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Posted by findingmyway (My Page) on Sat, Jan 3, 09 at 12:18
| Ok, I'm 44 (will be in less than 2 weeks) and periods are so bad dr put me on the pill which I take 6 months straight. Worked great for a year but now I get my period anytime even while taking the pill. Crying all the time, worried about everything, cant focus and irrational. Last night I scared the hell out of everyone when I laid into my 16 year old daughter for not calling to tell me where she was! Ended up sobbing my apology and not knowing who was looking back at me from the mirror. Help!I can't live this way! I have a stressful job, travel, 3 kids, hubby. Question, can I try estrogen cream even while on the pill?? |
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| Wow, you have a lot on your plate! My Mom never "laid into me" about a lack of communication. (Dad did, though!) I think you're beating yourself up about this, really. A sixteen year old, boy or girl, has a ratio of maximum mobility / minimum responsibility + general unconsciousness about long-term consequences: the combo can make it possible to make some really big mistakes that only a mother can imagine. Your daughter should have called. Add on to that you have a stressful job, two other children, and a husband. You answer to a lot of people. You sound overwhelmed. You sound a little depressed (this coming from someone who just remembered to take her meds today!) You should see a doctor if you're bleeding anytime, that's not right. It may be a relatively easy fix, too. 44 isn't early for menopause. But you may have several years of perimenopause, where your hormones fluctuate and add to the mood swings. And good for you for apologizing. I had great parents, but one thing they didn't do very often was admit mistakes. Yeah, I needed some role modeling on that. |
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| Thanks Eva555. You're right, too hard on myself. I'm on Lexapro which helps the depression, but working on the wierd mood swings which I think when menopause hits, nothing can touch! Glad to know I'm not alone on taking meds. One day at a time I've found is best. |
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| I myself have always been a little sarcastic. Well, maybe a lot sarcastic. The difference in menopause is the degree. The good news is, for me, that once I started having fewer periods, the pms backed off, a lot. A very good thing for me, even better for those around me. Other women, with pms, seem to feel they can't do anything right. When I had pms, nobody else could do anything right. It's a burden, you know, being the only competent person around... So I'm down to having very light spotting, two to five months apart. I no longer carry the burden of being the only competent person around. But I'm still pretty sarcastic. I may mellow with age. If you see your Dr. about the bleeding, (and you should) ask about whether your depression meds ought to be tweaked a bit. I was on fluoxetine for years, and it worked well. This past summer though, it wasn't working so well, and Dr. switched me to a different medication. Still generic, so it's $10 for three months almost anywhere. I had spells of heavy bleeding, and although it resolved itself on its own, the doctor and ob-gyn had a game plan in case it didn't. |
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