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Posted by sugarmag (My Page) on Thu, Aug 2, 07 at 9:30
| Hi. I have been dating my boyfriend for the last two years, one of which we have lived together with his now 6 year old daughter. We are very much a step-family aside from the legallity of being married. I have developed a very strong relationship with her and we both are struggling with how to tell her we are breaking up. I don't want her to feel like it is her fault, that I am leaving because I want to, or that her father wants me to. We both agree to maintain a good friendship and that we will still all see each other. Does anyone have advice on how best to tell her this and how we can both help her through this? |
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| I am sure that you both have good intentions of staying friends and all seeing eachother, but it is very unrealistic. If you got along so well I doubt that a break-up would be necessary. I think that you should make sure that the daughter understands that this is not her fault, but I think that it is better for you to just fade out. As you and he begin to date other people it is very unlikely that others will be okay with you two continuing this "friendship". When my son was young I was with a guy for a few years and my son became very fond of him. When I broke things off with the guy and he was out of the picture my son would ask about him. I would just tell him that things did not work out. My son eventually stopped asking. He and his father have a close relationship, so it was not like my bf was the only male in his life. Does your bf's daughter have her mother in her life? Kids can be more resiliant than we think. Good luck! |
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