Jannie, let me add my voice of concern too. You are not physically able to continue with this situation as it now exists. You've got to have the time to completely heal and get your strength back. In addition, you must live in a clean and sanitary environment in order to avoid infection and sickness. That said, your husband's objections to pull ups, etc. really don't matter any more. There are all kinds of special mattress covers, special undergarments, etc. that you could buy. But the bottom line is that even with the best products, you'll still be stuck with a lot of cleaning and laundry. More than just normal loads. As his health deteriorates, you'll have even more to do. You must take action now. You really need some help in the house, and you should be investigating a nursing home. And, above all, you must take care of yourself. If you wear yourself out, then there won't be anyone to manage your husband's care. If you have help at home or he's placed in a skilled nursing facility, you may not be doing the care yourself, but you will be overseeing it. However, if you become ill or weakened, he'll be at the mercy of strangers. Maybe knowing that will help him realize he needs to cooperate with you.

Hi Heathen, Well, she used to tug really hard on my falling-down bladder and say "This is really falling down". DUH! I finally started telling her to be more gentle, but I wasn't paying attention this time, because we were talking, but I think she was a little rough........but I guess it doesn't take much. I've had urinary urgency and frequency for so long..........but last week, it was like every 15 minutes, or I'd be incontinent. Bummer!

It really sounds like your vet just does not know what is going on here, trying to siphon money from you or both. Like so many others, I have a dog that is on Proin. She had the same issues yours currently has, only it caused other issues with house training. You need to quiz your vet about the medication. Since you already have her on one, ask why it's not working. Educate yourself about spaying incontinence, Google has tons of information. For future medications, set a time limit. Ask the vet how long it will be before you start to see positive results. With Proin, it worked within about 6 hours. If positive results don't happen by the date, ask why. If your vet keeps changing meds, something is off and vet is just trying to find out what is going on while you and your dog suffer. BTW. You should educate yourself about urinary tract infections. I'm not saying it could happen to your dog, but it might. My dog has had three episodes of UTI, not fun for anyone involved. After much frustration, altering her diet (she is now on hypo allergic venison and potato) and my cleaning her "lady part" twice a day has kept it away for 7 months (thank you dog god). This is due to her vulva not extending properly, a common thing with dogs and urinary issues. Going the diet route and cleaning has saved tons of time, frustration and money. In my case it worked (so far, thanks again dog god). SG

My lab, Abby, developed spay incontinence at 1 year of age. She could leak any time, but it was generally something that occurred more when she was asleep. Definitely rule out an infection, then your vet will give you meds to control it. Though it's not common as far as I know, we used a human homeopathic product with Abby- it worked wonders. Abby was fat when she was young and we helped her lose weight to become a more normal size dog by around the time we started doing the homeopathy. I always wondered if being overweight added to the problem. GL.