With 5 children, a husband and a busy life all around, my biggest help has been a book by Julie Morganstern called "Organizing from the inside out." There is alot of information about what I was doing and how I was doing it and how I needed to put it into prespective, rethink, and learn. If any of you are like me and at first don't have time to think much less read, there is also a web site www.audible.com where you can purchase it to download onto your computer or mp3 player and listen to it as you do... whatever. She covers the many differnt reasons we all do what we do and how to fix it right. I hope this helps...