Should I let My Adult Children Go?
sadmama
16 years ago
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Comments (5)I'm so sorry. These things sort of build up over time, & you don't notice it until they're just unbearable. Both you & your husband have endured enough; it's time you stopped subjecting yourselves to this abuse. Your children have too little responsibility & too much power, & they will only get worse if they're allowed to. You & your husband are each other's partners; you take care of each other, you support & love each other, you scrub one another's backs in the shower & you bring each other soup & crackers when you have a tummyache. You are life partners, & it's way past time for you to have your own holiday traditions- traditions that are fun! (I usually think of "time to start our own traditions" as a younger couple having holiday celebrations in their own home rather than going to either set of parents. Here, I think it's time to have your holiday celebrations in your own home & not go to your children's!) Your own home is a nice, cozy, comfortable, harmonious place to be. Fix yourselves a nice dinner, light a fire if you can, have a glass of wine, watch old movies, talk (what a concept!); enjoy yourselves the way you're entitled to. Do not talk about the children; do not think about the children; these times are for the two of you. You're lucky to have each other, & time goes by very fast. Start your traditions this year....See MoreEating my words: spin off from Adult children at home.....
Comments (11)Well, of course you did the right thing. No area is exempt from problems with crime and gangs. They've invaded every area of society, it seems. I would definitely assume your son is telling the truth. But even if he isn't--what does that mean? He's feeling insecure, unable to live on his own. He NEEDS you right now, for whatever reason. As long as you have rules in your home, and he's expected to abide by them, there's nothing wrong with letting a grown child back in your home. I can tell you this--even moving an hour away from our old home and where our daughter currently lives and works, I have a space for her in the new place. She's got a room if she wants it when she comes to visit, and if she ever feels the need to boomerang back, she's more than welcome. I would even fix up the finished basement as an apartment for her (it has a separate entrance), if she wanted it. They're always our children, and I think we always try to be there for them....See Morestargazzer
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