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terrible 3's please help

Posted by ashleykreay22 (My Page) on
Tue, Mar 26, 13 at 23:00

So to start off, this is about my niece. I am her nanny. I have raised her for the most part while mom was working and in school. She was the sweetest thing anyone could ever imagine until the day she turned three. She has only been 3 for about a week and a half but I am already going crazy and I am 30 weeks pregnant! She was potty trained, but now she walks in her room, takes her panties off and pees on her floor. She poops her pants, and poops in the bath tub. If I ask her to put something away, or to not do something she screams at me. When it goes to putting her to bed, it is a constant battle. Screaming, kicking, throwing things etc. I am sure a lot of it has to do with me not being her mom but this is what I do to live here. She is my job and being 30 weeks pregnant I am feeling like she is controlling me. I need help and it would be nice to not be bashed seeming how I am already emotional enough. Thank you

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RE: terrible 3's please help

Well, I guess if she has change her behavior, then it could be several reasons.

She could be more aware of what is going on around her, and might be reacting to the fact that her mother/father is not there. Maybe she realizes that you are not her parent.

Is she eating properly - nutritious food, plenty of fruit, veges, protein etc.

Is she getting enough sleep ?

If you have addressed all those basic requirements for a three year old and you still can't come up with a reason for her different behavior, then can I suggest that you look at the way that YOU relate to her.

Are you using a reward based system of discipline, or is there a lot of yelling and angry words. Have you tried a "time out" way of treating unsavory behavior ?

Children throw up lots of challenges, and as their carers we need to be one step ahead of them.

I think offering "carrots" for good behavior is a good plan. Such as "when we have both tidied up the toybox, we can go to the park". or "If you can poop in the toilet for a whole day we can go and frolic with the birds"

At that age, they like magical, silly, simple things, just think of all the things she likes, reading a special book, feeding the ducks etc, and you have your "carrot" system in place.

Always talk in positive words, remove any negative remarks, gloss over the bad behavior. You will find in a short amount of time she will start being retrained and will do the right thing.

Good luck - this is all good training for you when you have your own child !

Remember you are cleverer than her !

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