If you just stop taking HRT altogether, I doubt it will hurt you physically, but it may make menopause symptoms more severe, or at least that's what I assume. In the old days, before HRT, women just put up with the symptoms, and seemed to survive it fine, but there are pros and cons either way. When my Mom's doc took her off HRT, she just cold-turkey'd it. Hotflashes galore, but I don't think it really made any difference in her weight. Mrs H

It sounds like you are going with a custom company who hires out different parts of their cabinetry. And there is significant debate here whether that's truly custom or not, but that debate is totally irrelevant to your problem. My custom people do it the same way. One company makes their boxes, one makes their doors, and the husband part of the team is the one who orders, coordinates, installs, and makes any little thing that the homeowner can dream turn into reality via working with the various makers of the various peices. (Thus it's custom). However, the person who is handling this coordination process is responsible for getting the details correct. Absolutely correct. If he ordered the doors, he should make sure they are exactly the right size. If something is "off" then he needs to tweak one of the pieces to make it perfect, whether that be the doors or the boxes. Let me give you one example of this. My custom company just branced into inset cabinetry - mine is the first kitchen with a few inset pieces. My cab guy ordered 32" doors for a particular piece, but didn't account for the extra framing that inset has on the top and bottom so that raises my counter height for this peice to 40". I wanted it to be the standard 36" like the rest of the counter. He called, asked me if 40" was acceptable, I said no, so he is eating the cost of the the 2 doors for this piece. I feel bad for him, but unfortunately that is the cost of doing business, and we all know (him included) that he is responsible for ordering correctly. If something is happening that wasn't agreed up, your cabinet guy needs to fix it. The problem might arise if it wasn't very specifically outlined that this was going to be full overlay - and questioning up front as to what exactly full overlay meant to him, seeing an example of what his full overlay looked like, etc. I asked my cabinet people up front what the biggest gap b/w doors would be (as they are full overlay) and they said less than 1/8", and I saw their work so I knew there would be no chance of it going anywhere toward the direction of partial overlay. Did you have these conversations up front?

I have those kinds of dreams too, very frustrating to me. And rest assured, Deb- your privacy is valued very highly around here. NO ONE enters a closed door, in fact, if we even see the door closed, we beat feet to the other side of the house to grant even MORE privacy. And we don't use litter around here, all the cats go outside to potty, so factually, your dream was way off! lol It was nice of Murphy to help you out, though. He's a good boy. Lunchy, too, he's huge. Sammie has a bathroom fetish, he likes to sit in your lap while you're occupied. And usually his feet are cold and wet, because he likes to "swim" in the water bowl. Brrrr!

Thanks sap1967 & vivian31 for listening and responding. It is so nice to have a place where people can relate and understand how you feel in these stepparenting situation. I made it through the day with ss. It was difficult but did it. He continues to think everything that DH and I have is his too. Ss demonstrates this with things like, "our house dad", "our land dad" "our automobile", etc. the list goes on and on. He never paid one penny for any of these things and it bothers me that he thinks it is his. And he has really never worked hard or helped us out by working for us. I work very hard for my money and I have paid for these things along with DH. He can't even hold a part time job. At 20 yr old you think he would start working and get his own things. Will that come with time? Let me know what you think. He acts like a child and when he gets DH husband alone asked for money related things or asked DH NOT to take bio mom back to court. DH is taking his ex to court so he can stop payments to her. There are no more minor children(ss is the youngest), she has a job, makes the same as DH, does not pay anything towards her children, and still gets monthly money from DH. Just doesn't seem right to me or anyone else I talk to. When we arrived home their was another insurance claim from the other step child (24 yr. old) saying she has another health claim. She goes to the doc when she feels like becuase she feels her skin is bad. Her face has a few pimples on it, nothing major. DH call her to check on it and she is not paying the doc bills, good old dad is. SD goes to college (grad school), does not work but has time to train for a marathon, go on trips and party with friends. Here we go again paying on another one I get so upset with all this step parenting stuff. I know it will continue until these step kids grow up and learn responsibility. And when DH wakes up and stops giving all the time, which you both have said he most likely will not. I just want to stress that it is great to have a place to vent and release all this stuff. I have found this site helpful in getting things out and feeling a little less frustrated. By saying things I have, it does not mean that I treat my step kids poorly or anything like that. It just means that it is difficult to deal withthese situtions. Thanks for listening.