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my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

Posted by bkfdwife (My Page) on
Thu, Jul 19, 07 at 9:39

Just wanted to update everyone. First off, I sincerely appreciate all of the good wishes, thoughts and prayers as we have been embarking on this emotional rollercoaster known as my life lately! Please know I've been trying to read posts and keeping you all in my good thoughts and prayers. Brother and family left yesterday so once again it's just me at home. It was great to have them here but it's nice to have some me time too. Princess Belle is doing great, as is her mommy. They will be going home this afternoon with a quick trip around the corner to meet my mom.
Shortly after my brother left yesterday the nursing home social services worker called me. They are evaluating mom's care and think she no longer qualifies for skilled nursing. They are considering moving her to a custodial care facility. What this all boils down to is she doesn't need the nursing skills they have because she has an advanced medical directive, so is presently receiving pain meds only. Medicare will also not pay for a custodial care facility. I am waiting this morning for some of the 7 phone calls I made yesterday to be returned. Mom does not have nursing home insurance, when she tried to get it she was denied as she had had sudden rapid unexplained weight loss at the time. Now we know why. Am hoping her Medigap J will help cover the costs, but am more hoping they can find a bed in the facility she's in now. They have everything from Assisted living, to Alziemer unit to rehab to custodial care there. I really like this place. Hospice has been a joke here and depending on what I am told today they might be released. I can do what they have done and more if she stays in this facility. We had a great visit with mom yesterday, think we are all coming to terms with the ultimate outcome and are starting to accept it. Sorry to ramble, just been really stressed. Yesterday was spent between the hospital with Jayme and Belle and the nursing home with mom. Aunt Net, if you are reading this, I am SO SORRY I missed your calls yesterday! I can't have my phone on in either place and it didn't save your number so I could call you back! I really wanted to meet you, just life got in the way!
So, that's my life, I expect we'll be going thru the evaluation thing weekly, so preparing for that.
Love to all...

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RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

Lisa, Please take care of yourself too !!

And know that we have you and your family in our prayers


RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

Sometimes life is like that. Hang in there. When things get tough just rock with the princess for a while and your heart will feel happier.

RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

Hang in there Lisa. One day at a time, one step at a time.

RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

Take a deep breath and a hot bath. It really sounds like things are going to settle into a new routine for a while.


RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

Oh boy, Lisa-
I wish I could come over and lend a hand. I hope that 'they' are able to find a way to keep your Mom at that facility especially since you are happy with it. I'm keeping you all in my thoughts...
Kelly - NH

RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

I have been were you are with my grandmother, my mom and my dad. It is not easy. What I learned from all that is to remember to breathe in and out! If you pray talk Gods ear off and invite him to go with you everywhere. Take time off by yourself even if it is only half an hour. Ask for help when you need it. One of the best things I got from caring for my family is when my father said, "I'm glad it's you taking care of me kid-o." You can do this! Keep it simple. One thing at a time. Try to look at small pieces of the picture instead of trying to look at the entire picture all at once. Feel free to email me if you want. Please believe me when I say I care.

RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

You are in my thought and prayers. we all have to go thru it. But it still is hard. Take care. Mary in Va

RE: my life in a nutshell..yeah, like it would fit!

That's hard. Sometimes I think with nostalgia of the "old days," when your friends and neighbors rallied round to help with care and there was no worry about what insurance would pay for what. On the other hand, they didn't have the great medical care that is available now, so I guess I'm glad to be living at this time. Hang in there. I was so happy to learn that the baby came and your mother will have a chance to see her.

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