clerk. Then she met us and our attorney at the attorney's office. After all the crap we went through I was very relieved to not have to have anything more to do with them.

It sounds like you really like the house. If this is the case, I'd do whatever I had to get this deal over with. Bite the bullet and fix the repairs yourself if you have to. It will be cheaper than losing your deposit or starting the house hunting process all over again.

Spring is coming. Hang in there! Best of luck for you on Thursday.


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I hope to read that everything goes through ok, Jenny, even if there happens to be a rain delay. Sorry about your difficult purchase. Your story made me relieved all of our negotiations went through realtors and we never even met the owner of the house we bought. You'll make it through this.


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Just show up for closing even if the repairs are not done.


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Hoping all goes well and you close soon.


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Best of luck to you at the closing Jenny. Do your walk through of the house and note anything that isn't done yet. Go to the closing, no reason not to. Just a short time to go and you will be rid of this difficult seller and living in your dream home. NancyLouise


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I drove by the house today and the grading had been done, and they were in the process of lifting the driveway. Thank goodness for a break in the rain!! The roof repair and chimney cleaning are scheduled for tomorrow if the rain holds off but if it doesn't, I'm told I'll be getting certified checks to pay for them when they can be done.

Looks like all is a go, went and got my certified check for closing today :)


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Great update! Maybe the seller's "temper tantrums" are over and she's resigned herself to keeping her word. But, nothing like waiting until the last minute! Can't wait to see you post back with the update that you've closed!


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Fingers crossed for you! (I've never known why crossing your fingers is a sign of luck, but good luck anyway.)


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So good to hear that the deal is progressing! It was nice to see you finally smiling :) again, too.


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Thanks everyone! Words can't describe how happy I am that this transaction is almost done. Now I just need everything to go smoothly with the buyer of my current home - I don't think I can handle any more stress at this point!


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For those wondering, I closed today despite the fact there are 2 repairs that remain undone.


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Congrats Jenny! Time for a nice glass of wine or cup of herbal tea. :)


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You did good. Now YOU are in control of the situation AND you have your dream home!


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Congratulations on your new, and wonderful, house!


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Congratulations!


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I hope the 2 repairs are in writing and she signed off on them??

Well, I guess that's what lawyers are for. Best of luck to you!


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Did the undone repairs come up at the closing table?


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Hopefully the 2 needed repairs are covered by the cert. checks you mentioned. Good to be rid of this seller, she was a nightmare. I am happy that you are now in the home of your dreams. Make it your own now. Congratulations! NancyLouise


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Enjoy your new house!


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I typed up a lengthy reply, I must have not hit submit message. Long story short, no checks, had to threaten to send cops to her house to get mailbox key and STILL don't have key to pool/basketball court/etc. She wants to bring keys to me on Monday when she knows I'm moving in. My best translation: she wants to see how I'm decorating the house. I blew my cool over the mailbox key and at that time stated she was not to come to MY house at any time for any reason.

I'm not saying anything about the other repairs, as far as I'm concerned this is done. I'll contact the HOA and tell them she refused to give me the pool key and get another and I'll pay for the other repairs if I have to.


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Oh wow. Your seller was a real pistol. I'm surprised the lawyers didn't step in at that point. Good riddance to her. Glad it's (mostly) behind you.


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How unpleasant this is for you. She seems to be a bit stalker-ish.


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I read as much as I could. Change the locks. It's not all that expensive. No more letting her have ANY control. You can let in whoever needs to fix anything if it is on the inside. Hugs to you! And congrats on your new home.


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I'm so glad you finally got your dream home!


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Thanks all. This house has proved to be a money pit so far, but I absolutely love it and feel it was worth all I went through. Still don't have keys to the pool/basketball court/tennis court areas but will deal with that over the next few weeks.

The only thing bothering me now is finding out the former owner was a smoker. I thought it was just my overly developed sense of smell, but a neighbor mentioned to me that the former owner was a heavy smoker. Guess I' m looking at replacing all of the carpeted areas of the hhouse. Yay.


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Just passing through and wondering how you are enjoying your new house now, Jenny?


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