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Motivating children
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Posted by snysen (My Page) on Tue, Feb 27, 07 at 8:56
| Hi,
I am searching a toy for my son. I found the good product at direct2deal.com
That is "Little Tikes Junior Quad – Red" in $49.99. I think it is lowest price because I bought that product one and half month ago for my friend’s son in $140.
What do you think about that product? Is it lowest price?
If you know the place where it is available in lower price then direct2deal.com’s price, Please let me know where it is I want to buy this toy for my son.
Here is the question for all Reader: Can gifts motivate children? |
Here is a link that might be useful: Little Tikes Junior Quad – Red
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RE: Motivating children
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| I think gifts can motivate kids but it can also turn them into materialistic spoiled brats. If you want to have to buy something for your kid everytime you want him to do something, then it may work, although he'll probably bring this 'entitlement' issue into his adult life (including work and married life and it won't get him far). In the long run it's a very bad idea to use gifts as motivation for kids. I guess everyone does it from time to time, but I'd try to stay away from doing it a lot. Hopefully, this toy is for a b-day and not because Johnnie put his own pants on ;) Remember to consider shipping charges for the toy. Some places could have a higher price but less shipping charges. The link has the item for $46 if you don't use goggle check out..if you use it, it's $36..not sure about shipping charges though. |
Here is a link that might be useful: Little Tikes
RE: Motivating children
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| You need to think of the weight of your child and what the weight limit of this toy is as well, if you get it make sure he wears a helmet:) Toys are not a good motivation tool. It does not work, honestly, and before you know it they are asking for stuff and you never even see them play with it but for the first few hours after it is out of the package. If you only allow big gifts for Birthdays and Christmas, they will think wisely before choosing what they wish for. I do give small gifts for special occasions, like a fantastic report card or in the case of my kindergardner if he gets a certain amount of green stars (good days)he gets to choose a hotwheel (his obsession) He is very careful with these cars, he sleeps with them and he has a special spot he puts them in (hiding them just in case the hotwheel theif happens to be around) while he is not playing with them.
Now my older son, he was more spoiled when he was younger, I always went overboard buying him this and that, he would want something at the store and I would buy it, until I started noticing that he had so many brand new toys that he never played with, and he had no respect for his toys.
It took me a long time to undue the damage that I had done to him:(
He still asks for stuff at the store but both know now that they aren't getting it, I tell them to put it on their wish lists, but if they ask for it more then once they know they won't get it at all no matter what (I really hated having to take back the video game I had bought the older one for Christmas, because he asked me for it more than once) It is as hard on me as it is on them, because I enjoy giving them things.
My motivation that seems to work well is arts and crafts, or even baking, they do something for me and I will do something for them, they love to help me bake, and when I pull out my box of craft stuff, they will jump to attention and listen to what I am wanting them to do and they do it right away (watching the box on the table to make sure it don't go nowhere) |
RE: Motivating children
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Gifts and favors should never be a reward for good behavior...but should be given out of love....and love should not be connected with good behavior.
A child should behave well because you expect them to and because they want to please you and be a good person.
To make a connection between the 2 with a child is to insure raising an adult who never performs any action without asking "What's in it for me".
You buy him a riding toy because you want to keep him busy and develope gross motor skills...not because you want to motivate him to be a good boy.
Linda C |
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