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Posted by sameboat (My Page) on Fri, Aug 14, 09 at 23:46
| My DS10 has summer reading to do. He has to read three books. He picked out one book (the thinnest one he could find) in July, and he fussed every time we told him to go read. He wouldn't read it before bed, he wouldn't read it even when he said he was bored. I ended up reading the book to him. So we got another book from the library and I refused to read it to him. This is HIS reading project, right? Crying episodes and him lying, saying he did read a few chapters but totally failing my simple quiz, what can I do? He enjoyed listening to me read but I'm sure that is not what the teachers want. Am I right? What can I do? I try to get him to pick topics of interest to him. Nothing seems to interest him. He said he likes books about Star Wars and Legos. What the heck? What's wrong with my kid? What can I do to motivate him? |
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| My DD10 goes through phases where she loves to read and phases where she finds reading a chore. The thing is, she has no choice in our house. I don't care if you think its boring and would rather watch TV, you will read every day for at least 30 minutes, including weekends. One of the things that I find works to avoid the whining is I have DD read books that have become movies. She always wants to watch the movies, but our rule is, you have to read the book first. That really seems to motivate her. She flew through the Harry Potter books, Series of Unfortunate Events, Narnia series, and is now zipping through the Twighlight books. Another thing I do is just grab a book myself and we both sit on the couch and read for a determined length of time, and she seems to like that as she enjoys sharing a funny scene, etc. Also reading at the bookstore or library always seems more enjoyable for her than reading at home. I don't really understand why, but it does. Good luck! |
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| First of all I would think laterally. Do you think he could have some sort of problem with the actual reading process ? Maybe he needs glasses, or he has another problem with his vision. I would never let anything negative be connected with reading. Do you read ? Does his father read ? Does he see you read ? With my son, he really got into reading with those pokemon cards, he is 17 now. He just loved them so much, and there was plenty of reading on the card. This led to books. The sillier the better. Terry Denton, Andy Griffiths, are the authors that my distant memory has dredged up. Titles such as "The Day My bum went psycho" - may not be to your liking, I not sure it was to mine - but my son loved it and thought it very funny. It was one of a series. He read one and was champing at the bit to read the rest of the series. I am in Australia, and I think those authors I mentioned are Aussies. Go to a book shop and ask what 10 year olds like reading. Some ideas for you. Don't give up on this, because I think developing a love of reading, early on, is crucial to them becoming good scholars. Good luck with all of this. Happy reading. |
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| Thank you both for your ideas. My husband and I do read but not novels. We read to learn (music, business/finance info, etc.) and read magazines as well. I remember the Captain Underpants series that DS loved when he was younger but I'm afraid he's outgrown them and there is a list of books the school/library has suggested that he read so he has to pick from those. I think I will go to a bookstore as you suggested and ask what 10-year-olds are into these days, something silly or interesting enough that he may pick it up on his own outside of his school work. I hope so. He's perfectly capable. He can read aloud pretty well with feeling and also pronounces words I never would have thought he could understand. He just hates the school work reading. He can whip through directions on how to put toys together all right. Thank you. |
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| My 10yo SS was thumbing his nose at reading for awhile, so we had evening reads together. I'd read two pages aloud, he'd read one. We'd read for about 15-20 minutes together, then he'd be into the story enough to read on his own for another 10-15. I also decided to start this because his teacher did some reading aloud testing and SS was having a hard time reading with expression, voicing the punctuation, etc. So my reading was a good example of voicing the expression and punctuation, etc. I noticed a HUGE change is his reading after just a few weeks of reading together, and after a couple months of this, he was more into reading again, and also a much better reader. What about a kid's magazine like Owl? Or even the Lego magazine? My SS likes magazines even on days that he isn't interested in novels or non-fiction. I know that's not part of his reading list, but an enthusiasm for reading is worth deviating from the list! |
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| Another idea that might work is books on cd. We check out books and cd's from the library that are a little above my kids reading levels and they listen to the cd as they follow along in the book. Makes it easier. Since your son liked listening to you read to him he may like this. My son is a lot like your son...hates reading! He liked the books on cd better than reading independantly. He also liked books that have movies about them....so we could read the book and then watch the movie. |
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| Oh and another thing I do to get my kids to read is add it to their chore reward chart. Each of my children has specific chores to do weekly and they earn points for them. After a certain amount of points they get extra privilages and earn fun activities. This summer I added reading 20 minutes and practicing math facts to their charts. I don't make them do it daily, but they want to sometimes especially when they are close to earning a reward! |
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| I love, love, love to read and it was a huge disappointment to me that my oldest didn't like to read when he was in the very early elementary years. I think the reason he didn't enjoy reading was because the books that were easy enough to read didn't interest him. Anyway, I read an article that said one of the keys to raising a reader was to find something, anything that your kid likes to read - comic books, magazines, whatever. Don't focus on an appropriate reading level, etc., just get them reading. So I checked out all kinds of reading materials for my son, including comic books and magazines, books above his level, below his level, etc. The article also said that one thing that is great for developing readers is to find a book series they enjoy. That's what finally hooked my son in the second grade. He found a series he loved, and he started reading all the time and buying books with his allowance. If your son likes Star Wars, then there should probably be comic books about Star Wars. There are also series books with a Star Wars theme - my son read those when he was about your son's age. I would do as Ceph suggested and read 2 pages, then let him read the other one. If your son likes sports, there is a series about boys and sports that was popular when my son was in the 4th or 5th grade (he's 20 now). Hatchet, by Gary Paulson is an excellent book and not very "fat". It's about a boy whose plane crashes in the wilderness and the boy, the only survivor, has to survive with just a hatchet. If your son likes adventure and dogs, White Fang by Jack London is a great book. Along with the other suggestions everyone above has made, you might also consider picking a fascinating book that is above his level and read it aloud to him. If he gets deeply involved in the storyline he might read some of it himself when you don't have time. "Fat" books that would have had an absorbing storyline for my son at that age would have been The Hobbit and the Lord of the Rings series and Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card. I loved Ender's Game myself. My son still has his copy. If I had a son like yours I'd do as Ceph suggested and read a couple of pages then let him read a page of the school assigned book. But I'd also have an assigned reading time every night for the entire family, when the house would be quiet and my son would have to read during that assigned time. The tv would be off and my husband and I would read, too. I'd have an assortment of reading material available including comic books, books about deadly creatures like sharks, etc, joke books, books about magic tricks, etc. If he likes to read for knowledge, have books that teach things he might like to do - start a camp fire, do magic tricks, learn to design a web page, etc. Good luck with helping your son with his reading. |
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I agree with all that has been said....but would really urge checking not only vision but whether he has the ability to track words on the page. If reading isn't fun, there maybe a physical reason. Linda c |
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| Last summer, as my oldest was coming into his sophomore year, I convinced him to try honors lit. He had required reading, 3 novels to complete before school started, quizzes on them week one. I felt bad for him, reading Jane Eyre is not how most 15 y/o boys want to spend their summer. ;o) So I said I'd pay him 3 cents/page. Which earned him $10-15 for each novel. His brother, then 11, thought that sounded like a good deal. So I made him the same deal and he also read about 3 books, but shorter. I do not pay my kids allowance for chores, so this deal was especially sweet to them. If you don't want to do money, you could do points. In the Accelerated Reader system so many schools use, each book is worth points. The last school my kids went to had an "Accelerated Reader Store." Kids could spend their earned AR points on cool school supplies, small toys, trading cards- a lot of stuff donated. You could trade points for privileges. Maybe 60 minutes reading (or points/pages) earns an extra 30 mins of gaming/TV time. My 12 y/o needs motivation/reward to read. Even it that's a grade. He knows he is required to pretty much always be reading during the school year. He has to turn in reading response homework and take AR quizzes. So he does what he has to do, he does want the grade. I don't pay during the school year. Unless there is a book *I* want him to read, something of more literary quality than he might choose on his own. Even his reading teacher this year said she will offer rewards for kids who read books from the classics or Newbery prize lists. My 12 y/o loved the Eragon series. Those were challenging at the time he read them, and long. We borrowed them on CD and he followed sometimes. He loves to listen to books on CD. If I download them to my iPod, he will listen in the car or while waiting for siblings practices. (I found out our library has a selection that can be downloaded free and used for 3 weeks before they expire.) I do not see that as cheating, following along with the text while listening. And when it's for pleasure, just listening. My DS has a huge verbal vocabulary. His teachers who know that reading/writing is struggle for him are amazed b/c he uses higher level vocabulary in conversation than they expect him to have based on his reading. But he will not recognize half those big words on the page. That frustrates him. It confounds me, too, when he brings me the books, "What's this word?" b/c I've heard him use the word, correctly, for years! But when he follows along with the CD, he gets so much more of the vocabulary, it's very instructive. He is also just a verbal learner. He can read a story on his own and recall next to nothing. But if he hears it, he knows every detail. So this combination makes sense for him. My 9 y/o DD, sheesh, I'd have to pay her NOT to read! A "special treat" for her is a trip with me to the library or, better yet, bookstore! I hope her interests stays this strong. I just gave my DS 39 Clues, a mystery series that comes with cards with passwords to go online to supplement the mystery solving in the story. I don't know how it is yet, I literally gave it to him as walked out the door to school this a.m. and I have not read it yet myself. But I think it's an interesting idea, especially for less willing readers who do like computers (is there a kid who doesn't?). The school librarian has recommended a series called The Olympians, by Rick Riordan. The first one is called The Lightning Thief. Children of Olympic gods/goddesses are alive and living normal lives today, except they have to save the world. This appeals to me b/c of the allusions to classic mythology, a very good thing to be familiar with. Yet I'm told kids love the books b/c they are witty. Actually, classic mythology is in our school's reading curriculum in middle school, so it gets bonus points for me. Myself, I love the kids books by Carl Hiaasen, Hoot, Flush and the latest, Scat. I think they are hilarious! The misfit kids discover the "bad guys" plotting a crime against the environment and break a few small rules to prove it (like skip school, sneak out). It always ends well, lessons learned by all, and the bad guys especially get some punishment. The best irony! But be warned, parents who expect really clean books for their kids, there are some 4-letter words and misbehavior. It does not bother me b/c I think the books are too much fun to read, and it does work out well in the end. Also, they are excellent ways to talk about character development, descriptive settings, irony, foreshadowing, and more, on a kids' level. They are great to read together and talk about, there are good topics for discussion and humor to just enjoy together. Jerry Spinelli, another really good author to know for middle grade readers. Kids love him, topics they can relate to, funny, and not usually too long. But look at the summary, b/c of the topics, some books are for more mature readers than others. Some are great for 4th grade, some better for 8th grade. Remember kids really do learn a lot from reading fiction. Not just vocabulary and spelling. But they pick up great information (like the mythology stuff, or in Hiassen's books, geographic details about the environment) that they will store away in their minds. What they learn from good fiction will help them across the curriculum. (Yes, I'm a middle school reading teacher, I'm just not working these days.) |
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| First, I understand that every kid doesn't like to read, but after reading your remarks: "I ended up reading the book to him" or "Crying episodes and him lying, saying he did read a few chapters but totally failing my simple quiz, what can I do?" makes me think he's learned that if he puts up a fuss, he doesn't have to do something if he doesn't feel like it. Lots of people on this thread have given you good suggestions about book series that hopefully will get him more interested in general. I definitely agree with mixing in comic books, and how-to manuals for things he likes to do to help him discover why reading is fun or of value to him. But, at 10 (starting 5th grade in the fall?), he has to read things he doesn't necessarily love. And he has to take the time to comprehend and process what he reads. My suggestions to help with the immediate need of accomplishing reading the 3 summer books and hopefully helping him with the follow-through on reading assignments during the schoolyear: 1. Sit down next to him and read your own book while he's reading his. Stay until he reads a chapter or two or whatever you think is reasonable. As you're sitting next to him, casually ask him from time to time what's going on. As someone who's interested, not as someone grilling or testing him. 2. You don't mention TV watching or video game playing, but if your son spends a lot of time doing those activities, reading seems slow and boring. From my observations with DS and his friends, there is such a direct correlation... more TV and video = less reading, that it is simply a standing rule in our household that no TV or computer or video game is on until the daily routine is done. That includes household chores, piano practice, personal grooming, reading, homework, etc. No choice, no discussion. We even make jokes about how DS turns into "video-head" otherwise and nothing gets done. 3. To me, consistency and routine is the key, especially for changing a behavior. If you buy in to his crying and lying, it's not helping him. And I don't believe simple punishment (i.e., taking away his Legos until the books are read) or reward (paying for pages) will help either. It takes time to incorporate change. He needs your help establishing that new pattern. One last idea that I used to do with DS (and still sometimes do because it's fun), is start by reading a page, then have him read the next, and keep switching off, you and him, page by page. Make it as silly as possible, exaggerate the voices, whisper, use gestures and sound effects, speed up then talk in slow motion, anything animated. Encourage him to do the same. It might help get the situation back on track in a non-adversarial way. Hope that helps. |
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| Perhaps you could come from the angle of 'need to read". For instance, he wants to make a cake- a recipe needs to be followed - he needs to do a bit of reading to enable him to make the cake. It has to be something he really wants to achieve - try to think along those lines. When my children were little I used make reading a game, whenever we were in the car, I would point out signs, and they would read them. I guess its about putting in that ground work very early on, that is so important. |
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| " She always wants to watch the movies, but our rule is, you have to read the book first". Us too! Start out small. Have him read a magazine first. Then add a thin book, then a thicker book. |
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| My wife is a teacher with a particular passion for reading, and particular abilities with kids. Boys tend to learn differently from girls, and at a different rate....and tend to like different stuff. I picked up on something you mentioned, Star Wars and Legos. Find whatever on those you can, and let him read them. Let him read the phone book if he wants. As adults we tend to impose our own preferences on kids for types and styles of reading. I love fiction and believe we should all read it, and the world would be poorer without it, however, some people are not into it - you said you and your husband don't read fiction. Why not? Son may be picking up from you to some extent. Set an example by reading fiction but guess what? Schools tend to put too much focus on fiction and some kids really aren't into it. As I said, what they read isn't as important as them reading. My daughter didn't like ANY fiction til Harry Potter, until then all she read was nonfiction, dinosaurs, etc. Maybe he's the same. Let him read nonfiction, the Guiness Book of world records is a favourite with boys. Comic books and graphic novels are also something to try. Don't scoff at them, they're reading, and it leads to more reading. Just make sure the content's age-appropriate! If he can read instructions etc it would appear he's more into factual stuff. Get him into that - the Dorling-Kindersley are a wonderful series of factual books on a range of topics, wonderfully illustrated with a very appealing style.... What you need to do is end the conflict, currently he's learning to despise reading. Try these new approaches, and take a step back. Discuss the situation with his teacher, privately. Teacher may have some good suggestions... but I certainly agree with assigned summer reading, they have a term for the 'loss' that occurs during the summer holidays but kids who DON'T read during the holidays can lose several reading levels...those who do can gain them. Or, here's a thought. Take him to a bookstore, give him a budget, say, buy two books. Unless it's something age-inappropriate, let him buy what he wants...don't show your disapproval of his choices, even if you don't agree with the choices from a personal point of view. Reading choices are one of the few things a child has any control over, let it be an empowering thing. |
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| Thank you all for your insight. I am just now returning to review it all. He's started school and is enjoying himself. He got a book out of the library about how to be a funny kid...by Jay Leno! Hey he's liking it. And I think it helps that he really likes his teacher this year. He's motivated. |
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| Sameboat...if you're still reading this thread I would suggest you find a magazine on a subject that your son enjoys. Reading is reading whether it's a book or a magazine. Perhaps find him some books on topics that he enjoys, whether it's four-wheelers, swimming, baseball...anything that you think he would actually read. Another tactic I have used with my reluctant reader was to have them read the book to me. One chapter a day. Another tactic is you read to him. Kids enjoy listening to a story so read to him at bedtime. He's not too old. Adults listen to recorded books afterall. Every summer my kids pick a series of books that we read every night at bedtime. I started this when my oldest was young and I've continued doing it because I enjoy it as much as they do. Now, my 16 yo will come sit on the bed and listen while I read the books to my younger kids. Sometimes they will ask if they can read a chapter but for the most part, they want to listen to the story. Whether they are reading or you are reading to them...they have to engage their imagination's. Two of my kids were reluctant readers and now all of them read as a hobby. But, I also read alot so they learn by example as well. And we'll talk about what we're reading so that is fun for them too. |
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