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Over active Libido..

vicki_Indiana
22 years ago

I have heard of losing your sex drive during menapause, but has anyone had an over active sex drive since entering menapause?

It is driving me crazy because, it doesn't seem normal to me. I mean, I have "always had an okay sex life, but nothing like this.. I have been worried because my poor hubby can't even keep up with me... I was just wondering if I am strange, or what??

Comments (51)

  • ripstone_erols_com
    22 years ago

    Are you sure your blood work indicates that you are fully in menopause. I went thru the over active libido about 4 years ago. At that time I was perimenopausal. So yes I would consider that normal then. Now, I am definately postmenopausal and the libido died. LOL. Just started the natural progesterone cream a few days ago in hopes of sparking something. Will keep you abreast of how it is going.

  • embrodry_wworld_com
    22 years ago

    Can you tell me where you get the natural progesterone?

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  • notaclone_yahoo_com
    22 years ago

    Seamer,
    You can get natural progesterone cream at just about any good health food store and also there are a variety sold over the internet. For example, some one just posted about Phytoproleif which is a natural progesterone cream. I have had good results with ProgestaCare, which I bought at a health food store. But I now use a prescription strength cream which I get from a compounding pharmacy. I believe that many ladies use and like a product called Progest.

  • vicki_Indiana
    Original Author
    22 years ago

    ripstone...
    Yes, I am in full bloom. That is what is weird. I have not had a period for 3 years now. That is WHY I thought it was weird. My doctor doesn't even act like he knows what the heck menapause is. Lol. The man acts stupid. Sometimes I think they shouldn't let men become doctors when they have to treat women, I mean, what could they POSSIBLY know about menapause that doesn't come from a book? :-)

  • vicki_Indiana
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    22 years ago

    Mo, I am so glad to hear that "someone" out there has this problem.. shhhhessh.. I was getting really worried about it. I can relate to the headache thing. My hubby should think he has died and went to heaven, but the poor man thinks he's gone to he$$ !! I feel so bad for him. I guess that is what reversal of roles is like. Now he knows how I felt before, and I know how HE felt! ha..ha..

  • anifani4_rochester_rr_com
    22 years ago

    For the sake of accuracy, I want to say that Phytoprolief is not a simple progesterone cream. It contains phytoestrogens also. I know several women on the forum have found it to be wonderful, but it is not the same as progesterone cream.

  • mo_worknomailplease_com
    22 years ago

    Vicki,
    I'm in perimenopause, I wonder if that makes a difference? I Do hope this continues though. After so many years of low to no libido, I'm am enjoying this - most of the time anyway. And you are so right! now I know how DH felt when I had "headaches!"

  • potato59_yahoo_com
    22 years ago

    When i first went into perimeno in 97, i too had an overactive libido, my boyfriend (husband now) broke up with me because he thought i was a nympho. After a year went by, my libido went completely dead! He got back with me then...lol...now i have absolutely NO desire whatsoever for sex..and he is so frustrated and disappointed...matter of fact he says often, "cindy lets pray that God will restore your libido" hahahahahha

  • notaclone_yahoo_com
    22 years ago

    Your comments explain something that happened to me in February. My libido has been low to non-existant for over 6 years. I have had perimenopausal symptoms for about 3 years. For a while I was having periods every 14 to 21 days and then I skipped a couple of months. Last January, I had some hormone level tests and my FSH and LH levels registered post-menopausal so I figured that I was over the hump and wouldn't be having any more cycles. I started using Progest-Care cream daily to help with the hot flashes. Because I was feeling so tired all the time I started taking St. John's Wort (3X daily), Ginko Biloba, multi-vitamins and licorice root. I took the licorice root both for its phytoestrogenic properties and because it tends to raise blood pressure. I have low blood pressure causing me to feel tired almost all the time. Perimenopause made my energy level even lower. About 30 days after starting this regime, I experienced a sudden and dramatic rise in libido!! It felt like circuits that had been shut off for years were suddenly back on again. In my whole life I had never experienced anything like it. It was like I was in heat. My husband was shocked because he didn't know what make of it. He accused me of being an alien in his wife's body. I thought it was the progesterone cream and maybe the herbs that made the difference. I was delighted because I thought I had found the cure. Unfortunately, this wonderful state lasted only 3 days. Then it was gone just as suddenly as it appeared. Two weeks later my periods started again.

    In retrospect, I think what probably happened was that I had some kind of hormonal surge. Maybe my ovaries kicked in again or something. I only wish I had some hormone levels done during that 3 day period. I'd gladly take whatever was necessary to duplicate that feeling again. I've tried the same combination of herbs and vitamins, but to no avail. Whatever it was, it is gone and probably will never be back again. If your libido is at an all time high right now, you are very lucky.

  • beegee_australiamail_com
    22 years ago

    Anne's right about PhytoProlief but the company (Arbonne) also make Prolief which is progesterone cream without the phytoestrogens.

    Good health
    Barbie

  • moqui51_hotmail_com
    22 years ago

    Me too! Thanks goodness I am not the only one. When my periods stopped my libido picked up. When they started again it dropped off. I am sure it is related. Can't wait to see what my Dr. will have to say about all this. LOL Probably not much.

  • notaclone_yahoo_com
    22 years ago

    Susan,
    That little episode of over-active libido I had, also took place when I had skipped a couple of periods. Unfortunately, my little episode only lasted for 3 days. Then my libido was gone again and 2 weeks later, my periods started up again. I didn't make the connection until you just mentioned it. Now I too wonder if the lack of periods and pick up in libido are related. If your doctor provides any insight, please pass it on.

  • kruwil_yahoo_ca
    22 years ago

    I can only say: LUCKY YOU!!! enjoy it.
    I don't have any libido left...hoping one day it will be back.

  • moqui51_hotmail_com
    22 years ago

    I am keeping a notebook for my Dr. and will let everyone know what he or she says. I am getting a new Dr. this year. They will probably think I am nuts as I have been keeping a daily record of all my changes in one of those little book calendars. This time when they ask what my symptoms are....I am ready!

  • notaclone_yahoo_com
    22 years ago

    If I ever have one of those nympho attacks again I am going straight to the doctor to have my hormone levels determined. Then I am going to do whatever it takes to put them at and keep them at that level for good!!!

  • jan_pbol_net
    22 years ago

    I have been through menopause and am 55 years old. When I went through it, I lost ALL my sex drive and I had a good one before. It was really terrible. Just lately I have started taking a compounded HRT from a pharmacy over the internet. It contains natural estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. If you want your sex drive back, I believe it is the testosterone that did it. I had tried Premarin & Provera before with no results.
    Jan

  • AfricanQueen_hotmail_com
    22 years ago

    Hi,
    Interesting topic. I am in menopause, 46 years...I have had some really hard times and I also suffer from a chronic hypothyroid deficiency.
    Butttt, my libido was wonderful, absolutely magnificent, until my doc/gyno placed me on a very low dose of HRT. Now my libido is dead or almost but other aspects of my life has greatly improved...no more anxiety attacks, depression has subsided a bit...well you know the rest.
    Thing is my HRT seemed to have required that I give up something to pay these dues.

  • fransan1_eznet_net
    22 years ago

    I had a hysterectomy in my 30's. Went for several years without homone replacement. My Libido was good - but after the hysterectomy I began having terrible mood swings. Finally, after 3 years the Doc gave me estrogen 1.25. I think the higher dosage worked better for me than the .625 I am now taking, which is because it is best to take a lower dosage than a higher one. Estrogen has done nothing to increase my libido. I have been on Estrogen for 13 Years. I wanted to go off it (was worried about health risks) but the Doc I have now said to keep taking it since it is such a low dosage and there are more benefits in taking it than not. I can say that I do feel better taking it - no hot flashes, sleep better at night, and my moods are more even. I have regular mammograms and have not cervix, so the risk of cancer is not real big - although who knows....
    I have also taken Estratest (Estrogen/Testosterone). No change in my libido - only grew more hair above my lip. Of course I only took it for one month. I talked to my Doc about Libido. He said some it is a state of mind. I don't know about this, but I can tell you having a hysterectomy made my life a mess. The mood swings, the weight gain, lack of libido, skin dryness, bone aches, etc., etc. Since my husband had a vasectomy when he was 40, I never had to worry about pregnancy, so the hysterectomy was purley for endometriosis and fibroids. I can say that through all of this, if I could have avoided a hysterectomy, I would have - it may stop periods, but it is not good for the body. If it can be avoided, then it should be done. Estrogen was the culprit for my Endrometriosis and Fibroids. After giving birth to my daughter, for some reason the Estrogen in my body went wild and all kinds of things (like the fibroids - size of an orange) were growing, which I understand feed off of estrogen. It's a funny thing - I was making too much estrogen which caused havoc in my body, now I need to have it or I don't feel complete. Anyways, if anyone has an answer on this Libido thing, I'd like to know about it. Thank God my husband is a very understanding man - and patient.

  • dlsmithesq_hotmail_com
    22 years ago

    JunePlum,

    Am wondering what type of Hrt you use and how long you havev been on it.

    DLS

  • AfricanQueen_hotmail_com
    22 years ago

    Hi Deborah,
    I am taking a 2-phase medication. The first phase of 11 tablets contains: 1mg Estradiolvalerat, 2mg Estriol.
    The second phase of 10 tablets contains: 1mg Estradiolvalerat, 2mg Estriol, 0,25mg Levonorgestrel.
    After which there is a 7day pill pause which brings on my period.

  • AfricanQueen_hotmail_com
    22 years ago

    Oh, I forgot to add that I am now on my 4th packet. So I have only been taking it 3mths now. Started the 4th packet this morning.

  • carolyn_mary
    22 years ago

    I envy you women with those over active libidos ! Mine disappeared about three years ago,or more and even though I've been using natural progesterone for three years it has never returned.
    Incidentally, someone mentioned ProGest. I went on that for a while and found my menopausal symptoms returned. Then I found this quote: Many "popular creams" sold today contain little or no Progesterone USP. Notice the following quote from The Lancet Medical Journal, Vol 351, No 9111:

    'Each 2 oz (57g) pot of ProGest cream contains 200mg of progesterone...."

    This assay was done on tubes of ProGest cream purchased by mail over a period of 5 months ! '

    So after reading that I changed to Serenity, which is also a cream recommended by Dr. John Lee. That has been much better, and also has a use-by date on it. I was always suspicious when I received my ProGest mail order from the USA - it never had a use-by date on it, and as I live in New Zealand I felt I might have been being fobbed off with old stock.

    Serenity hasn't brought my libido back though, although it deals with my tendency to dizziness, poor concentration, hot flushes, depression, etc. etc. Boy, I got the lot !

  • dlsmithesq_hotmail_com
    22 years ago

    JUne,

    For your info, I have used femHRT since March 2001......Since June, I began taking it every other night. I have not noticed a decrease/increase in libido....so far, my libido is still healthy and intact.

    DLS

  • rabrams_waveseker_com
    22 years ago

    Just a theory....I too experienced this for about a month while I was very perimenopausal

    I wonder if there is a relationship between the elevated folical stimulating function on the ovaries and the sensation of increased sex desire. I noticed that when I was feeling a lot of ovary sensation that it was frequently consistent with my other feelings.

    Like I said....jsut a theory

  • ShanKG54_aol_com
    22 years ago

    Hi Robin,
    It would seem to me that those of you who are still ovulating or at least have a monthly increase in the hormones that stimulate ovulation would have an increase in desire during those times. It's only natural, our body's way to try and get pregnant. I remember having much more desire mid-cycle during my menstrual days... But, it's been awhile. Wish I had an overactive libido!

  • lablady
    22 years ago

    I am also in perimenopause and went through 2 brief periods of increased libido. Both came after I had skipped one or more periods and both came during ovulation time. They only lasted about 3 days. I know the medical world is pushing this testosterone thing, but testosterone didn't work for me and I think there is a lot more to the story.

  • skyblueday
    16 years ago

    Hi everyone,

    I'm glad I'm not alone in this over active libido thing. I swear it is going to drive me insane, it makes me want to reach in and grab those ovaries and pull em out. The doctor says if I have the ovaries removed I won't feel this way. See, I was forced into menapause because I had to have Chemo last year. I now take medicine which reduces estrogen in my body. I'm 43, so it's a little early to be in menapause. I can't wait till these symptoms go away because they can last for hours, days, and sometimes weeks!

  • gayahmaharaj_msn_com
    12 years ago

    I lost all drive when I was 50 and menopause was beginning. Had all the usual symtpoms: hot flashes, memory issues, moods, dry as a bone, no libido, periods becoming sporatic. The hot flashes drove me to seeking treatment. I went on bio-identical hormones troche form. It took about a year to get the dose adjusted to ease the hot flashes and moods. Est, progest, test. Things got better except for the libido. I'm about to turn 54 now.

    Well, 3 weeks ago, I started weight training and fairly intense cardio -45 mins aday. Almost immediately, I am thinking about sex all the time and ready to do it at the drop of a hat. My husband is in heaven. Things are hotter than they've ever been!! I am wondering if I am getting too much testosterone. Would hate to grow a beard! It's just so dramatic. I guess I should get my levels checked. One theory that I am considering is that the intense exercise is releasing seratonin and endorphins and making me to absorb the bio-identical hormones better. That's just my theory. The increased libido occured immediately when the muscle building and cardio workouts began, so I feel sure there is a link, but I'm not knowledgeable about such things.

    Ladies, give it a try. It's absolutely electrifying. Less fat, more muscle, and lots of sex is the fountain of youth!

  • kmfit_yahoo_com
    12 years ago

    I am 44 and experiencing changes in my menstrual cycle but nothing too dramatic yet. I am however very active and very fit. My sex drive was close to nothing for the most part of my life but over the last ten years it has been on a steady rise. Now at 44 I am enjoying a wonderful and active sex life with a some what younger man for the past 4 years. Unfortunately, the emotional side to an intense and active sex life is daunting at times. I am not sure if these feelings maybe related to a perimenapausal condition/hormone imbalance? I really enjoy everything about my current life and sex life accept the emotional side effects of having a big libido.

  • furmmoms_yahoo_com
    12 years ago

    I am so glad to hear I am not the only one! I am definitely post menopasual, hormone levels were tested 9 years ago, and until this past January, didn't bother me at all, little to complain about. But now, all I can do is think about getting laid, the problem is, I divorced several years ago and really am not seeing anyone; but still have this urge which grabs me without any notice or outside stimulation. I really should have bought stock in duracell.... LOL.

  • crimsonjam
    11 years ago

    I am 43 and haven't had my hormone levels checked and maybe I should, but for the past week my libido has been in serious overdrive! My husband doesn't know what to think! He will probably have to get something to help him keep up with me if this continues! Whatever the cause, I just hope it sticks around because I am loving it! :)

  • Katalyst1128
    10 years ago

    I am 28 years old and had my tubes tied about 10 years ago. I feel that I may be going through early menopause. However, my libido is going crazy! I think about sex all day, every day. I also dream about it. Here is my problem, my husbands libido is nearly nil. What can I do to either get him to have sex with me more, or find a way so I don't think about sex all the time. It kills me. I try to do things to remedy the horniness I feel all the time, but to no avail. What can I do to fix this?? Please Help!

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    9 years ago

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  • sajones56
    9 years ago

    ihick3 ... you lucky girl! i was like that in my 40s during perimenopause, but when the final phase hit when i was, my libido started waning, and now at 58, i've basically had no libido for a few years now. I can achieve orgasm but it just feels like a muscular exercise ... just not the same.

  • alexoverlock63
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    I get it my husband is scared to death of me I am now 45 and the last year it is great for me but he is not sure how to take me .He even went so far to ask his co workers it they heard of any thing like this that a women would want sex more then a man .He said they wish there wifes and girlfriends were like that and he should enjoy it . that what I told him So I am enjoying while it last mood swings aint great but sex more than makes up for it .

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    Before menopause, the ovaries make estrogen and the brain gets harder of hearing and can't sense the right amount in the blood so the ovaries just make more trying to be heard. I loved those high estrogen times. I had so much energy and could do hard physical work all day long. Enjoy it while it lasts ladies.

  • annieclifton55
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    I am so glad I found this website because I have been fighting the urge lately and I haven't been with a man for 20 years. It wasn't a choice, I didn't feel the need after my husband passed. He left something that sustained me for those 20 years but don't know what,and I didn't feel the need. I feel like a dog in heat at 65. When my husband was alive, we were 7 days a week together and more on the weekend. Trying to restrain myself because I don't just want to get involve with someone only for sex and what they may have but I have to at this point fight the feeling and it's hell. Glad that I'm not alone.

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    hello ladies here is some info for you there is a site that a lady can help you a little more look up SEX SURGE the lady who wrote is very helpful and knows her stuff her name is Joanna Meriwether she has her own web site and you will can email her and ask questions and she will get back to you personal .She sends out emails to everyone on her mailing list to let everyone know what is going on and what we should expect next with our body changes .As I said very helpful .give her a try I am sure you will find her very helpful for you . hope this helps . veronica

  • Cathy Deevey
    7 years ago

    I had the same experience. Hysterectomy at 38 for endometriosis. I always had a fantastic libido, then a year after the surgery, bam! Gone. Mood swings, the works. Now at 57, my libido is returning in spurts, but this last week or so, the intensity of the sensitivity and arousal is in insane, and I'm loving it. I just hope it lasts, or is a sign of good things to come. It's been more than 3 days this time, and it's like being a teenager all over again. Yay for things to come!

  • Toni Vallely
    7 years ago

    Ok...about 4 months ago i went into high gear....im 46 and my husband and i are having the best sex in our 26 year marriage.its always been good but nothing like this...multiple orgasms and very passionate...one problem...i cant get enough and my poor husband works 80 hours a week.i can have great sex in the morning and by evening im thinking up ways to get down aand dirty again.its becoming consuming and i just want to be normal......help

  • annieclifton55
    7 years ago

    Toni I know what you mean. I'm still fighting the feeling to the point of a little depression (life-long battle). Now I understand why some women can have a one-night stand. I've thought about it because I've never had one and then I have these thought of the aftermath consequences and then I'm back to the state of resistance. Guess I'll continue to fight until I encounter that person for me and then comes the waiting period - oh well, I wish everybody the best in the libido uprising.

  • jeannie686
    7 years ago

    Omg this has just happened to me and at first my husband was happy and so was I but now this uncontrollable sex drive is scaring me.


    I dont know what worries me more....going on like this or losing it all together

    My info

    39

    Hysterectomy 2 years ago...left ovaries in

    Been in menopausal levels for 4 years


  • oakkpm25
    7 years ago
    last modified: 7 years ago

    Thank you all!! I've been wondering what the hell is going on with me. I'm 52 and my body started changing a year ago. I also can't seem to get enough sex. It is getting worse (or better, depending on your perspective). My husband doesn't even want to kiss me anymore, likely fearful of the consequences. Reading these posts has made me realize I need to take advantage of the situation while it's here. We are only on this earth for a period of time and our sexuality is one of the greater things this life brings us. Enjoy ladies!

  • El 919
    7 years ago

    Whew! What a relief to read all your posts. I couldn't figure out WHAT was up with me. I'm single and 57 - and suddenly, out of nowhere --- all this sexual stuff is like taking over my life. It's great to read all the posts here --- "enjoy" is a good bit of advice. Though alone, I still have lots of very satisfying sex -- just not with partners. Another very great bit of advice I read elsewhere regarding hormones: they come and go but the consequences of bad choices remain. Well, I'm going to try to feel less guilty about this insane sexual burst. It'll feel peaceful when it's gone but for now, it's just a gift from the gods I guess. Amazing orgasms and filthy fantasies. I have to keep telling myself I'm not hurting anyone and aside from the fact that it's a bit of a time waster -- it's not hurting me either. There are worse things I could be doing with my time. What's kind of funny is how uncomfortable people are with sexuality in an older woman. I guess we're all used to the 'dirty old man' but there is no female equivalent... except I guess for Mrs. Robinson. Coo Coo Ca Choo Mrs. Robinson!

  • judyann
    7 years ago

    I'M SO THANKFUL to have found others with this affliction!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Dee Moore
    7 years ago

    I can't believe I had to Google what I did to get here. I'm assuming I am post menopausal. I haven't had a period for almost 10 years but when I was tested is was not menopause. Btw I am 51. I can't remember what it was but a few doses of estrogen started it again but only for couple months I repeated that regimine twice before just not doing it. I liked not having a period. Fast forward 10 years I am now there however I have not had sex of any kind for 18 years. Last year I finally went into hiding from an abusive husband to whom I refused sex to for the beatings. I left him several times during my marriage but the criminal justice system let me down. He has never spent a day in jail for his crimes against me. I can't tell you what it would feel like to sit in a courtroom and hear the judge order him to anger management classes again. Which cost $50 a week so he would be waiting outside the courtroom when I would leave he would walk up and put his arm around me and tell me how bad I was gonna hurt for costing him that money. I am free now and I am suffering the worst case of horniness imaginable. I can't get anything to work and I am in tears. I don't want a man with what I have been through I just want it to stop. I am doing things in my sleep. I have to keep my nails cut off. I was in the women's shelter for abused women before getting on my feet but I can't afford doctors anymore. I left with nothing to escape it including health insurance and I walk with a limp and my face is scarred with a cheap snap on smile for the broken teeth so this is something I cannot understand and I do think men know. I assure I don't flirt or dress provactively but I am hit on all the time. My only urge is to cut their penis off and take it with me. I sure don't want the rest of them. I'm not functioning well and I have had more serious medical issues that I did get to see a doctor for those things and yes I mentioned it. For my other medical issuers the doctor said no hormones that I should give into it that it was the healthiest thing to do. What kind of crap is that? He knew what happened to me Because he stitched me up enough. He wrote a letter to the court but nothing put my husband in jail. He gave my mother a heart attack on Christmas day. He terrorized my family. So I just can't let a man touch me so I am begging to know what there is that I can do. I'm sure it would be a blessing if I had had a good man . it's too late for that now

  • Dawn
    6 years ago

    A few weeks ago my sex drive has started to go through the roof.. shortly after it started I had my first period in 6 yrs. I started organic soy based meal replacements 4 years ago to combat the mood swings and hot flashes and its worked great! I think this may have something to do with it but since I've cut down on them in recent months I'm not sure. Will be talking to my doc soon about this to make sure all is OK, but in the meantime I've given my bf some maca to keep up. Although I'm not sure why my libido is in overdrive, I have helped many combat the ravages of menopause. I don't mind ageing gracefully, but I find nothing graceful about menopause and plan to slow it down as much as I can.

  • HU-322561605
    5 years ago

    It is not a joyful thing for me. As an Old Maid, I find having this raging libido to be incredibly frustrating. Like judyann said, it is hard to focus and for me there is no outlet except masterbation. I have been highly aroused for about three weeks now. I am looking for anything that can cut it back, even a little. Suggestions?

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