Just because you baby seem more advanced than others, please don't point out how smart and gifted your baby is; we'll be able to see it for ourselves. Parents' whose babies aren't as bright are really hurt when you start comparing your baby to theirs.

All babies are different. Not all babies are future Einsteins, so please stop bragging as your smart child might not do too well when she goes to school. Every child developes at a different pace.

We don't need you to tell us how cute your baby is. We'd rather hear you say how cute our babies are.

Don't brag about your baby not getting a lot of sleep. It's a problem, not an accomplishment.

Please don't point out if our baby has a big head; we are aware of it. And don't tell us that there is something wrong with our child because she throws up at the drop of a hat. Some babies take more time to develope their gestational systems than others. If our baby throws up and we think there is a problem, we would have asked our Ped.; we do not need your advice.

Most parents are more concerned about their babies being healthy and happy than bright and loud. We do not enjoy kids screaming at the top of the lungs for fun. It is not cute even if you think it is .

If we want our baby to learn 'tricks', we will teach her ourselves. We do not want or need your help.

If we want your advice, we will asked for us for it. Please do not feel free to advice us no matter how close a friend you are ( or family ). Unless we are harming our kids on purpose, it is up to us how we want our kids brought up. We do not want your opinion. Thanks, but no thanks.

Most of all, just stop bragging about your kids and just keep her/him happy.

I have 3 kids, and all 3 did things at differnet ages.

My second didn't walk until she was about 16 mos. People can be so rude when it comes to things like that. "Why isn't she walking yet?" or "That's because you never put her down to let her walk". Believe me, if she would walk, I would have put her down. It would have been much easier at times.

I have a frined that CONSTANTLY brags about her DS's accomplishments. She is quick to point out the fact that my 2 yr old still has a pacifier. However she sees no problem with the fact that her baby will not leave her lap, for anything. He sleeps with her, always has to be carried, and she even holds him while using the restroom.

I would take my 2 yr old with a pacifier any day, over hers that does not know how to amuse himself.

I am not saying it is wrong to interact at all....I am saying that he needs to learn to comfort himself as well.

It's not just friends, it's family too. I keep hearing how my nephew was tying his shoes at 5. My DD physically cannot tie her own shoes. She will learn, but probably not this year, and maybe not next year. But she will learn.

Maybe because she is not as severe as some children with CP, in fact, most people don't notice it. It is her entire left side that she has trouble with, so when she does things, she uses one hand. She is as smart as anyone else in her class, it's just the physical stuff that people comment on that gets me.

~Leslie~

Then, DD was very petite, while Katie was very chubby, so DD started walking months ahead of my friend's baby. No biggie. It was cute that she walked early, but SO WHAT? This friend would literally lift her baby by the arms and practically drag her around so it looked like she was walking or would say things like, "Katie's walking like a pro at home, she just doesn't like to do it in front of people." So as soon as Katie really did walk (at 14 months or so), the next challenge was to say that she was potty trained. No matter how many diapers she changed this friend would claim, "Katie's potty trained now." How many 14 month old babies who just learned how to walk are potty trained?? Puhleez. I think the kid learned to do things even later than usual because of all the pressure from the mom.

We only get in contact with each other on a rare occasion now (thankfully) but every time we do, it's still the same deal with bragging.

Pam