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purging, purging, purging!!!

talley_sue_nyc
19 years ago

I had an unexpected day off yesterday. Our church's organist is away, and I was asked to "fake it" at a funeral in the middle of the day.

What w/ commuting time, etc., it just wasn't worth it to come to the office. So I had time at home, WITH NO KIDS!! (I love them, but I *cannot* get anything done while they are in the apartment)

In the morning, I went through my paperback books--and the equivalent of 2.5 big moxing boxes is leaving my house! 1.75 to a charity used-book store, and the rest to my mom, to read and toss, or read and return (only 4 are coming back yay!)

Then off to church. Eva was 103 years old.

Back home, to fold clothes and go through my closet.

I was really pretty ruthless. I think I kept 3 things I maybe shouldn't have. And I've kept some jackets that I probably will wear, but maybe will discover I'm done with--tired of.

I threw out a medium kitchen trashbag full, and filled ANOTHER moving box. with clothes.

I want a pat on the back (and a commiserating hug) bcs one of those was my Harvé Benard suit, that I found, and loved loved loved. But it's a size 10, and that's not coming around again. I kept it for sentimental reasons for a LONG time.

There's nothing in my closet! My husband is disturbed by this--"what will you WEAR?" he asked. The same 5 twill pants I always have, hanging in the center.

I don't think I've EVER been this ruthless in a closet-weeding session. A lot of it, though, there was just no question. It wasn't hard to ditch it, at all.

hooray, hooray!

I have an empty cabinet in the LR, that will not absorb the Imaginext stuff, so goodbye to those ugly big plastic bins sitting around in the corner, etc. Shelves are better for toys, anyway.

Comments (27)

  • marie26
    19 years ago

    Congratulations! I can't believe you did all that in just one day. Maybe that's the secret: being on a time schedule gives no time to rethink each item picked up.

    We took a car trip this weekend to see my dd and she purged her books and magazines as well. I came home with the box she put aside for me (lol).

  • talley_sue_nyc
    Original Author
    19 years ago

    I was amazed, too, Marie. I thought the books would take all day. The deciding made me dither, but actually, it went pretty fast. It helped that I tended to have "collection"--my Dick Francis mysteries, Margery Allingham, etc.

    So it was a matter of deciding whether to keep that AUTHOR. And when I decided to send Dick Francis to my mom (she asked), that was 41 books! Eliminating Ruth Rendell was worth 8.

    I called someone for both sessions--my mom during the books, and my old friend who helped me clean out LAST time during the closet. It helped a lot--didn't feel so lonely.

    Oh, I can't wait to go home tonight! (which is unusual--the place has been in such disarray, usually I don't want to GO there).

  • JanS
    19 years ago

    Hi Talley_Sue,

    Whoo Ray for you! Most excellent! You're inspiring me...

    I'm going to go thru my storage unit stuff after it get's delivered by the movers and then I can get it picked up by the city when our city does our Annual Spring Cleanup. I can't wait. I'll be $244 a month richer and I'll have the rest of my true junk purged. But I'm afraid I still have more to go when it comes to really purging all the way... But I'm getting there.

    I really need to go thru the boxes of books in storage... these were put there long before I got into the purging way.. The books that stayed (and didn't go into storage way beack when...) have been purged through already... But even those probably could stand some purging.

    I found a great organization around here that takes books. They even are very happy to get tech books, even if the topic is out of date (who wants a book on Cobol?) or if there's a newer edition of it out... I.e. Perl Programming...

    More and more to get rid of! And yeah more and more space :) and freedom from clutter :)

    Cheers and Congrats!!!!!
    --jans

  • Wendy_the_Pooh
    19 years ago

    Wow, Talley Sue! Throw some of that my way. I need to purge like crazy - an empty closet. Is that possible?!

    1. That's something. My great aunt will be 100 next week. We purged for her when she moved to an area of the nursing home that offers more care. I need someone to purge for me.
      A few months ago I threw away size 10 jeans that I loved the color of. That took about eight years to do.
  • talley_sue_nyc
    Original Author
    19 years ago

    no, no, no, don't get TOO excited--a half empty closet, and an empty cabinet.

    But both much needed.

    The next big hurdle will be to get rid of the fabric!

  • kittiemom
    19 years ago

    Talley Sue, that's great! Here's a hug & a pat on the back for getting rid of that suit.

    I'm off tomorrow, and I hope I can get half as much done as you. I think I'm going to work on either the hall closet or the sewing room. My craft supplies are one of my biggest problems right now. I like to do floral stuff & I have boxes & boxes of really nice silk flowers. I know I won't use all of them and if I need something in particular for a wreath I can go to Michael's. I guess it's just hard admitting that I'm not going to have time to do all those things.

    Greta

  • Denise_NZ
    19 years ago

    Wow - good job Talley Sue! Keep inspiring us :-)

  • jamie_mt
    19 years ago

    *Great* job!!! Congrats, and well done!! Sounds like you had a very productive day...you're going to smile when you look in that closet tomorrow morning!! :-)

  • joann23456
    19 years ago

    Oh, that must have felt wonderful. And good for you about being ruthless on your closet, but I feel for you about the suit. I have a tough time getting rid of good pieces that either don't fit or have gone hopelessly out of style. I kept a bunch of pleated skirts for 12 years, hoping they'd come back in style, before I donated them. Figured out later that pleated skirts aren't a good look if you've got hips!

    Congratulations on a well-spent day. I'm going to try to work on books this weekend.

  • alicesRestaurant
    19 years ago

    Wonderful! Sounds like you're really energized. Wish you could send some of that energy down here. I especially liked when you said you couldn't wait to go home! That is what this is all about, at least for me, having a home/haven that really brings you peace, pleasure, joy, etc.

  • bouncingpig
    19 years ago

    Great job Talley Sue! Perhaps you could be the star of a sequel movie, "Two Closets and a Funeral"! LOL! It sounds like you really got a lot accomplished. I have really found that the more of my clothes I get rid of the better I feel about my wardrobe. I know it sounds dumb, but really if you only keep what you really love or really fits good, you are more likely to actually look better most of the time! This truly is a "less is more" experience!

    Brenda

  • artmom
    19 years ago

    No, no, no, not the fabric! Well, maybe a little. LOL. Congrats. I know that must have been hard . Wow, an empty closet, hmmm. Brenda, you're a hoot.

  • shirleyinadirondacks
    19 years ago

    Man, Talley Sue, what a coup! It's funny how we keep stuff that we never will wear again. I've been trying to do that but---. You've given me a push.

    so proud of you
    shirley

  • talley_sue_nyc
    Original Author
    19 years ago

    Thanks! It was fun to open the closet this morning--in fact, yesterday, I stopped in to look at it.

    I could slide the clothes around, so I could take one off the hanger without disturbing the others.

    And I wore a jacket today! It's the one leftover from a suit--the pants wore out.

    I like this jacket--a nice boxy fit without being way trendy (and therefore out of date---this was pre-marriage!).

    But you know what? It's old colors! It used to match half of the shirts I owned, so it was a great thing to grab when I needed one--black pants, teal shirt, this jacket.

    I don't wear teal anymore--the shirts I used to wear w/ this have worn out or been outgrown (ahem). I wear soft colors--pinks and yellows (but oddly, not green or blue or coral), and true blue-green. Can I bring myself to get rid of it?

    The other thing that has happened is, the bumps are all in different spots. So stuff that *might* fit, or seems it ought to be the right size, won't.

    But I could SEE the suit jackets.

    There are way too many empty hangers still in the closet--but I'm thinking of keeping them, because they restrict how much I can slide the clothes around, and they keep me from thinking it's so empty--so I won't go fill it up with other stuff.

  • sus905
    19 years ago

    I laughed when I read that your husband had asked you what you would wear now...isn't it strange how a closet full of clothes gives us some type of security that we "do have" something to wear, when in reality if it doesn't fit or is not our current style it simply hangs there unworn? Go you!

  • trekaren
    19 years ago

    We did our bagging for Goodwill last week in our closet (still have DD's to do).

    And I have done the same thing!!! I have to keep stopping to look at my decluttered closet, and admire my work!!!

  • apoem
    19 years ago

    Good Job.
    I need to do my closet.
    Ginger

  • graywings123
    19 years ago

    You are an inspiration to me. it is amazing how much you can get done in a short time if you focus.

  • talley_sue_nyc
    Original Author
    19 years ago

    I've been reflecting on my experience ditching all that stuff, and I realized:

    Not one of those decisions was hard. In fact, I already *knew* I wanted to get rid of that stuff.

    So this declutting problems--having all the stuff that needed to go out--wasn't an emotional or decision-making problem. It was purely logistical.

    It takes *time* to declutter. And it takes *time* to deliver stuff to the donation spaces. Not having that time is what has been holding me back. I don't have any trouble being willing to get rid of stuff. I just have trouble carving out the time.

    It's been nice to be able to shove stuff to the side to get my coat out, etc.

    And I dressed up yesterday for a family party (celebrating a 25th anniv), which I haven't done in a while! All because I could *find* the clothes.

  • gina_in_fl
    19 years ago

    Low carb? Honest to God, haven't had a Rolaids or Tums that I used to keep in my pockets for a year, down 30#, and fit into clothes that I'd think a child should wear, not me!

    I'm purging the carbs!

  • mustangs81
    19 years ago

    Great job TS!

    I need to keep reinforcing that even if I could get back into the sz 10Âs I would feel foolish wearing the styles in public! I use to wear suits everyday; it's very hard to give away nearly new name brand suits even if they are 10-15 years old.

  • Wendy_the_Pooh
    19 years ago

    Excellent, Talley Sue!
    Mustangs, I also have trouble purging expensive, well-made suits. If they require tailoring, I don't want to have them tailored until I lose weight, which I am now (finally, but slowly).

  • cupofkindness
    19 years ago

    I am throwing away the large, brown felt silver liner from my beautiful Pennsylvania House side board. I don't own silver silverware, and as beautifully made as this object is, I haven't used it once in the ten years that I've owned this piece of furniture. It is still wrapped in plastic. Now I have somewhere to store my white porcelain Advent wreath and 10 new boxed sets of pink and purple Advent candles. I'm set, candle-wise, until 2014. Next year it will be so easy to find them, in the room where the Advent wreath is used. Yippee!

  • talley_sue_nyc
    Original Author
    19 years ago

    be sure those candles don't deform over the next many years.

    I laid my cylinders (thin, like tapers, but not tapered) on their sides in my wall unit drawer, and every one of them is bowed.

    And they're the only ones I can find that will fit in the candleholder I love so much.

  • alisande
    19 years ago

    You are an inspiration, Talley Sue!!!!

  • cupofkindness
    19 years ago

    Talley:

    Thanks for the advice about the candles. Since they have been laying down for a couple of years (I bought fifteen boxes after Christmas one year, I'm hoping they don't deform in the drawer. Sorry about your candles! My silver ware thingy is out in the trash can. I resisted the ruge to trim the large piece of brown felt from the top. Actually, it would be good for school diaramas. Oh well.

  • Plow_In
    19 years ago

    I was absolutely blocked in organizing the basement and garage because of 5 left-over metal cabinets. Yesterday my son came and put 3 out at the curb (they're from the 1940's)and shifted the 2 in the garage to the back wall (for storage). What a blessing! I can now organize (throw out?) both of these areas. My neighbor will be pleased, since half my garage stuff is over in his garage because of renovation at our house. I can see what my spring and summer will be like.