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13 year old bedwetter

Posted by Heidiho (My Page) on
Sat, Jun 12, 04 at 15:40

My grandson still wets the bed at age 13. My daughter has been going to Dr.'s for years and had his kidney's and bladder checked and everything checks out ok. She's tried everything to help him but nothing works. So he's been wearing pull-ups at night for years. His younger sister doesn't wet.
His father was a bedwetter and so was my daughter but they both stopped on their own at 12-13 years old.

Anyway, the problem now is that a couple of his neigborhood friends found out and now she doesn't know how to handle this problem. Every once in awhile the boys argue and don't talk for a couple of weeks then they're friends again. She's kinda friendly with the mothers & was wondering if she should ask them to discuss this with their child hoping they could explain the traumatic effect it would have on her son if this got out in his first year of jr. high ; or would it be better not to bring it up at all in hopes that it'll be forgotten by the time school starts? Any suggestions appreciated. Thanks for your time and have a very nice weekend.


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RE: 13 year old bedwetter

Has your daughter taken your grandson to a counselor or a therapist? If he's wetting the bed & it's not medical, it could be psychological.

My younger brother wet the bed for the longest time too. If I'm remembering right, it took him being teased by all his friends before he stopped, but I'm pretty sure his was a psychological problem that didn't get treated though.

If your daughter does talk to the friends moms, it could go either way. One, the kids could imagine how they'd feel, or two, they could act like young teenagers and blurt it out (even without meaning to). It's an unfriendly world out there for our young ones & I'd hate to be in my own teen's place.

If it was me, I wouldn't mention it to the other kids' moms. My oldest daughter is 13 (she'll be in 8th grade this fall) & she'd be horribly hurt if I shared something that private with another parent (and it would get back to her). My younger daughter is almost 11 & she'd be heart broken if I shared anything of that nature with anyone, even family.


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Ann Landers used to recommend a battery alarm device you could buy at Sears catalog. I think it was called Wee Wetter, and it worked beautifully!


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I would take off the pull ups, by doing that he will not sleep peacefully. Nobody wants to sleep on a wet bed. Make him get up strip the sheets and put dry ones on, like the little boy in the commercial. All 3 of my sister's boys wet the bed until around that age. When diapers no longer held the urine she put towels on them, no pull ups at that time. None of the rest of the kids in the family had that problem. The first night one of my boys went through the night with out wetting the bed the diapers came off and training pants went on. Believe he knew that he was doing it and didn't like it.


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When my son was 7 and still wetting the bed, our pediatrician gave us these suggestions:
*have him set an alarm and he needs to get up and use the bathroom when it goes off. If he has already wet the bed, he needs change his sheets and take care of everything himself.
Prior to this, he was sleeping right through it, so he wasn't really AWARE that it was happening. Well, we did this and after 3 nights the bedwetting completely stopped and he's never wet the bed since (he's almost 12).

I would suggest stopping the Pull-Ups.


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I know it is tramatime for kids to still be doing this, at this age. I say just leave them alone, let them change their own beds, and just act like it is no big deal. The will quit when his body will let him, trust me I KNOW!


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Poor kid...
He may be sleeping so deeply, or dreaming that he is using the bathroom, and so the accidents happen. I'm with Seamer, he's bound to out-grow this.


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I started bedwetting as a teenager. My dr gave me a medication that held my bladder through the night. It made a world of difference!

Ask the DR!

I think the persons who said to take off the pullups should have to pay for the mattress that will be required to replace whatever he sleeps on. The problem isn't fixed yet.


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I have plastic covers on all of our mattresses in case of an accident of some kind. Their expensive to replace.


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Medication can help manage the problem, but it is very common in children with Attention Deficit Disorder. Apparently the two are very closely aligned. Most grow out of it, don't make a big deal out of it. Pullups work.


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My son, at age 10, still wets the bed as well. He also has ADHD and the doctor explained that since his central nervous system isn't as advanced, we could expect the bedwetting to continue indefinitely and then end on it's own. We've also tried the alarms, etc (which he sleeps right thru), and for a child *such as my son* I would NEVER recommend leaving off the pull-ups. My son is embarrassed enough when he wets thru the pull-up, and it's not a matter of being uncomfortable enough to not sleep - he's such a heavy sleeper that he doesn't even notice till he wakes up in the morning. There IS medication available, for when he goes to sleep-overs, etc, but it's not for every day use or convenience as it interferes with hormones and kidney functions. We've resigned ourselves to the fact that he WILL eventually grow out of it, and it's part of his everyday chores to wash his sheets and comfortor. Back to the original question, I would speak to the other boys' mothers. 13 is just, imo, old enough to get over the teasing factor and if it's explained to them in the right way, they may be more compassionate about it. Good Luck!


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My son is 13 and is also a bedwetter as well. we stopped using goodnights,just kept leaking, so we now use cloth diapers and plastic pants. he likes them better.he does not like to go on sleepovers with his friends.as a mom and dad, we would love to chatt with you, and are sons could do the same if that ok with you?


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I have 2 sons, one 11 and the other is 13, who is still wetting the bed 2 or 3 times a week. My youngest son, never had this problem. I don't think it's psychological at all. I do believe he is a deep sleeper who has developed such a bad habit it is extremely hard to break now. I have also been told he will outgrow it on his own. I pray that is true. He does his own laundry and takes a shower every morning. it is extremeley frustrating for me but I have accepted that it is out of my control after i have tried EVERYTHING. He has to want to change this behavior more than me. I am consider hypnotherapy and after that, I'm out of options. We have the medication but I am also trying to save that as a last resort.


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Good luck to all of you. My grandson is now 19 years old and no longer wets the bed. He just quit on his own last year.
Maybe the fear of knowing one day soon he would not be sleeping alone helped him to overcome his problem.lol
We just don't know. Whatever it was that stopped him it has been a relief to those of us who love him as it is for him.
Don't give up on your children/grandchildren.
They will quit when they are ready.
Meanwhile just keep washing sheets or let them wash them and shower asap.
Good luck again.


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Just about everybody grows out of this. I know it's incredibly frustrating while it's going on -- especially when it's gone on beyond a "normal" age. In the situations I've been close to, none of the various medications or therapies accomplished anything other than stressing everybody out. All of the situations worked out over time as the people grew. Absorbent shorts, good hygiene, and good-working laundry machines can get you through indefinitely.

Kids/people are different. This is one of the differences. Make a mental adjustment. Take practical measures. And wait.


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My son will be 13 soon and still wets the bed. He has tried the "alarm", us waking him up every 2 hours, putting him on an air mattress right next to the bathroom, with pull-ups, without pull-ups,the DDAVP medication and trips to the Urologist. Nothing has helped. Pediatrician says "give it time". He used to manage w/Pull-ups for sleep-overs and Scout Camp but now we feel it is far too risky! He could easily be "discovered" (the smell or just being seen with it). Boys at this age can be brutal. We have serious concerns over the potential fallout from his peers and he thinks we're being unreasonable. I wish I could make this go away for him!! With all my heart!!!!!!!


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Hi, my daughter went through a terrible time wetting the bed. At 11 she was such a deep sleeper I had concerns that she might never overcome this obstacle. I had a friend with a son who wet the bed and she told me she tried this alarm that cured him in THREE nights. It was hard to cough up $100 for an alarm I was sure wouldn't work, but I felt I had to try everything.

After purchasing it only took my daughter THREE nights as well! It has been 5 years now and to this day I cry everytime I think of how long it took and how I almost didn't believe it would work and how much longer it could have taken for her to overcome on her own.

The alarm I used was called Malem. I bought the one that vibrated as well as sounded. The best money I ever spent and the best feeling in the world was the day that a close friend of mine confided that her son had a wetting problem. I gifted it to her and wahlah....the same success.

I wish you all out there the very best!


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Has he been tested for diabetes? That can cause bed wetting. So can sleep disorders. It isn't normal to sleep through an alarm, the feeling of urgency to urinate, and a wet bed.

He may have sleep apnea which can be causing him to be exhausted to the point that he'll sleep through those things. Very deep sleep can also be narcolepsy.

He should get a sleep study done. Find a sleep specialist and a sleep clinic. It's important.


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My step daughter was still wetting the bed at 18 years old. We had been to every doctor imaginable -- every thing from pediatric urologist to neurologist and nothing. Alarms did nothing. The typical medications - DDAVP, imipramine, ect. - nothing. Still, she had may 1 dry night a week. One day, I noticed something odd. She had injured her back playing volleyball. At the same time, she had been dry most of the last 3 weeks. I started trying to find anything that was different - food, drink, habits. Then, I realized she had been taking ibuprofen 800mg three times a day during that time. I scoured the web looking for any information I could find. I found a pediatric urologist at Rutgers University who was doing research on the use on non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs for the treatment of bedwetting. As it turns out, some people produce too many prostaglandins at night. Somehow, and please don't ask me how, the prostaglandins cause the bladder to be dysfunctional. It has something to do with preventing the reabsorption of sodium. Anyway, the research showed that while ibuprofen may or may not work, the best NSAID for bedwetting was indomethacin because it works primarily on the type of prostaglandin (PG1) that causes the bladder dysfunction. She started taking indomethacin 50mg at bedtime and was dry 6 out of 7 nights. The dose was increased to 75mg at bedtime and she has been dry for 4 months. According to this doctor, there is no easy test to see if this is the problem. However, if all other medications fail, it is worth a try. All I know it has changed the life of a young lady who has had to deal with this her entire life. Give ibuprofen a try. If you get any kind of results at all, see your doctor. Indomethacin requires a prescription. The indomethacin dose is 25mg -100mg at bedtime. While indomethacin can cause stomach problems, I have been assured by the doctor and the pharmacist that a one a day dosing will typically be okay. Hope this helps.


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