I'm very sorry for all that's going on in your life, and your anxiety. You have a lot on you, and taking care of yourself needs to be a priority. Please be kind to yourself with special treatments, such as massage and other pampering. I could write a chapter on dealing with complicated grief/anxiety/depression and the drugs that my doctors prescribed, etc. that didn't work for me due to the side effects. I'm very sensitive to drugs and even with something like Excedrin Migraine, can take only half a dose. Wellbutrin caused scary muscle weakness in my thighs and upper arms. I couldn't go up stairs without huffing and puffing (and I usually run up stairs). It made me feel as though I were having a heart attack. Zoloft didn't lift me up at all. Anyway, I now have Trazadone 50mg to take, as needed, if I'm feeling overly anxious in the evening, before bedtime. My doctor would like for me to take it daily, but I can't handle it daily, due to the morning hangover. I take it probably 1-2 times per month and try to calm myself in other ways...including, reaching for sweets, when I shouldn't! Hugs.

We are about to do a kitchen remodel and our red wood hard floors that are in the main living room, hallway and bedrooms will be carried through in the new kitchen. I don't like the red, orange or pink hue in red oak, but I need to make the best of it. I'm looking at all the pictures posted from 2 years ago and wondering how everyone is liking their floors. We are wanting to go light, to give a white oak look, but everything we see is too pick. We may just pick a medium brown, but not sure what color is best. Any thoughts or recommendations on either? We need to make decisions soon. Any tips would be appreciated!

Actually, the mantle is too high which makes the mirror seem too high. I'd move the mirror to the left, on the wall behind the table lamp. (not too high. about 5' from floor to CENTER of the mirror is proper height) for the fireplace, I'd do some nice art, and maybe one or two items on the mantle see if you can lower the mantle a bit (or, better yet, get a solid piece of wood that spans the entire width) (of course it would be straight. I tried to straighten out you picture as best I could) or, if you want to do similar style blk/white art, try this^ The other issue that catches my eye are the curtains. you don't have enough of them. While the height is fine, the width is not. I'd do a longer rod that extends at least another foot past the window. See that large bare right side? (I assume the left is similar?) you want the curtains to cover at least another foot of wall. I'd also remove those baby blue because it just doesn't look great next to that mauve sofa. Do something in a sheer soft white or gray or subtle print. like these. see how they go past the edge of the window? also makes the window appear larger. I think something like these simple soft white would be perfect. See? I like much better in the soft white or gray. don't like the blue panels. this white/gray one is nice too and would look better w/your fireplace. (do you have window trim around that window? hard to tell. if not, try some) again, soft white, and notice how they are bunched. with what you have, you need at least 4 more panels (2 more on each side) I like this white a lot better. you could also hang a little frame in that bare spot to the right like they've done here.

We had to go the Prozac route with our Gabby Mayhem, she had some kind of anxiety with peeing, to the point that she was holding it (then it would concentrate) and then it would hurt when she went. So then the litter box (in her mind) was the devil making it hurt, so she'd find other creative places to try to pee comfortably. We were at our wit's end and finally tried the drugs, and it had an almost immediate effect. We kept her on it for a couple of months, and then she kinda told us she was done and didn't need it anymore. She started acting more and more lethargic, so we knew it was time, she had just lost some of her Gabby-ness. We weaned her off, and she's doing great! If you do end up going that route, ignore all the info saying you can't mask it and have to give it by pilling them. I got a small stainless mortar & pestle and would grind it to a powder, and mix it in Almo nature tuna and sardines, and she ate every bit, no problem. (Regular canned tuna in water worked too.) We tried the feliway collars and they didn't work.