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Posted by wendysmith (My Page) on Wed, Jan 16, 02 at 15:42
| I wanted to thank everyone for their support and good advice. I really appreciated feeling like I was doing the right thing. Thought I would update on DD reaction! She told me all about how she needed the money and would be ok babysitting that late. I said sorry, but it is too late. She didn't say anything else and I wasn't sure if she was mad. Turns out she was relieved. She said later that it would have been too long for her and she wouldn't have wanted to fall asleep because how can you do a good job when you are asleep. Ok, that went over better than expected. Next, no she couldn't go with her friends family up to the mountains (bad weather and ice on top of partying drivers)on New years Eve, coming back sometime before midnight. Her friend informed her that I had her on a tight lead and wouldn't let her do anything! Great, huh!! Several days later she is watching TV with DH and I and she say's that her friends Mom can't be very responsible to go to the mountains in bad weather on New Years Eve (my thoughts exactly). I knew she had good judgement but this was a surprise. Thanks again for the help. |
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RE: follow up-am I too strict with my daughter
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| I'm glad things worked out. Don't you just love the "tight leash" comments from friends? They're usually from girls/boys who I fully expect will be in trouble by the time they're 16. |
RE: follow up-am I too strict with my daughter
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| Great job Mom! Sometimes it feels like there's more peer presure now than when we were kids. I mean for ourselves. We feel pressured to give our kids all the things that other kids have including freedom. Be strong and let your instints guide you and remember when you say no you may be helping out other moms who are having trouble saying no. |
RE: follow up-am I too strict with my daughter
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| And see, you send a really powerful message about responsibility, etc., and have taken a big step toward shaping her values and standards, etc. She was also, in front of that TV, probably consciously sending you the message that she actually approves of your decision even if she doesn't like it. Nice for you! |
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