Guys DO talk about the same things women do - but generally with other guys instead of women - at least in California. It might be different in NY. However, there is no reason to assume that the husband has any idea of what the wife did - it would be very easy for her to buy clothes for herself or other indulgences that the husband might think she actually could afford. I'll admit that most men have no idea how much women's clothes cost. For example, my boss once told a group of salesmen (who were selling high end furniture) that they should tell their clients, "Anyone can go into a store and buy a dress for $2,000 off the rack, but if you want a couture dress, you would have to go to a special salon and pay $20,000 for a custom dress." I'm not sure if that helped sell furniture, but it does illustrate the concept that prices for common items can vary greatly. She could also have investments that she keeps hidden. It's easier to hide things from men than from women. I think your husband should continue to ride bikes with his friend - and if he feels comfortable in bringing up the subject, he can. He could do it in a round about way - such as asking how his wife is doing. He doesn't have to refer to the article directly. From what you've said, there is little reason to be suspicious of the husband, although that does not mean (yet) that he was unaware of what she was doing. When I used to go bike riding with one friend, he would talk to me about pretty much everything - even about the one time he cheated on his wife. Lars

Is there a way to just agree the fence is not entirely on either property and accept it as the agreed upon boundary? Then if a new fence is ever needed it can be put entirely on one property or the other? Or agree you will maintain the fence even the portion on their land? When the neighbor bought their property, was there a survey that showed the fence crossed into their property line? It is my understanding that this is a common problem (a fence crossing the property line). Are you wanting to change the fence or be responsible for maintaining it? Or wanting to prevent them from changing it? How much would it cost to build a new fence within your property line? (I was going to ask how much it would be to move the existing fence, but is there a question of ownership since it is partially on their property?) Did you build the fence? If I bought a lot and the neighbor tried to "take" any part of it, I would resist as well. Especially if it decreased my lot size. Is there any land on their side of the fence in another area that is yours that could be traded so there is no decrease in either lot size? I have bought property in a similar situation, with a cinderblock wall, and it said something like the wall is known to cross both properties. It was a 50 + year old wall and it was never a problem. What is your reason for wanting legal ownership of that 6 inch strip of land? It seems important to find a way to peacefully resolve this since they are your neighbors. (Maybe you could offer to buy it from them?) From their perspective, you were trying to "take" something that they felt they had paid for and had a title and deed for. Good luck!

Amber, we are set up with the title iv d support office to go after bm to get her to pay her support. There is no dealing with them on past due support. It's due period. They won't take it off unless it's paid. I've been dealing with them with my ds11's case for 11 years also and my dh is adopting ds11.... they have told me time and time again there is no taking back support off until it's paid in full. I don't have to be told again that that can't happen. I also would NEVER do that. Like I said, I have receipts for EVERYTHING for the past year as far as extracurricular activities and medical bills that she owes for. It's $393 total. So, if she'd like to pay her attorney to draw this up and go to court I'm all for that. I'll bring all my receipts that prove what she's supposed to pay. I've just recently won a medical bill war with ds11 bd. I had no lawyer, just receipts. I won. So, I guess we can take out everything else I said dh paid for.... we still are owed more then she is and this doesn't even include the back support. I threw all that extra in to show that she's a biotch and is totally selfish. And just so we are clear here..... whenever my dh paid for any of those things it was because she would tell him ss would just go without because she wasn't going to get it. So he would have had shoes that were too small or raggity hair, etc. We could have also taken her back to court asap back then for a lower support order because we had him more then the 10% of the time the original order was drawn up for.... we had him more then half the time. I did consult an attorney about that then. DH just decided he didn't want to fight her. Again, I'm fine if she wants to take this to court. I have my receipts that prove she owes us more then we owe her. So in the end she'll owe us and her attorney. That's totally fine with me. I'll see her there with bells on. I keep meticulous records now with her because I learned with her that she can't be trusted. I dare her. Let's go. Also, dh can't remember if he paid it or not. I didn't think he did... but since technically I won't be allowed to speak.... and he's not lying by saying he didn't know if he paid it or not we can go with that. It wasn't to be paid through the courts anyway, it was to be paid to her directly. So after 11 years I doubt she can show proof that it wasn't paid as well as we can't show proof that it was. I honestly don't believe a judge will side with her on this.... and again if he did.... she'll still owe us money in the end. Psuedo.... it's not technically on credit yet. It's not going to be reported anywhere unless we all stop paying. DS16's bd was set up with them to pay half each month. Yes, it's in our name but they will call us when they don't receive their payment. Then we call them and biotch at them. In the end I paid ds16's braces fee..... and I'll be taking that bd to court soon if he's not paying me back. I give him a break more then anyone else because he does most everything else he's supposed to do.... just not buy Christmas. UGH..... If she doesn't pay, in the end we will pay it but she'll be going to court to get that to us. And no, I'm not worried about paying an attorney, I'll go pro se. I already won this argument in November with ds11 bd. All you have to have is a receipt. I'll also get her to pay by threatening that if we go to court we will go to court to have her support raised as well. When support was established she didn't have a job.... she has a good job now she just doesn't want to part with her drug/alcohol money. I know this sounds horrible and manipulating but it works to get the bio parents to pay sometimes. She's more manipulative then anyone I know so she deserves some in return. This orthodontist will work with me because I should own at least a door to his building. Spending like $20000 and staying on top of the payments gets you some assistance if that pos doesn't help out. They won't just send us away.

I have a co-worker whose wife did this very same thing although I did not work with him at the time of the incident and he is no longer married to this woman, although he said this is not what ended the marriage. In his case, he knew nothing about it and was completely surprised by it all. They were in huge credit card debt because he was not working for one year due to an old injury and rising medical bills. He said that his wife did buy lots of stuff but she made well over $100,000 per year (this was 10 years ago) and so nothing appeared out of the ordinary. During the divorce he found out just how bad things were for her and them. She had managed to take out over 50 credit cards and maxed these out. She put these in his name, her name, her son's name and he did not know a thing. In her case, she was an insurance agent and she would get new clients to sign up for insurance coverage but she never did the paperwork. When people started making claims for their insurance, she tried to cover it with the cash advances from the credit cards. She got caught when she went out on maternity leave. So, I see entirely how a spouse would not know. It does happen all the time. As for what should you do, I would talk to him and only offer support but don't pass judgment. Just like my co-worker, he could believe that this is all just a mistake and she didn't do it. On another note, it could be that this is just a mistake and she really didn't do it and is totally innocent. The last thing they need is for their friends to abandon them. JMO.