i am menopausal at 53. I live with a 32 year old man. We do fine. Sex has many dimensions. First see what vitamins you need. Sometimes lack of energy is the problem. I do ten hour shifts at times, and I sleep a lot when that happens. Sex? I tell him to go do some porn. So jobs can just mess things up. Porn, by the by, can turn you on too if you take time to find what you like to hear and see. Trust me, its out there. Take time to get turned on if he won't do it. If he won't then maybe you need someone else. If he will, experiment. You are sex researcher Dr. Cocktease, and you are going to see what gets the nights hot. Play. make up stories. Fun is something that does wonders for everyone. Do different places. Do you have a yard or go camping? Tents can be fun. We set up one in our living room and played camping like kids once and had a great time. Consider that while the body might have problems (I have serious hip arthritis, for instance), the mind is the most important sex organ there is. Think about what made sex good in the past. Think about stuff you are intrigued by but never did. Imagine these things, find pics of them, watch videos if those are good. Read stories on the web or write ones of what you think would be the best sex night (a great candlelit bath with flowers, a nice night taking turns doing rubs, whipped cream on parts being licked off, pretend meeting for the first time somewhere, dirty talk, whatever) and make time to do them. Get with yout man and talk about it. If you have hope of seeing results, this can turn things around.

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Hello, all, thanks for the reply! Special thanks to over_n_under. Well, I did a list about what I want and what I've got in the marriage and gave it to my husband, then asked him to tell me what he wanted for life or in the marriage. He told me that he hoped that love could make us live peacefully together. I might have overstated his untidiness and indifference to me. I was mad at the moment. Well, he isn't that bad. He actually picks me up from the station every day, calls me to tell me to take care of myself. He also massages for me when I come back after work. What troubles me is his occational extremist acts. I was very depressed when he lost his temper again against a stranger, who raced the car on the road last week. He followed the person's car so closely that he scratches his car. Lucky they didn't have a fight. And then we had a dispute relating to his family, about his sister's old trick of generosity.He told me that he couldn't care less about my problem with his family. He didn't want to deal with them. And he didn't want to support me either. I was heartbroken so I told him that I wanted seperation and it upset him a lot. He told every one in his family that he hated them, then he left home at midnight and slept in the car outside his father's place. I emailed him and said that I only decided to leave because I couldn't put up with all the stuff any more. He replied and said that I was his only hope of life, he really loved me and he would have nothing if I left him. (I trust him on this although he doesn't have the ability to support me in terms of mediating for me and his family.) I stayed. He talked to me today and said that his biggest problem was the depression that he's suffering. He said that the depression comes and goes all the time, sometimes,he only saw the dark side of the world. And he told me that he's depressed because of his parents. Honestly, there is nothing I can do to his family. I talked to his mother once about my husband's problem. But she couldn't care less. She feels that it is all my fault that he has a bad relationship with the family. Well, his family is not good at communication, they would either fight or escape. Any suggestion about how to help my husband out of the depression. (Something other than seeing the consultants, he doesn't trust professionals. He talks to his friends sometimes, but he never speaks of his problems.) One good thing about our relationship is that we start to communicate again. Call me stupid, actually I am still in love with this man.

Adana, Hi. I have been coming to this forum for 4 years now and have posted several times about my menopause "journey". I was about to post tonight on my lack of libido in the hope that someone may have a suggestion.I'm getting to the end of my tether to be honest. Like you I take Vitamins D and B and I also take Vitamin E. These seem to have helped with a lot of the other symptoms of menopause but nothing is helping my non exsistant libido.It's been this way for at least 5 years.I can't believe my long suffering husband hasn't left me. He's only 45 (8 years younger than me) and he should have a healthy sex life. The thought of another year like this is depressing. I will be reading up on the L-tyrosine as I've never heard about it. I'm sorry I can't help but, knowing this forum as I do, there will be an answer from someone.