Can't stand the whining
michie1
21 years ago
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Comments (6)remember that song, "If I Were a Carpenter"? The guy whines (demands) in a melancholy tone that, if he were on a lower social, economic, & educational scale & his girlfriend were on a much higher one, she would not only reduce circumstances to his level, but make herself subservient to him: "If I were a carpenter & you were a lady, would you marry me anyway, would you have my baby?" So she would no longer be able to move in her current circles; she would be a woman with a child, dependent on a melancholy, self-absorbed guy who needs her to constantly *prove* to him that he's the best thing in her universe, better than all those guys with education & money & social standing similar to hers. I always thought, "well, if she agrees, what's he going to do in return? What's he going to do for *her*?" I also wondered why he didn't ask instead, "Would you get me some introductions to people you know in the construction industry so I can improve my life & give you a better life?" "Bad luck" does rub off, but it doesn't *just* rub off; it's at least partially the result of the focus, priorities, & mindset of the person who has the bad luck, & it does indeed bring down those in his/her orbit. I sometimes wonder if there shouldn't be an 'everything-anon', like al-anon, to help families who get sucked into a relative's decaying orbit of whatever kind. I wish you the best....See MoreCan't stand Step-son, do I leave DH?
Comments (38)Thank you, thank you, thank you to Silversword and lamom. You get what I am saying. I was not trying to "goat" anyone into anything or stir up the pot. I really was posting my deep thoughts, kind of like a journal to myself while at the same time trying to explain the situation. The reason I wrote the stuff about the BM being proud of being 'white trash' was because I was trying to explain about what I am dealing with here. That is all. I am the furtherest thing from someone who is all high and mighty and I don't think I am better than anyone else. In fact I am more of the black sheep in my family partly because I am not so judgmental and I am the rebel. I have tattoos, moved out at 17 on my own, don't like people to tell me what to do, etc. And yes I freely admit I am a control freak. That is something I am working very hard on. After the first post I was just adding details and my mind and thinking were changing. I am glad that my tune has changed since last Sunday. I am feeling much more optimistic now. Honestly I didn't think I was even going to come back to this site and I told myself today ok just go see what was said but don't post anymore. I am glad I did come back because both silversword and lamom made feel better and realize that not everyone here is so judgemental. I can take criticism and I was really thankful for the first few posts that told me to grow up because that is exactly what I needed to hear. And I do not get off on or enjoy writing inflammatory posts. I am sorry I was just writing my story and the quotes that sylviatexas posted that I wrote on the first day I registerd were written because that is what was said. I was not making anything up, that is my story and I am sticking to it, lol. My DH did not graduate but I don't hold that against him. I still love him very much. He also had a drug addiction in his past but you know what he is stronger for it and has proven how he can overcome almost anything. People do change and I do not hold their past on them forever. When I say he went through a bad period that is what I was referring. There is, of course, way more to the story and lamom is right you can not describe it all in one post, or even probably in 100. But what matters most is that this site did help me. I got a change to write my thoughts down and try to figure out what in the world I was really feeling. The more I wrote about SS and what HE has to deal with the more I found that I do care about him. I really do. It is still going to take time to build a relationship but I think it is all going to be ok....See MoreHELP! new granite countertop - can't stand it
Comments (84)I wish I could change the name of this thread I started three weeks ago! I would call it "New countertop Loving it!" Its been ten days since I posted the first photos and revealed the identity of my stone. I got to enjoy it for only a few minutes on a gray day before the contractor enveloped it in butcher paper so work could continue around it. On Wednesday evening I prepared to celebrate Thanksgiving by unveiling the stone. Since then I have enjoyed many happy hours with it. NYC has been blessed with a sunny holiday, and the stone is even more beautiful in a kitchen drenched with sunlight. It also photographs better, though the green still looks washed out. Ive posted new photos, including some close-ups. Cloud_swift predicted I would be even happier with my stone after living with it a while. In fact, it grows on me by the hour. To walk into the kitchen now is literally thrilling. I never know what to expect, as it changes with the light, always surprising me with how blue it is, but sometimes more green, sometimes reminiscent of stainless steel, and as the light fades, quieting to a rich dark gray. Aunttomichael -- "soapstone lover" -- got it exactly right: the effect is both serene and intense (which I think is true of soapstone as well.) Before this experience I knew literally nothing about stone. Now I learn from Theresab1 that Im a member of the (very exclusive!) "Azul Macaubas Club" though I agree with Cloud_swift (she of the glorious azul do mar) who calls it the "Quartzite from Brazil Club." While my stone is indeed quartzite from Brazil, I, like Mindstorm, find it hard to believe it shares the same name as Theresab1s amazing stone, which Mindstorm describes as "almost onyx-like in its translucent whiteness with streaks of blue" As she notes, mine is nothing like that! Not at all white or even light-colored. Its predominantly blue with a lot of pale green. In a single slab, the blue ranges from a deep, rich blue to greenish-blue to pale blue to deep lavender a shade Cloud_swift noted in azul macaubas slabs she saw. The only photos Ive seen of anything similar were a variant called Azul Imperial. Theres a lot of interesting information at www.bluemacaubas.com. The most important thing Ive learned, though, is that you dont choose a stone by its name unless you are willing to settle for an arranged marriage!...See MoreWords you can't stand
Comments (214)jmc101, rut ro. I'm guilty of using the word "love" as in I LOVE my new "the most beautiful lamp in the world" lamp...and a slew of other inanimate objects. My mother gets on to me all the time for that. I'm 56 again. Aren't a little old to be getting chastised by my momma? (g) Speaking of loving inanimate objects, I seriously feel like punching a person that calls inanimate objects "sexy" "My new Galaxy S7 is one sexy phone". I just don't get it! Burt Reynolds used to be sexy. Harry Connick Jr IS sexy, but phone, car or watch? Ending a sentence in a preposition. A pet peeve of mine as well but sometimes I do it because to say the sentence correctly sounds too "stuffy" (for lack of a better word). But ending a sentence with "at", NEVER! I had a high school HISTORY teacher that would answer any question that ended in "at" with "between the a and the t". Like, "where's a box of new chalk at?" I don't know if he's right but my one of my brothers researched the grammar rule of never ending a sentence with a preposition. I can't quote him exactly he said it was a Frenchman who decided that Americans shouldn't end sentences with a preposition and that it's not really a "rule" of English grammar. Does anyone have more information on this? I hope all my grammar, sentence structuring and punctuation is right. I'm really feeling self conscience now :o...See Moretrekaren
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