I've developed my own system of chores. Roommates do not use my private bathroom. They are responsible for cleaning the front bathroom. My boys are also responsible for cleaning the front bathroom. So our front bathroom gets cleaned three times a week. Roommates clean the bathroom on Tuesday, oldest son on Thursday, youngest son on Saturday. Some of our chores are daily, others are weekly Everyday somebody is scheduled to take out the trash. Some days the trash goes out two or three times if there is a lot of it. And it gets bagged up securely, so it doesn't leak out all over, creating a nasty mess! I hate having to scrub the garbage can too often ... Everyday somebody different sweeps or vacuums the kitchen floor, and a different person does the same to the dining room floor. Twice a month all of us work together to sweep and mop the entire house, under the beds, pull out the sofa, move all the furniture that we can move, and shake out all of the rugs really good, and wash any rugs that need washing. Bathroom rugs and seat cover get washed every week. Somebody different is scheduled every week. Other chores on the list (posted in the kitchen clearly for everyone to see) include: Untility room, clean off the washer, pick up yard trash (different person each week picks up the yard trash at least two times a week), sweep the porch. I monitor the roommate's side of the refrigerator, and let them know if they have any food that needs to be thrown out, or need to wipe up any spills. My oldest son also helps to monitor the roommates and his little brother (13 and going for his purple belt in Karate), not so little anymore!

Obviously, you can. In my case, my mom had her good moments and was a great grandmother. As they became adults, the kids all saw how she treated me and my sister differently than she treated them and it bothered them but she treated all the grandchildren and great-grandchildren wonderfully. I would watch her interact with them and wonder why she can't give my sister and I the same unconditional love and support she gave them. At the same time, she no longer had any power over me and, for most of my life, was unable to hurt me or bring me down as I wouldn't allow it. It was not worth it to me to cut her out of my life because of the way that would have impacted the other family relationships. Seeing the loving relationships she had with her grandchildren and their happiness interacting with her gave me joy. All my statements are in past-tense because she has very advanced Alzheimer's and no longer knows any of us. If someone is toxic enough where they cause pain for the entire family, it's a different situation. If she had caused emotional harm to my children, I would have cut her out of our lives in a heartbeat. I think, in the end, the decision to cut out someone has to be based on how you will feel about it. If you will feel better and feel free, do it. If it will make you feel guilt or regret, maybe not. In that case, I'd suggest counseling to help you determine if the guilt or regret would be mitigated by the happiness cutting ties might bring. In any case, a good counselor can help you sort out the best course of action, if all contact should be cut or if it simply means better boundaries.

You can get a headboard the same color as the dresser, and match the night stands with it. And based on the photo below, you can use the grays tones instead of the green. dark gray sheets and lighter gray on the walls, with some decoration in wood style. And do the decorations on the blue that she wants, with pillow, a rug, curtains...

what a great space for him. so many ideas. first thing I'd do is some built-ins in some of those nooks. simple plywood, paint. For books, video games, collections, etc. that inset next to the J would be the perfect spot for a built in bookcase. Look at Ikea hacks, or DIY inset bookcase tutorials. Ikea Billy Bookcasehack: https://food52.com/blog/25110-best-ikea-billy-bookcase-hacks how about a mural (peel and stick) of some sort? you could do it on the wall or on that sloped ceiling above his bed. bring in some sstring lights and drape them from wall to wall do a lower bed like this, back in that corner, string the lights around it, and remove that nightstand, replace w/a cute table. or something like this platform style bed. put on a regular mattress or a futon mattress. do a diff light. remove that futon across from it and bring in a low-boy dresser of some type. bring in lots of thin, cotton dhurrie rugs you could do a roman clay treatment on the wall and paint a dark color. maybe bring in some faux beams from side to side drape the lights over those: for the lower areas that are wasted space, do something like these low open shelf cubbies (enlarge this pic to see them) decor ideas, lighting, bean bags, get some cheap pine tongue and groove flooring (lumber liquidators) and install it on one wall, or on one of the angled ceilings, or around the desk area, behind the sofa, etc what's under that carpet? some type of wood? you could paint it w/porch paint and thrown down a bunch of cool looking rugs. maybe redo the desk w/Ikea desk hacks. you could get a solid piece of butcher block (or a remnant), span it to fit across the entire area under the window, (use cleats to get it to 'float') and then some pull out ikea drawers. or something like this gray one. maybe hang a light directly over the desk, or get a desk light remove that heavy blue drape, and do an inset window blind. I did this black cellular blind on my sons bedroom window. If you get the blackout option, you won't need the heavy drape to block out the light. something liek this. it's less bulky looking, the desk looks better, (frame out the window w/white trim if you're using a dark shade), and the pendant light gives overhead light in that dark space.