Someone posted something on a bulletin on myspace regarding this and listed all the conservatives who were divorced and how many times. It was great! The problem is that people believe that their religion should be infused into the government. It isn't just strong Christians (or should I say certain groups of Christians) but other religions are against gay marriage/gays in general. It's unfortunate. They will always argue that there isn't a separation of church and state and continue to push religion into our laws. I hope this isn't passed and that the state laws that have occured are overturned. If you like progressive talk radio you should tune into Ed Schultz sometime. I get him on AM 940 here in Broward, but he may be on some other stations.

"I assume from the above statements that you would agree that children who suffer sexual assault would be better off if their parents were able to find out about the assault and get the children therapy and medical care, and of course if the parents were supportive and non-blaming. As you pointed out, there is no way to be 100% safe. What advice would you give a teenage girl (or boy, for that matter) who was sexually assaulted? What would you advise a parent to say to their child about what to do if they ever were assaulted?" You are asking Imamommy who admitted to being assaulted which conceived her son as to what she would suggest to parents of assault victims. When she has said that she told no one at the time. What are you hoping to gain by this? "I am a bit curious as to why the morning after pill wasn't available to you. I thought it had been available in some form to treat rape victims since the mid 70's." "That surprises me. Even back in the old days of the late 60's, details of contraception were common knowledge among my peers." "When a famous birth control advocate came to speak at our school and displayed various birth control devices, the only people that were shocked were the administrators. Didn't you have sex education in school?" So when pressing her buttons on birth control (let's not forget that she was assaulted here) didn't work, let's move onto she didn't have anyone in her life to confide in, why don't we? "That is simply not true. People are a lot more likely to confide in someone if they have a close relationship with them and are confident that they will be believed and supported." "but I still am surprised that there was NO adult in Ima's life that she felt comfortable confiding in, even a few months later." "I just think it is sad that she was apparently not close enough to him, or to any other adult, to confide in them." "No, actually I feel sorry for her 17 year old self - not only because of the rape, but also because she was apparently not close enough to either parent or to any adult to ask for help." You are not just soooo sad that she had no one in her life to confide to. You are trying to prove a sick little point. Your passive agressive game isn't flying here. Whatever beef you have with Ima isn't that bad to stoop to the level you have. Claim innosence all you want, anyone with 2 brain cells knows what you were doing in this thread.

I'm not sure why I'm bothering to explain further, but my 3 yo only knows my bf as daddy because her bio-dad has never been in the picture. My ex never sees his kids because he is incarcerated. Until all of this happened my bf didn't behave as a tyrant. He's confused, hurt, and angry. We all say and do things we don't mean when we're hurt. There doesn't seem to be a way possible for us to heal as a family. I am aware of how kids lie about abuse. I am a surrvior of abuse myself. And yes, I've been in counseling for it. If we had already been married should I have just left? If this had been my own son who was the molester, what would we do with him then. I do feel his dad has mishandeled the situation. It's quite unbelievable how people pass judgement when others come here for help. I went through the proper legal steps to assure my son's safety when I discovered the abuse. The Child Advocacy Center in my county was discussing ways in which we could install alarms on doors to be able to have his son live in the same house, so I don't believe I'm doing anything illegal. But this is why we are not together. I won't have him living in the home. I refuse to live in fear of my child getting hurt. Funny how it's all black and white for many of you. What if your own children did this to one of their younger sibs?

His arrest and conviction happened in the UK, where this man lived until recently. BM flew there to visit him for 2 weeks just a few months into their 'online' relationship, ended up staying for 6 months, and came back here with him a few weeks ago. In the UK he was on probation (or parole) until 2010, but his probation doesn't apply here, although my DH has met with the local police and discussed it with them. They have requested this mans file from the UK and will decide when that arrives if they will allow him to stay here or send him back. I believe they left the UK to come here because Child Services were going to take the new baby away when it was born. See, that's the part that really sucks for me. And I've REALLY struggled with this. Because I DON'T want this baby taken away from her - purely because it is my s/kids baby sister. At the same time, I don't believe this child will ever be safe with them. DH and I are hoping that if the police decide he cannot stay here, they will go somewhere else and not back to the UK. It really is a horrible situation, because wherever they go he will be free to do whatever he wants, but then at least he will be away from the s/kids. But what about other peoples children? What about their new baby?